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1. If you die every day, you don't deserve to donate your merits
Life is like chess; I am willing to be a pawn; although the action is slow; who has ever seen me take half a step back!
Most of us are just ordinary people, no one is born in Rome. If you're poor, lazy, and complaining but don't do anything about it, then it's just saying you deserve it. The only thing that can change you is hard work, sticking to one industry or one thing for a long time.
What is Rigongyizu?
You and your friends around you do similar things every day, but you take time to read a few pages of books and exercise for half an hour every day. Or learn a new skill. You seem to only work so hard every day, and you can't see any difference from others after you finish it.
When others find that you are better than them and realize the gap, they will be far behind. This gap cannot be made up in a short time.
So you have to work hard quietly and surprise everyone.
Mathematical analysis
1.01^365=37.8
0.99^365=0.03
Accumulating silicon steps leads to thousands of miles, accumulating laziness leads to the abyss
The result of 1.01 to the 365th power is 37.8, and the result of 0.99 to the 365th power is 0.03. Although the difference between the two bases is only 0.02, the final result is quite different. As long as you work hard, you can live a better life than many people.
1.02^365=1377.4
0.98^365=0.0006
People who just work harder than you have already left you far behind
The 365th power of 1.02 is 1377.4, and the 365th power of 0.98 is 0.0006. The difference between 1.02 and 1.01 is only 0.01, but the final result is more than 30 times different. As long as you work a little harder than others every day and persist day after day and year after year, the gap between you will only grow wider.
There are so many benefits of insisting on doing one thing, why can't many people do it? The reason is that people are inherently lazy.
On the road of life, when you think you can do this or that, the final choice will most likely be the worst path. Because the worst path you have to do is very little.
So how should we persevere?
1.1 Give yourself a reward when appropriate
You can first set a big goal for yourself, and then split this big goal into several small goals and complete them in each stage. Give yourself a small reward every time you complete a stage, and use the reward to "tempt yourself" to complete each small goal continuously, and eventually you will complete the goal you set at the beginning.
For example: you are a fat person and a foodie, and you weigh 200 jins and want to lose weight to 150 jins, you can set a big goal for yourself to lose weight to 150 jins, divide the total goal into several small goals, and reward yourself for every 5 jins lost Eat something you like, don't reward too much. Eat several meals and the reward is greater than the effect of your hard work, and it will only backfire in the end. In this way, every time you can't hold on, think about it and try harder, and the next goal of 5 catties will be almost completed, and you can eat another meal of your favorite food. If we persevere in this way, no matter how big the goal is, we can achieve it.
1.2 One person may go faster, but a group of people can go farther
Look for like-minded people to encourage each other, find one or a group of people with the same goals as you, and everyone will supervise each other, supervise you, supervise me, and I will supervise you to complete their respective goals today. When everyone is showing their achievements today, but you are lazy and didn’t do it today, will you feel ashamed and feel that you are in such a positive environment? You are really holding back others, and you can also give yourself Set some punishment measures, and punish yourself a little if you are lazy.
1.3 Push yourself through some things
Grab something in your life and force yourself to do it. This approach requires a lot of determination
For example: You and your friend were talking about quitting smoking one day. You joked that quitting smoking is very simple, but your friend doesn’t believe that you can do it. At this time, you should seize this matter to force yourself to do it, and prove yourself with facts. This is not to say that you and your friends have any deep hatred, but you promised to do this in front of others. If you can't do it, you will be a person who is full of words and unreliable words in the eyes of others, at least in your own heart. think. Then I believe you can do it.
1.4 To understand from the truth
Don't tell me that learning knowledge is useless. Have you ever seen a person who is full of knowledge and gives up on life? Have you ever seen a self-defeating person whose head is full of knowledge? Learn more, feel more, look at problems not just look at the appearance, but grasp the essence of things, so that you will seldom do meaningless things and spend all your time improving yourself.
