Highly Effective People The Seven Habits of reading notes

A proactive: the principle of personal vision

1. Proactive means between stimulus and response there is freedom of choice, choose to respond the way for a particular environment, the initiative to create an enabling environment, passive people tend to be restricted external environment, waiting for fate.

2. Active circle of influence to concentrate on, concentrate on doing whatever thing; the passivity of those who focus on environmental issues and the scope of things beyond their ability to find excuses for negative behavior, allow themselves to be subject to external conditions.

3. Proactive people change their habits, tools and ideas to solve three problems: directly addressed, indirectly solve, can not solve the problem, not to force things and take it easy, to be able to grasp things go all out.

4. For error response will affect what happens next moment, proactive person to admit mistakes and correct lessons.

5. To concentrate on the circle of influence, do someone else's candle lit and not judge right or wrong of the judge, to lead by example rather than pick the wrong one mind, solve problems and not create trouble.

Summary: Proactive people more say in life, "I can ......" "I do ......", "I can ......" rather than "I hope ......" "If you like ......" , which is to focus on things that can be controlled, the initiative to create an environment conducive to their development, instead of complaining, always looking for an excuse.

Second Begin with the End: the principle of self-leadership

1. To do anything when they have to understand the direction, to avoid going astray, to life goals as the measure of all standards.

2. Anything after the second creation: the idea and practice (life is second to create)

3. Self-leadership VS self-management: the former is the right thing to do, is to create for the first time, decided values ​​orientation, which is doing things right, belonging to the second creation.

4. If only just concentrate on concern circle, abstract addicted to seek the meaning of life is to give up their responsibilities, despite the environment, and others masters of their own destiny.

5. Right brain development - to broaden thinking (thinking outside the box, role reversal) and spiritual exercises

6. The most effective way is to develop "personal mission statement."

Summary: Life is a secondary process of creation, we need to have our own core values, after the idea in mind, it is best to develop "personal mission statement," to do anything to keep in mind their core mission in life continue to practice it, in order to complete the creation of secondary goals in life.

Three first events: the principle of self-management

1. Willing to do for themselves do not want to, stick to their values ​​at a particular time, do not succumb to impulse and desire.

2. We must not shirk the urgency of the matter, the important things related to the target, conducive to achieving personal goals.

3. The second category in order to effectively manage transaction-centric, rather than observing the urgency in terms of importance.

4. People can not speak for the efficiency, effectiveness should say - that an act is valid.

5. The fourth generation of self-management and interpersonal requirements of the effects in the first place, rather than time.

Summary: "important matter" refers to things about people, things conducive to achieve their goals in life. High-performance people will focus on the important things, instead of being carried away schedule. We should focus on the future development and devote their time and achieve goals, practice on matters related to the mission.

Relationships

1. To each other's needs as a priority to be fit.

2. Note insignificant details, such as negligence slip of the tongue polite, casual.

3. To identify and meet the expectations of others, that is, what kind of work is done by whom.

4. Integrity, respect for people absent, avoid attacking others behind.

5. Strong, upright, courageous to admit it made a mistake.

6. Problems are opportunities to increase production capacity.

Four win-win thinking: principles of interpersonal leadership

1. Can not win on good terms, the deal fails, virtue still, leaving the hearts of retreat.

2. Maturity is to find a balance between aggressiveness and considerate.

3. Have contented state of mind, I believe that sufficient resources for everyone, not the overwhelming success of others, but to all participants profit.

4. People only sincere emotional investment will achieve a win-win, and win / lose mode of dealing to be treated with courtesy, respect and appreciate each other.

5. Win means sticking to principles rather than stand in the negotiations:

. A problem from the other point of view, really understand each other's ideas, needs and concerns, and sometimes even more thorough than the other to understand;

. B understand the major issues and concerns (but not stand);

. C determine the result acceptable to all;

d. a variety of possible ways to achieve this result is found.

Summary: The upper hand is not necessarily advantageous choice, people will mature in understanding aggressive and find a balance between the others. Our goal is to have all participants profit from the other's point of view to consider the issue, so that satisfactory way to find each other through the emotional investment.

V. Knowing your enemy has the solution: the principle of empathy to communicate

1. Listen to understand, and not respond.

2. Communication and empathy in four phases: repeat statement, adding explanation, penetrate each other personally experience the feeling of mood, interpret and add emotions.

3. Note the order - moral, emotional, rational.

4. Before you can identify with, people generally do not speak their mind.

5. When you show inappropriate autobiographical response (judge probing privacy, provide advice, self-righteous), immediately acknowledge and apologize, try to reverse the situation.

6. Time to express their views, first do empathy.

Summary: Listen to understand each other, not to respond. Do not communicate generate autobiographical response, empathy to appreciate each other's feelings, so empathetic communication.

Six integration synergies: the principle of creative cooperation

1. From one or the other ideas coming out, relationships are the most valuable exposure to different mode, judgment and respect for differences.

2. Open-minded and accept all the strange ideas, pay attention to different worlds different individuals of mental, emotional and intelligent, and personal eyes.

3. Open-minded people recognize that they have weaknesses, and willing to learn a wealth of knowledge insight in dealing with people, pay attention to different opinions, and thus broaden their horizons.

4. When someone does not agree with you, try to find a third way.

Summary: The first step is to admit their ignorance for knowledge, and perhaps another idea put forward is to think we did not take into account the opinions, respect different opinions of others. Things are not always either-or, if you can not reach agreement, they try to find a third way.

Seven constantly updated: the principle of balanced self-renewal

1. Body: a healthy diet, adequate rest, regular exercise.

2. Spirit: and uphold the core values.

3. Intelligence: regularly read good literature, constantly record their ideas, experience, experience, organization and planning.

4. Social / Emotional: daily life continue to practice.

5. "Field of personal success every day" (at least an hour a day updating achieve physical, mental and intellectual level) is the key to cultivate the habit of seven full circle of influence in the individual.

6. A virtuous cycle of self-improvement must learn, persistence, practice.

Summary: The Seven Habits training is the key: self-renewal can achieve physical, mental, intellectual and social aspects of every day, and learning, persistence, practice.