"Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" Book

        Substantial changes in life requires the mind-set change, mindset influence people's behavior and attitudes, and the mindset is the subjective understanding, so in real life should be willing to listen and accept the opinions of others, to get a broader vision and more objective view;
        develop the habit of beginning takes a lot of perseverance, once out of the shackles of gravity, it will usher in a broad space, the front half is the strongest gravitational period, anything else in life Note that the principle of capacity and output, the output will be excessive loss of productivity, and ultimately lost production capacity, the capacity simply does not make their own output, no results.
        Proactive: proactively understand most of the performance is never go back on commitments to themselves and others, and actively take the initiative to fight for every opportunity, and do everything within its power to do, not to force things and take it easy, it was not hurt us thing itself, but we suffered a response, usually should spend most time and energy on their own circle of influence, its power to do things, and gradually expand the circle of influence, while the remaining part of the time on the attention turns to increase their vision, provide guidance and planning for the future and avoid complacency, to be eliminated society, should find a balance between the two.
        For the end to the beginning: if now is now open for their friends and family memorial service, at this moment want to think about their own relatives and friends in mind is what kind of person, so as to reflect their own ideals and objectives confirmation of this life: that moment, I want my children think I'm a loving father, heart heartfelt thanks to my education and guidance, I hope wife thinks I'm worth to rely on and trust of her husband, thanks to so many years of companionship, I hope that friends and family think I'm honest pro and who is society and the people to make the appropriate contribution and help, I want to achieve financial freedom as soon as possible, have the ability to help people who need help. Recent mission statement: to get the offer 40W of years ago, to become a professional medical industry information project managers for the project, can give detailed solution, can give detailed project management plan, do front-line development. A weekly update each period to reflect the principle of avoiding life affected by various kinds of things, leadership is superior management, leadership let you walk on the right path, management guidance on how you do it.
        First Things First: The teacher stressed the advantages of the fourth generation of time management and command type authorization. The time on the important things that are not urgent above, will gradually allow yourself to become active in life and work, because let themselves gradually enhance their ability to face things that can efficiently complete calm; if the time on all urgent and important things, make their living and working more and more passive, always led by the nose; if most of their time on the third and fourth class above the sort of thing will only make one more fall , so be sure to invest the time to balance your second class of things; a weekly cycle, plan, plan a day can be adjusted according to actual situation, according to Monday role in life and work, identify goals, develop mission planning, as soon as possible the development schedule, and to the life. Key responsibilities of authorized care about the result, the authorized party is responsible for the results, in order to be authorized to freely choose work methods; both sides need to agree on several aspects, expected results 1, 2 guidelines: Determine evaluation criteria, clear. restrictive regulations, inform the other problems that may arise, but do not tell them how to do it, tell them in advance resources can be called, 3 attribution: assessing performance criteria to assess their results, reward and punishment clear 4: tell them to assess the results may bring, both good and bad results should tell them.
       Emotional bank account is the foundation of emotional relationship of two people, the only constant investment into the emotional bank account in order to get each other's trust, several investment accounts emotional way: to understand others, pay attention to the section, commitment, clear expectations.
       A win-win thinking: teachers believe that in the long run, not a win-win situation is a lose-lose, in interdependent environment, a win-win model is the only viable model, win-win thinking of five essentials: a win-win situation integrity, honesty mature contentment, 2 . win-win relationship: morality is the basis of a win-win, win-win relationship is the essence of emotional bank account credit that is, 3 a win-win agreement: the expected results, guidelines, available resources, task assessment, reward and punishment system, 4 systems provide favorable conditions for a win-win win-win relationship , there must be a win-win system support, training, planning, communication, budget, information, salary, 5 win-win process: understanding each other's ideas, concerns and the need to find mutually acceptable results, possible ways to achieve this result. Need to be put into practice, the planning body with a variety of ways a win-win role of the person.
        Knowing your enemy has the solution: the teachers need to understand that to solve the problems of others, empathy is the need to listen and observe with your eyes, experience with heart, nature not want you to agree with each other, but to fully understand each other emotionally and intellectually, shift love is the key to listen to the emotional investment of only agree with the other party, the investment makes sense; in addition to the material, the greatest demand from human psychology, is to be understood, affirmed, recognition and appreciation, to meet the basic needs of the other party after the order to influence and resolve question, it should listen to the situation is risky, before they impact each other, influence each other must be first understood in prescribing. Four kinds of autobiographical arbitrary response: value judgments: the views of others only accept or not accept, get to the bottom: the exploration of their own values the privacy of others, become much more: his own experience to provide advice, self-righteous: in their own behavior and motivation to measure the behavior and motives of others; presentation skills: a character, let others trust themselves, two feelings, through communication and quickly understand the feelings of others, the third rational, reasonable ability to express yourself.
        Integration synergies: not to engage in one-man, the people speak, brainstorming; high balance of emotional bank account, win-win model, first to understand the principles, these add together to achieve the ideal environment for integration synergies; and cooperation with the people most important thing is to pay attention to different individuals understand emotional intelligence, win-win way to find a mutually satisfactory third possible way.
        Constantly updated: self-improvement and perfection of four levels, body dimensions: physical exercise to make themselves a better state to face life and work, can reduce physical illness, thereby saving more time; spiritual level: motives , lousy, no matter what; intellectual level: more than reading and writing, do not stay on the surface, to record their feelings and deep understanding, can be on their own opinions and feelings of others and in-depth exchanges; social / emotional level: the win-win cooperation as the goal, through empathy and understanding of each other's way of listening, expressing their views, and finally found a mutually satisfactory third option. The specific implementation process for a period of one week, reflect re-set of principles and the principles to find the most suitable for their own principles and implementation process.