Everyone likes instant gratification these days, and success often requires delayed gratification.
The so-called instant gratification is to demand immediate results and not to wait.
Delayed gratification is the willingness to give up instant gratification for more valuable long-term results, knowing the meaning of persistence and waiting.
People nowadays sow seeds today and think about harvesting tomorrow. How can anyone be willing to plant a tree for a fruit?
People are addicted to games or Douyin, and they always want to play a few games after get off work, because they provide instant gratification and make you feel "cool" all the time. As for things like exercising, although everyone knows that it is useful, few people stick to it, because it takes a long time to see the results of exercising, and there are only pains at the beginning.
What is right?
This place of peace of mind is my hometown. To be able to settle down in one's own heart is to gain the Tao. Everyone may be different, not one or the other, but the inner standard is the same, which is the control of the heart.
When you really understand these principles and can unite knowledge and action, persistence is a matter of course for you.
1.5 When you face a dead end
There is no dead end, people will not die on the dead end, the public will only get lost at the intersection.
For example: when you come home from get off work at night, after a tiring day, it’s time for you at night. At this time, you can choose to play games or exercise. There is a high probability that you will choose your best hero to play.
At this time, you seem to be at a crossroads. The left side is playing games and the right side is exercising. Both seem to be fine for you, so why not choose a way that makes you comfortable.
When one day the doctor told you that your illness was caused by not exercising for a long time, and that you should strengthen your exercise in the future, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable. You were immediately frightened when you were young, and you didn’t want to leave so early. You haven’t experienced many things yet. . There is only one way for you to go now, and that is to exercise. At this time, will you want to do other useless things?
Those who succeed are always looking for ways, and those who fail are always looking for excuses.
2. The meaning of dream is not to realize
"People are great because of their dreams" "If a person has no dreams, what is the difference from a salted fish?" When it comes to dreams, everyone seems to be able to open their mouths and say a few words. It's like when the teacher asked you what your dream is when you grow up, most of them would say to be a scientist, a teacher, a doctor... But when we grow up, we have also worked hard for this, but the reality is all over the place and we finally find that we are powerless To change something, and slowly become a muddleheaded life, and all dreams have gone to hell.
In my opinion, the meaning of dreams is not to realize, but to guide the direction of your actions. Even if you still haven't realized your dream in your sixtieth year, your persistence for decades is not a kind of success at this time.
It’s like: You and a group of people are at the bottom of the mountain. Your goal is to climb to the top of the mountain to see the scenery that you can’t see at the bottom of the mountain, but the mountain in front of you is full of cliffs, and many people dare not go up. At this time, you Finally plucked up the courage to set off towards the top of the mountain, but the final result was not satisfactory. When you reached the middle of the mountain, you were exhausted and couldn’t climb anymore, so you had to walk down the mountain. The onlookers couldn’t help laughing when they saw you coming down. Look at it Everyone has climbed to the top of the mountain, why did you come down halfway up the mountain? I told you earlier that I will definitely not be able to go up, you might as well stay at the bottom of the mountain like us.
What strength do they have at the bottom of the mountain to laugh at a person who goes down the mountain? They don’t even have the courage to go up the mountain. Even if you don’t reach the top of the mountain, you can see the scenery they can’t see. You and them are no longer on the same level. .
Life needs dreams, its meaning is not to realize, but to guide the direction of action.
3. Loneliness
Old friends are withering one after another like leaves falling in the wind!
Humans live in groups, and the most unbearable thing is loneliness. The ancient sages were all lonely. The higher the culture and the more sensitive people, the more lonely they are. Loneliness in isolation is painful, but loneliness in a crowd is the sharpest.
When you are ready to climb the peak, you are doomed to experience a lonely time of being alone, helpless, misunderstood or even ridiculed by others. I don’t know when it started, but when you look around, it’s hard to find a friend who you can have a long talk with or sit around the fire.
