How to deal with "midlife crisis"

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A figure: Chen Rui, former manager of research and development Baidu, Ctrip CTO customized travel
from programmer to architect to the manager, and finally to entrepreneurs

I have always believed this sentence: the real crisis comes not do the right thing at the right time. No at the right time, for the next step to make the accumulation, this is the root of the crisis.

For example, when you crossed the threshold of 30 years of age, your ability is limited to the scope of the program, there is no accumulation of their own depth and perspective. If so, I think I will not sleep at night every day, reviled myself every day, especially what exactly you God in the dry horse every day.

I have always believed the words, when you put your tears dry, the only thing you left only the actions and efforts.

If you are growing this way friends, late is better to wake up early, this is what I want to say. Do not wait until middle age only to find he did not build their own moat, this time trying to know. In stage their own efforts, not only do not work hard backwards chose to pamper yourself, this is the root of the crisis.

Do the right thing

Some suggestions from the heart, know what to do, what kind of ability to harvest at every stage.

23-27 years old: technical accumulation phase. 23-year-old college graduate hypothesis, then the first five years of laying the foundation for you is that phase of the work. In five years time there, you have to accumulate enough technical background, polish their technical strength, to become one cow in the field of technical breakdown.

I still remember the year this scene: squatting rent per night eating inside technical documentation, continuous play ground floor to dry overnight scene in the company.
Only really experienced poverty, experienced the suffering of the people, will know how long the effort is the only way out of this life and opportunities.

27-30 years old: the formation stage thinking methodology and knowledge. When you accumulate enough technical strength, for example, more than 100,000 lines of code later, you should form their own independent thinking and learning methodology skills, any new technology can quickly see the essence of technology in your eyes, rapid absorption become part of your knowledge.

Basis as long as you hit the stage before a strong enough at this stage you will begin to erode other areas, this is certain.

Gradually no longer satisfied with a purely technical exploration of the field, but things began to explore the technology behind it: What kind of technology can maximize the value of the occasion; how technical team should be constructed; the future value of technology in the company? Demand for technology start-up companies? Support technology products, learning how to do product? Operating system support behind the product is what built? The business community is a technology, product, and operation of how cognitive, business community what specific law? Maybe there's more ...

At this stage, the accumulation of technology is simply a piece of cake for you, you need to hone that ability to think, form their own ways of thinking and knowledge, which will help you in your life weapons.

The 35-year-old road through the crisis

30-33 years old at this stage, the key is to understand yourself. Know what they are good at, and where their strengths, how they can maximize their value, but also know that they have any major flaws. The future is constantly avoid their weaknesses or flaws, these need to think clearly in advance. Once you think clearly, think through, leaving the action. You can choose to avoid doing things they are not good, do not force yourself, do not let yourself in for their hostile environment. Of course, you can also choose to continue to make up short, his own point becomes not good at what they do best. This requires a combination of their own situation to choose carefully, eventually you go to see what kind of a way, is going to do technical experts, managers, products or technologies, or entrepreneurs.

walk my own path

Ye programmer, designer Ye Hao, Ye Hao architects, product managers, it comes to a career. His professional career must have basic ethics, this is the need to comply. Do not programmers do not do product began to change, for to do operations, such thinking no matter what job you do, you may not do anything right.

So, do not do their work before, do not easily talk about a career change. Can also pondering pondering, many programmers origin, which is the programmers are doing well, they say their products very fast hardware, I'm a genius operations.

Figure two: Yang Yi, a senior career planning consultant whether to admit, you have to pay attention, "35-year-old phenomenon"

Many companies in the recruitment of talent, specify the age of 35 years old. If your age to 35 years old are still in your resume through job sites, and constantly change jobs, you should reflect on their own in the end did wrong.

Of course, based on our consulting practice experience, if you are true to the age of 35 years or more before going to think about this problem, it is likely that you have been unable to solve the problem, a lot of practical difficulties will make you powerless , helpless.

To keep your 35-year-old career after becoming a mess, you should at least to establish clear goals at the age of 30, and with five years to catch up. This may be the last best time you grew up. Missed this opportunity, you are no longer young, society would no longer be an inclusive attitude to forgive you young and frivolous. Otherwise, you take one more step the wrong way, it will go in the future to make it up in ten times the cost.

