"The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" learning experience
" If you want a little change, you just start from the behavior; if you want to see real qualitative change, please start from thinking. " Too little investment in strategic thinking macro can cause a lot of problems do not realize life's work, the book has inspired some concept or model.
"Success" can be money, increase its social influence, or to enhance the well-being, the general said that the realization improve the effectiveness of individuals , depending on the value of the individual choice.
"Increase the effectiveness" in fact, it is to increase the productivity of individuals. In principle it is to do a balance output and capacity, that do less "time to sell" things, and can do more things, "sustained return" of.
The book individual success to the success of the public, summed up the seven habits:
- Proactive things "to make personnel to listen to fate," to take the initiative to do the right
1.1 rational thinking between stimulus and response, should someone.
Control the expression of their emotions, trying to realize their own state when angry, because the people in the non-rational state might do bad things. "Without your permission, no one can hurt you" (refers to psychic damage), we should try to retain the freedom of choice mentality.
1.2 with a positive alternative to negative language language, affect the heart by way of altering the expression, the less "I can not" or "I can not do."
1.3 initiative to do what kind of things?
We are exposed to things that can be divided into focus ring and circle of influence, we are concerned about political livelihood entertainment, but we can only affect their own, and some people around. By concentrating on our circle of influence within, you can make your own circle of influence increases, and will focus on organic matter turns into our circle of influence. For example, the company's underlying difficult to influence the fate of the company's employees, but slowly upgrade their colleagues around the impact that may affect the entire company's development path in the future.
\ 2. Begin with the End "heart was no call was not to" build first and then realize the future of the future
I understand Begin with the End, in fact, goals and plans. Think about the state of things done, in fact, you can take a lot less detours. Some students do a lot of things, very busy, but concluded it was nothing dry, the busy and suffering as progress. "When the purpose of the means." This is a human universal weakness.
For example, the college has a lot of courses, organization, activities, made possible beneficial. Such as the goal to become a good engineer, psychological or social science double degree may not be a few math course, participate in cultural performances inferior to participate in the competition algorithm, but to become a net red target might reverse.
\ 3. First Things First "important things can not tie him down by the little things" do more important things to reduce urgent matters
Two very fire TED speech [TED] you have to delay disease it? And [TED] how to control your free time , I feel very benefit.
3.1 Summing up the two videos: almost everyone in delays in some important but not urgent matters , such as exercise, cultivate relationships and raise their own, reading thinking, we should try to spend time on these things above. We have the ability, so that our life is full of valuable things, and we actually have enough time. When we do the important things that are not urgent, urgent things will become less.
3.2 method is to practice good summary and outlook, such as writing a weekly weekly, monthly, monthly, summing up his life and work, and even to think ahead this year's performance evaluation to find out what things are really important. My personal experience feel very week weekly benefit.
\ 4 win-win thinking "days terrain and better", and others with success
"Principles of Economics" in "the benefits of interdependence and trade," a chapter from theory to clarify why people have to rely on others, as well as division of labor, comparative advantage, together will benefit everyone. In life, win-win attitude can enhance their pattern, they have won just want people tend to be repelled others. Competition and peer pressure Recommended Reading discuss how to deal with "peer pressure" .
\ 5. Knowing your enemy has the solution, "Who understanding people, who will be able to save people" sincerely understand others.
5.1 relations with others is an emotional account
When we are kind to others, helping others, courtesy, honesty, trustworthiness, often saving money in the account. When we are rude, dishonest, request help, often emotionally withdraw money from the account. Consciously used the theory to analyze relationships, understand the various behaviors of being a deposit or withdrawal, it will help us to maintain relationships. In this practice, we can also analyze how to deal with different people, to interact with what kind of person.
5.2 listen to others. When people complain to us, complain when, how to comfort each other?
A description of the importance of listening and emotional support video has nothing to do with nails , highly recommended.
In practice, the first thing to restrain autobiographical response, that is expressed interrupt each other, to their own values or judgment made suggestions, such as "I have encountered this kind of thing is how how" or "what I think of you"; there when the other party just need a little yellow duck ( rubber duck debugging ). Using empathy to listen carefully to feel each other's emotions, combined with each other's emotions appropriate response. When a high-top box, this technique may sound strange, but the expression of a wish to understand each other, empathy the other's attitude, rather than preaching and self-expression.
\ 6. Integration synergies and more effective cooperation
Recognizing the value of differences and diversity are a team source. In the team, to find better solutions between individuals.
\ 7. To keep "a day arch death, work does not Tang donate" by the time the good habit of internalizing
Usually conscious from four aspects upgrade themselves. Physical, mental, social and emotional intelligence. Physically, find their proper rest and exercise. Mentally, improve their nature and value system. Intellectually, to lifelong learning as the goal. Social-emotional, and others in the practice of exchanges. "Whoever has learned, both as character. "
Know almost on relevant comparisons useful elements:
What is Pomodoro? How to use? And Pomodoro why such a fire? The shining look very interesting.
What ability is important, but most people do not? The ability to control the spirit of the flesh.
How to force myself to be truly self-discipline? How to drive self-discipline.
A person's psychological maturity What are the specific performance? Some of the more specific practice.
How to improve their interaction with others ability? Supplementary concept to get the model.