We are always used to being like others, which makes us feel more secure. When others run red lights, we follow them; when others don’t read books, we don’t read books with peace of mind; we do what others do, as if this makes us seem like a gregarious person .
The secular road has always been bustling and bustling, and one never has to worry about not having a companion. And the road to the truth is destined to be a lonely road. It is desolate and windy, and secular people who pursue warmth and liveliness regard it as a daunting road. Few people can muster up the courage to walk this road.
Loneliness in character and loneliness in spirit are two different things. Loneliness belongs to the weak, but loneliness belongs to the strong. Both are out of gregariousness, the former out of fear of being hurt, the latter out of mental superiority.
In the eyes of the general public, the more outstanding people are, the less they fit in. In fact, they are gregarious, but you are not in their gregarious group.
May you still be able to stick to your heart, even if no one understands you, it doesn't matter, just treat yourself better, and you will finally be able to see the moon when the clouds bloom.
Come on together~~~
4. Annoyance
You have to eat less, people usually only have one worry when they are hungry, but once they are full, they will have countless worries, so many worries are caused by being full
If you only understand Eunuch Cao’s words as eating, then you’re clichéd and you’d better read more books. The plan of the No. 1 god in the world is to seize the throne. To eat less is to persuade others to have less desires. When you want less things, you will naturally have fewer worries. Your unhappiness is because you want too much.
People's troubles mainly come from: you can't bear all the current things, and at the same time you don't have the ability to change anything.
When I grow up, I have more troubles, more because I want more things. The previous happiness was due to few desires and low demands.
Why is greed the first word among the "five poisons" in Buddhism ?
When your monthly salary is 3,000, you think it’s not enough and want to earn more money. When one day your monthly salary rises to 5,000, then you envy others who can earn 7,000 a month.
I used to think that earning more money would make me happy, and learning more knowledge would make me happy. It now appears that is not the case. Today, I have no less worries than before.
Each of us is anxious, worried about being abandoned by the times; everyone is also nervous, afraid of missing opportunities.
In the end, the more you have, the less happiness you have.
The more you give up, the less trouble you have. When you don't want to make money, you won't worry about making money; when you don't want to buy a house, you won't worry about mortgage; when you don't want to win, you won't worry about losing.
What is spiritual practice? Cultivation relies on doing subtraction, letting go of the pursuit of fame and fortune, and getting rid of prejudice and attachment. Free yourself from most people.
It's just that I understand the truth, but it's too difficult to give up.
Why worry?
Making yourself better is the key to solving all problems.
When I was a student, many people had the habit of keeping a diary. Looking back at it many years later, I thought it was a big deal at that time, but now I just laugh it off. We can only feel that youth is fleeting and miss the old days .
If you start now, write down the one thing you think is most important every month. It can make us proud, sad, happy, troubled, angry, whatever.
Looking back in a few years, do you still have these emotions? Is it still important? Should be mostly nothing. I laughed it off, and I still felt that I was a bit stupid back then, why would I worry about such a trivial matter.
Whoever realizes the big dream first, I know it all my life
Liu Bei visited the thatched cottage three times. He didn't see Zhuge Liang the first two times, but the third time Zhuge Liang was taking a nap. A few hours later, Zhuge Liang, who had slept enough, woke up and recited the poem.
Life is just a dream that looks a little more real, who can see through this first? What I have done in my life is only known to me! In fact, it can be said that he has already seen clearly that the world is just like a dream, everything goes with the flow, isn't it good to live an ordinary life. Sometimes thinking too much is just adding to your worries.
What to do when you encounter very annoying things
First of all, how can we stop the muddy water from becoming clear? The easiest way is, don't shake it, let it settle there slowly. After a while, the filth will sink to the bottom, and the water will naturally become clear. The more shaking, the muddier the water.
When you encounter setbacks, you might as well find a place where no one is around for a day or two, time is the best medicine. The wind does not end in the morning, and the showers do not end in the day. Even the biggest troubles will gradually fade away as time goes by.
