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Last night, a reader chatted with me on WeChat. It probably means that when the programmer learns this job, it will be a head. Recently, he was interviewing, and he complained: Every interview is like an exam for things to learn. The interview paper is not moving, I am too tired. Ruo Shui only takes one ladle of three thousand, and he has no strength. How can he get rid of this situation?
After I saw it, I thought: Anyone interviewing is the same as an exam, so this is too normal.
The reason why you are so tired mentally is because you don't want to admit that the world is changing, and you are unwilling, or even too lazy to follow the world to change.
We always pray that the world should be unchanging. After learning the knowledge, we don’t need to update it. We can rely on this fixed technology for a lifetime.
But, have you thought about it? It is precisely because the world is changing that we have the opportunity to stand out, and it is also because the world is changing that our competition is not so fierce.
If the world is unchanging, in fact, an unchanging world is more competitive than a changing world, and you have no chance. Because this world is unchanged, the people who came in first did not grow up, and the people who came in later were just like you, and there were more and more people later, wouldn't it be more tiring? If the world remains the same, wouldn't the first-mover advantage be gone? Even if the world is changing, it is progressive, and revolutionary changes will always be a minority.
He asked me: How can I get out of this situation?
I thought about it, but I actually don't know how to answer it?
I just said, there are only two ways: either make yourself a dragon or a phoenix, or curb your desires. When you become a dragon and phoenix among people, you will have wealth and freedom. Of course, this is the most difficult point; or you can curb your desires, abandon desires and comparisons, and find a stable job, even if the salary is not high, just enough to live up.
He asked me back: Don't you realize it now?
In fact, I didn't get rid of it, and I was quite tired. I just restrained my desire. Doing some self-media by myself is just enough to make a living. I also write articles, read books, and record videos every day. I am quite busy all day, and it is not easy. I use TikTok every day, and when I see a flat-floor house, I yearn for it. However, after thinking about it later, forget it, the ordinary life is not bad, and the current house is enough to live in, so that’s fine.
I summed up to myself the mentality of seeing through the world: lie flat in mentality and work hard in action.
The so-called calm mentality is to face the changes in the world, the cruel competition in the world, and the downturn in the world economy. We must see through it. The world itself is like this, which is quite complicated. There is no need to entangle these things, and don’t always think about some negative things. If you always think about negative things, the more you think about them, the more you will feel bitter and wronged.
But who in this world is not wronged? There is no one who is not wronged, tired, and bitter.
The glamorous others we see are what others make us want to see. They just hide their pain, grievances, discomfort and unbearable. In order to make others envy you and create a sense of superiority, you need to hide your miserable life and only show your good side.
Like this reader who thinks I'm taking it easy and freelancing.
However, this is all an illusion, freelancing is not so free, in fact, when you are free, you have to pay for yourself, because you are free, you need to bear the instability, you have to bear all by yourself work pressure. Every day from waking up to going to bed, I think about how to make money and how to grow, which is comparable to 007, and the same is true on weekends.
Both the poor and the rich have troubles. The poor are troubled because they have no money; the rich may be troubled because they have more money. Stress and worries will not disappear with wealth.
A few days ago was the annual Spring Festival Gala of the investment community, Berkshire Hathaway's annual meeting, 92-year-old Buffett and 99-year-old Charlie Munger are still working and holding the annual meeting. It stands to reason that these two bigwigs have long been the richest people in the world, right? Still working, facing this changing world, I didn't stop thinking.
At this conference, someone asked Charlie Munger: Why are people less happy when their living standards get better?
Guess how Charlie Munger answered?
He said there is a very simple explanation: that the world is not driven by greed, but by envy. Even though our standard of living is now more than 5 times better than the hard times, we all take it for granted, we humans think it's unfair if other people have more now than we have Jealousy, so although the standard of living has improved, I feel unhappy.
After listening to Charlie Munger's explanation, I still feel the old saying: Happiness is a comparison, and this comparison is a comparison with others, not yourself. The current world is more prosperous than before, and the material is more abundant than before, so the gap between human beings will be more, and the jealousy will be stronger.
Like I said, if you want to feel happy for yourself, you must curb your desires, especially the desire to compare.
Human desires are like a bottomless pit. When you can’t get it, you hope you can get it. When you get it, you may want better things.
Why do people get tired and have internal friction? Desire always wants more. The most common mentality is: both...and... Faced with various choices, undecided, wanting this and thinking about that, always begging for perfection.
For example: if you want to make a lot of money, you must also require no risk; if you want freedom, you must also require stability; if you want long-term stability, you must also pursue immediate short-term interests. However, this is the way the world is, you can’t have both. If you always want both...and...you will definitely fall into the dilemma of choice and miss many opportunities in hesitation. Oh, this company pays high wages, but it is not stable. The company is a bit small; although this company is big, it pays less money, what should I do? After procrastinating and procrastinating, you may not be able to find a job in the end. Isn't this mental friction?
why? Because you don’t have your own values and principles, that is, what bottom line and values should I adhere to when doing things; what principles must I abide by when doing things? Once these criteria are clear, you can choose the best according to these criteria. In the final analysis, your life is opaque and you don't want to understand it.
Therefore, when you have your own values, outlook on life and living standards, it may be easier for you to achieve a flat mentality.
That's all for now, hope this article can bring a little hope and motivation to all those whose lives are a mess.
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