30 years old: three major issues you have to face

First, the ability to take up the family and responsibility?

If you are already married, you must clearly realize: your career in the end how to develop, you can ensure that the burden of supporting the whole family? This includes not only your spouse, your children and also includes parents (especially the two sides have only one child, you have to bear is that both sides of four elderly dependent).

At this stage, your pressure is growing exponentially, but if you grow the workplace can not be doubled to achieve, even still going backwards in some form, then your future career development will face more pressure . And this pressure, more often, you will not have the energy to seek better development.

Many people in the job-hopping, there is often a big concern: If I jump, high income is not now, then, work now, then I will easily move it?

So, in order to act as early as possible. When you do not take advantage of the back of the family burden of traveling light, doing all forward, this is your only choice. Do not enjoy the luxury at this time, otherwise, the rest of your life will be forever in mediocrity "was comfortable" down.

Second, your ability and age match?

In many of our customers, which is more difficult case, it is the ability and age does not match the problem. A lot of work for three years, five years, or even a year and people who work in the capacity and there is no much difference, so when they want to break up the occupation, will encounter a lot of resistance.

Result in this case, there are two reasons:

One is the frequent job-hopping, does not accumulate in one direction, no skills;

Second, although long-term accumulation in one direction, but only the first year of growth, the remaining few are doing duplication of work, marking time.

So, for those aged 30-year-old friends, from now on, you have to carefully examine the question: now from graduation, I worked for a few years? Whether or not I who possess the ability to match my age?

If not, then you have to establish a sense of crisis as soon as possible, and running forward, in order to make up the gap between those with the foresight to make sure you will not be crowded dismount others in a competitive process.

Third, you build and enhance the knowledge structure?

In the workplace, people of different job levels, doing things is not the same, they have the vision and thought patterns also differ.

One of the most basic salesman, thinking about how to maintain a good terminal, which is the tactical stuff, where is his duty; but such a role if a marketing director, and also as clerk every day thinking about how to deal with the boss and terminal that his dereliction of duty.

Every business operations, will be constituted by strategy and tactics. Major strategic strategy will be subdivided into small, small strategy will be subdivided into a tactical one execution by junior officers to put into practice. Different levels who are responsible for the work of different heights, their duties, and this is the significance of teamwork.

Also, each person at different levels, there are different knowledge structure. The higher the level, the higher you will look at the issue of vision and ideas, your overall hierarchy of knowledge but also upward development and breakthroughs. Otherwise, your ability to always remain at the grassroots specific operational level, there will be a big development, but there can be no increase in the post.

Before the age of 30: how to lay the foundation

I suggest you do two things.

The first, identify a possible fight for 5 years, 10 years or more goals.

This is an ideal state. Because a clear goal, you can make your career growth around a point to gain experience, and this experience over time, but also your future promotion and pay rise chips. While the experience is not necessarily related to the ability, but if there is no accumulation of experience, your ability basically no upgrade possible.

Macolm Gladwell in his book "alien", said: whether it is best athletes, entrepreneurs, musicians or scientists, after investigation, you will find that they are paying at least a decade, no less than three hours a day only coming after efforts.

I suggest you consider the second issue, it is to learn to behave.

I even think that a man would be a hundred times more important than the will to do things. To find a suitable career goals, a lot of confusion for people who may not be an easy task; but learn to be, then you are in any company, at any time can practice a kind of professionalism.

In practice in life, there are four elements, is able to play a fatal impact on your future career:

  1. Your interpersonal skills
    This includes the relationship with your boss, and the relationship with your colleagues.

  2. The ability to continue learning
    I once met a client, has nearly 40 years of age, an accountant do for 14 years, is still just a job supervisors, the company also can not see the opportunity for promotion, a good many years without a raise a.

We asked him: "In these 14 years, you have not been training, further education or any other form of charge?"
"No." "Never
do?"
"Never."

This is a very extreme example, but this phenomenon in the workplace is very common.

No learning, your career will be running in place. You think you do not regress, but in fact others in progress, the gap between you and the others unknowingly opened, it means a step backward.