I hope you can let go more in the future, don't be happy with things, and don't be sad with yourself. The world is very lively every day, but it is empty, and it is good to be a bystander.
5. Don't always talk about the future
In the past, I always felt that there was a long way to go, and I didn't know what to do and what to do. But when one day you suddenly realize that life is short, many people gradually drift away from you, and when you look back, you find that most of the time, they are always leaving the tea.
We are always busy missing the past youth and looking forward to the future, but never really live in the present. Waiting until the future, but I miss the present self very much.
Don't always say that the future will be long, who knows which will come first, tomorrow or the accident. Waiting for time in the future, waiting for not being busy, waiting until youth withers, leaving only regret and sentimentality.
Don't always say that the future will be long, it's just people's good wishes, life is not long, don't waste time, don't hesitate, do what you want to do.
Don't always say that the future will be long, there are more impermanence in this world.
6. Forbearance and Resilience
Do "forbearance" and "toughness" mean the same thing? I think "toughness" is much stronger than "forbearance".
The word "forbearance" has a knife in the heart, which represents desolation and pain, and implies resentment.
The word "toughness" puts the knife aside, and embodies more tolerance, open-mindedness, perseverance and longing for a better future.
"Forbearance" embodies passivity and acceptance, but at the same time has a strong and calm side. What you are facing is something you don't want to accept, but you can't change it, so you have to "endure" it.
"Toughness" not only has perseverance and calmness, but also has an active, open-minded, and indomitable spirit. How active, positive and confident is my attitude towards life.
"Forbearance" is like a tall, burly man punching you, but you can't beat him, so you can only swallow your breath and don't fight back.
"Toughness" is like when you suffer a major setback, your childhood sweetheart girlfriend tells you: You are a good person, forget me and you will meet better. In your forties, one day when you went to work in the company facing the first ray of sunshine in the morning, the leader notified you that the company would optimize some employees, including you. You think about the mortgage and car loan for this month. There is an 80-year-old mother on the top, and a child with yellow mouth on the bottom. You look up at the sky and shed tears of disappointment. When you encounter these ups and downs in life, do you have the courage to face it head-on, stand up again, pat the dust off your body and move on?
Ma Yun once said: A man's mind is magnified by grievances, more grievances and less temper will make him happier.
Success in life is only temporary, but failure is the main theme. But how to face failure divides people into different looks. Some people will be crushed by failure, and some people can keep getting up and moving forward. I think true maturity is not the pursuit of perfection, but the face of one's shortcomings, which is the essence of life. Romain Rolland said that there is only one kind of true heroism in this world, and that is to recognize the truth of life and still love it.
Han Xin was once humiliated by his crotch, and King Goujian of Yue lived hard for ten years. Just imagine if you were them, would you be able to persist until the final moment of success? Will you draw your sword and end up in jail because you can't bear the humiliation of your crotch? Would you have long forgotten your ambition for revenge in the past ten years because of your desire for a comfortable life?
"Toughness" means having a clear goal and a firm belief. You firmly believe that you will reach a distant place. The process will definitely be full of suffering and setbacks. At the same time, you also have the courage to face these challenges.
Although we are not as great as historical figures, we can still learn some valuable qualities from them to face real life.
People can do it because they believe they can
I hope that you and I can persevere more when you want to give up, and believe that you will be able to reach the moment when you see the flowers blooming on the other side.
7. The nature of things
"The Godfather" said: "The person who sees the essence in a second and the person who spends half his life unable to see the essence of things are naturally not the same fate.
Watching too many movies and TV shows can easily make people stupid. Because movies and TV shows have commercial needs, they will actively cater to the simplistic and obscene thinking of the public, and they are always selling some simplistic thinking models. For example, online dramas and idol dramas pay more attention to commercialization, which is more obvious.
Movies and TV shows will highlight the 1% of life that is more dramatic, while ignoring 99% of the boring and waiting. If the brain is used to these, it is easy to lose patience in real life.
