The first chapter Cultivation of their own from the inside out
- Compared to a few tricks to achieve through relationships or some other something, morality is very important, because the only change behavior and attitudes on the surface, but ignored as a source mindset, then change the effectiveness of certain limited.
- Changing the mindset in order to make life a fundamental change occurs.
- Principle-centered, character-based, and outside to achieve personal effectiveness and interpersonal effectiveness from the inside. From the inside out means that from yourself, and even more thoroughly some of his heart from the start, including their own mindset, moral integrity and motives.
- We must not cease from exploration, and the end of all exploration, is to return to the starting point, and has for the first time as the starting point of understanding.
- We have wanted to change the status quo of their own ideas, but sometimes we will be more inclined to change the surface, such as for a overweight affect the health of the people, the people around him will tell you to take more exercise, eat greasy food to achieve weight loss goals, but if he just started to move people in accordance with the recommendations, but in his mind he did not maintain a normal weight feel how important this is what we are talking about here through a number of small skills or simply change the actions and attitudes of the surface, if the person he did not feel from the heart, normal weight, healthy body, a balanced diet and exercise habits is very important, so that sooner or later he would become overweight unhealthy the man, also known as palliative. Only change our minds from thinking, our actions and attitudes will be long-lasting health change it, of course, here we did not mention moral influence, we are here simply describes the one hand you want to change from their own the first step should do is ideologically began to change from the inside.
- We usually will have this feeling in life, we always want to find a shortcut to achieve our objective, we hope we can finish quickly and efficiently thing, we will ask others, search the Internet, we have access to a variety of each kind of "skills" and "means" we use them in life, to get some good results, but over time, these "skills" and "means" start does not work, we gradually found that these " skills "and" means "just because when ideological change at the root of the heart made of, only to change the root causes, make some changes from our most basic principles and our personal qualities, we will automatically do those we call the "skills" and the "means."
Chapter Seven Habits Overview
- The field of personal success:
Active to the beginning of the end, things first
- Public areas of success:
A win-win thinking, awareness has the solution, a comprehensive synergy, as well as constantly updated
- Habit of knowledge, skills and willingness to make up, what knowledge means that do, why to do, how to do finger tips, and refer willingness to want to do.
- Output to maintain balance and capacity (can be applied to interpersonal relationships, school life)
- Popular, which is the balance between short-term interests and long-term goals, is the balance between good grades and hard work, it is the essence of the principle of effectiveness.
Chapter III a habit: proactive
It refers not only to act in a proactive manner, also means that people must be responsible for their own life. Personal behavior depends on their own choice, rather than external environment, human beings should have to create a favorable external environment of enthusiasm and sense of responsibility.
- When confronted with different stimuli, you are not only passively to bear, you are free to choose to respond.
( "Unless you want to, otherwise no one can hurt you." - Eleanor Roosevelt)
- Not hurt us the tragedy itself, but we respond to the tragedy of
( "Unless the hand over, otherwise no one can deprive us of our self-esteem" - Gandhi)
- Yesterday I decided today I choose
Focus on the "circle of influence", that is, those of our concerns can be our control, concentrate on doing their own things within its power, the core circle of influence is to make a commitment to keep its capacity commitment, proactive nature and the clearest manifestation of this is to have committed themselves or others, then never go back.
For those errors, we must immediately recognized and corrected.
Control of two ways of life: First, make commitments and keep its promises; the second is to set goals, and put into practice.
Commitment is the essence of growth. Self-consciousness and conscience of talent allows us to self-examination and found that with improvement, to be played by the potential benefits and disadvantages to overcome, then imagination and independent will of talent with self-awareness will help us make a commitment, set goals , determined to reach.
To find the problem on himself, make a commitment to comply
Chapter IV Habit 2: Begin with the End
With your goal in life as a standard measure of all, that is the most important personal expectations or value to everything. Bear in mind their mission or goal, you can be sure of doing a routine with them is not poles apart, and all efforts toward this goal, nose to the grindstone every day.
Before doing anything, you must first understand the direction. The mind should always keep in mind: I hope that every day what kind of person to become, what priority Yes.
Everything is made to create twice, first conceived in the mind, and then put into practice.
Establish clear center of life: the principle-centered. Keeps you calm and objective, without interference from emotional and other factors, the overview of the situation (job needs, family needs, as well as other relevant factors may be the consequences of different decisions, make the right choice after careful consideration).
The implementation of self-leadership is not just to write a mission statement on the line, it is to establish a vision and values, and to make their lives follow the course of these important principles.
- Mind exercises and confirm:
Be sure to include five factors: personal, positive, decisive, impressive, emotional
Carried out under various scenarios of life spiritual exercises, persistent constant practice, so vivid detail, clear picture, you will complete a clear definition, I will not be afraid when faced with this scenario, strange.
Chapter V Habit 3: Put first things first
- To achieve the first two habits, execute and natural to us. It requires us to use independent will strive to achieve a goal, that is principles-based arrangements for life.
For the loser of the winners can not be, even if not willingly, but for the ideals and objectives, we can still overcome with perseverance psychological barriers to overcome this mentality must first have a clear vision and mission, have a habit II expressly life direction and values, have a burning passion inside so that they are saying "no" to all other unrelated things. Overcome this psychological need to have an independent will, for their willingness to whom does not want to do, can do and always adhere to their own specific values at a particular time, do not succumb to impulse and desire.
Time management is the most important thing is how to distinguish between priorities and organizational capacity-building
The fourth generation of time management method Six
Harmony: personal ideals and mission, roles and objectives, focus and planning, between desire and self-control, to be in harmony.
Balancing function: to take into account different roles, namely the balanced development of the swordsman, family, important aspects of life, personal development.
Around the center: focus, though not urgent but very important things, one week to plan for the period of 7 days have different priorities every day, but the same basic 7, echoed the trick is in accordance with the importance of the event itself to arrange the act .
People-oriented: acting course, efficiency, but the principle-centered people pay more attention to the pros and cons of interpersonal relationships. Therefore, the effective management of individuals occasionally have to sacrifice efficiency, accommodate human factors.
Flexible: depending on personal style and need to be adjusted.
Easy to carry: portable management tool available for ready reference correction.
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