  1. Establish professional spirit
    whether you have no goals, no matter the job is not what you are willing to do, as long as you are in this job, you should get things done.

Even if you do not like this job, do not use negative way to treat, because you're not only wasting the company's time, but wasting your own time. In the workplace, you can gain nothing more than two things: First, in return, the second is growing. In the absence of clear objectives, the immediate thing to the extreme, all the stuff you can get in this position, with all their best efforts to strive for. With a negative attitude towards work, you empty-handed, nothing.

  1. Have a strong heart
    a lot of people I met, actually they are very fragile and can not withstand all kinds of suffering on the long road of life are coming. You know, everyone's growth is not smooth sailing. Even Jesus, then why will not suffer the baptism of suffering?

Strong heart can make a people see hope in despair, pessimism and negative will only make you want in front of the wrong machine opportunity.

After 30 years of age: how to achieve a qualitative breakthrough?

To get your career after 35 years to achieve a relatively large development, you should start at age 30, five years to good use, preparing for the following three essential things:

NO.1 complete your professional brand building

"Father of the Japanese strategy of" Ohmae in the "professionalism" made such a point of view:

"Why do you win? Can affect the future of the world situation, is the competition between individuals. Can dominate the world stage, forging the core competitiveness of others can not be surpassed? You only counting on, I am a professional."

You are a first-class business people, or general office workers? The difference is here! Give yourself a professional positioning, establish their own brand image, will add more valuable chips for your future career.

In order to support your "professional" brand image, you need to make efforts in the following two aspects:

The first is the previously mentioned knowledge of structural problems.

From the operational level to the specific question, look at your problems look beyond higher, farther, into a person with "vision" rather than "short-sighted" in.

You want to this industry best people in line, and targeting them as role models to grow their own practice, step by step to bridge the gap between the good. This time, job training, education, etc., need to put on the agenda, learn to enrich your mind with new knowledge.

The second is to establish their influence in the industry.

You want to be good professionals, who must also be in line to the best people, to establish influence in the industry, using your mind to influence others.

NO.2 to train themselves into a good middle managers

Embarked on a management job, it is a key step in your career growth. After the space for development, are inextricably linked with the promotion. But this seat is not everyone can sit tight.

Gallup has done a survey and found the reason why employees leave frequent basis, often the problem is not that the company, but its boss: the company's middle managers.

Because of poor middle management, and for the development and growth of the subordinate staff created a very negative impact, resulting in professional training, can not be effectively grow their careers, whether in a professional capacity, or.

You must be aware of: your management, it will be possible to change the fate of your life subordinates, are you the wrong way to manage unknowingly harm to your subordinates, forcing them to leave the company.

When you grow because your boss has been hampered, it is your misfortune, you can choose to "vote with their feet"; when one day you become a manager, we do not want to continue to pass along this unfortunate .

NO.3 find a growing company, with its growth

This is a very important thing.

First, you can witness the company from small to large and from weak to strong growth process for the company's operations will have a deeper understanding, you can also appreciate the position and the role of your role in the company growing.

Second, in the course of the company's growth, you will have a greater value of room to maneuver, it would be easier to show up.

Many people looking for work tend to look for large companies, which can also be understood, however, to rapid growth, it is unlikely to find large-scale growing company, in fact, be a better choice. Because in the process of growing, the demand for talent will be more urgent, your job will be promoted faster.

Third, your loyalty will bring more return for your development.

Enterprises employing, the most important one is loyalty. Especially now that the turnover rate, turnover rate in the case of the high number of companies, loyalty has become a very commendable professionalism.

Whether you are now "Pentium III" or are "Pentium III" on the road, always told myself: Do not waste the best years, to seize seize all the time, for his life more than the accumulation of some thickness.

Finally, to borrow my favorite quotes Jobs as the end of this article:

People in my entire life can not do too many things, so every one should be doing fantastic.

Your time is limited, so do not live for others. Do not be dogmatic constraints, do not live in other people's thinking. Do not let other people's opinions about their own inner voice. The most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, and only his heart and intuition to know your own true thoughts, everything else is secondary.

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