Once the audience gets used to this kind of thinking, people will not only become stupid, but also stubborn. It will take a lot of time and cost to get rid of the influence.
Many people like to play games, and a virtual prop can stimulate players all night long. Spend a lot of money for rare props. Sometimes I feel great when I win a game, and I can be excited for a long time. But at the moment before you are ready to fall asleep in the dead of night, close your eyes and think about what you have gained from it, just for the excitement of a few minutes after winning.
Games are consumables for ordinary people. You will not get anything from them in the end, but what you lose is far greater than what you pay.
Software and games, the most enthusiastic research incentives, they hope to make us addicted. Whoever occupies more user time, whose design is more successful.
When your mother-in-law was talking about the bride price with you, you told her that I was in the game every second of the universe.
When your parents put down their old faces and called you, saying that they needed money to build a house, you looked at the balance in your bank card and the new skin you just bought in the game, and your eyes were moistened, watching your parents grow old, I have no ability to stop them from working so hard.
Seeing the essence of things is also destined to make us much less happy than ordinary people.
I hope you and I can see the reality clearly as soon as possible, and do less meaningless things.
8. Why do people become reticent
Teenagers don't know what it's like to be sad, and fall in love with upper floors.
Love upstairs.
In order to give new words to express sorrow.
Now that I know all the sorrow, I want to say it.
I want to say goodbye.
But he said it was a cool autumn.
-------Xin Qiji's "Ugly Slave · Shubo Mountain Road Middle Wall"
Translation: When I was young, because I didn't understand the taste of sorrow, in order to write good new words, I often climbed high and looked far away, without sorrow, but reluctantly said that there was sorrow. However, nowadays, people are middle-aged, suffering from hardships and hardships, and their lives are full of hardships. Some of these sorrows cannot be said, some are inconvenient to say, and they cannot be said exhaustively, so let's not talk about it. well! I have to say: What a cool autumn!
We may all have this experience. One day in the middle of the night, you spent half an hour sorting out your emotions, typed a long Moments status, and consciously expressed your words in place. When you were about to type the last word, after thinking about it, it was still All deleted. From then on, you will never post your status easily, at most occasionally post a selfie or two, and forward some company promotional articles.
Thinking about my previous self, when posting a circle of friends, I always try my best to describe the sadness and sadness as much as possible. It seems that this can prove that I have grown up among my peers, and if I don’t, I have to make up a very sad look. When you really experience the world and get some insights, you can't say anything, or there is no one to say. . .
When you have gone through the pain of the world, walked into the mud, and were beaten by the east, west, north and south winds, and then looked back at the diary written by Qzone back then, the full of youthful melancholy, relatively speaking, can only be said to be Worry for no reason.
That's how life is, when you don't experience real distress, you can talk a lot. But when you really know the feeling of sorrow, you seem to have a lot of things to say, but you can't say a word, so you have to change the subject and say "it's a cool autumn". This is the so-called "unsatisfactory things are often eighty-nine, but it can be said to be the same as others"!
But when you've been through all the vicissitudes and scars, you still want someone to talk to, don't you?
When you are tossing and turning alone and having difficulty falling asleep, you open your WeChat address book to find someone to talk to, but you find that there seems to be no such person to talk to. Even though I managed to find an old friend's WeChat, I didn't know where to start, and in the end there were only a few greetings. Really, but it's a cool autumn!
One day you will realize that your end of the world is just someone else's gossip; your unforgettable memory is just an understatement of others;
No matter how much sorrow you have, it is only your own business after all. Is there any need to tell? At the moment of telling, you found that he just listened to it temporarily, wouldn't it make you more sad?
From now on, don't expect others to love and care about you wholeheartedly, because you can't do it yourself. This is human nature, and this is the most objective fact. When you face the pain of life again, maybe you will be stronger.
When humans think, God laughs. I hope someone who is destined to read it can bring you some insights.
