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Positive emotions is a win-win
Positive emotions, it is a win-win. People in many ways defines the "no pain no gain" will be painful return as it should be by-products. In fact, both for the doctor's education at school, in the same general workplace. Because the relationship between power and energy and emotion, no study can understand. You know that feeling good, power and more energetic. Of course, there are many studies support this. They investigated professionals, they can better control their emotions, and ultimately achieve success. Access to positive emotions and negative emotions from the circulation into the human expansion in the long run will be more successful. Therefore, they are not happy people do not emotional pain, it is the dead negative emotions. Those who have experienced emotional pain, but better able to put their consciousness thoughts, their feelings shift in a positive direction. The more happy people more successful, because they have more energy and work harder. Because they are pursuing, not fleeing. This is called "close to the target rather than escape." We will discuss when it comes to the "target" of this. But also because they build better relationships. They are more open and more tolerant. Their creativity stronger. All of these factors ultimately lead to higher levels of success. Positive emotions not only contributed to the success. Not only make us feel relaxed and energetic. Also helps us to be happy. Optimistic person, this does not mean blind optimist, but an optimist down to earth. On average they obviously live longer, and stronger immune systems, so health can also help.
The pursuit of happiness is not a selfish act
Now there is a moral issue. I'm in the pursuit of happiness, then other people do? I'm talking about run their own lives, pursue their own happiness, it is not selfish? It is bad? Yes immoral it?. In our culture, it became synonymous with selfishness and immorality. That is why we are ashamed to pursue their own happiness. The selfish immoral is equivalent to the number one reason. It is in the subconscious cause of unhappiness number one reason: People feel guilty for the pursuit of their own happiness. People will feel guilt when well: how can I feel happiness and joy I feel good about how how dare I can pursue their own happiness??? When there is so much suffering in the world? World does have a lot of pain, how do we respond?
First of all, happiness is a positive-sum game, not a zero-sum game. Nor is it a negative-sum game. My happiness is not from someone else spoil. That would be a negative-sum game, I'm sure you have more less. Or me less, you will be less, that is a negative-sum game. Or a zero-sum game me more you will be less. Happy cake is so big, I took possession of some others less. Not the case, it is a positive-sum game. Why? Because happiness is contagious. If I'm happy I'm more likely to contribute to the happiness and well-being of others. Feel happy, in other words, is a moral state. To contribute to the happiness of others. Buddha thousands of years ago said: "One candle lit one thousand candles, but candles of life is not shortened, reducing the share will not be happy." Like a candle light as it passed. You strive for happiness and joy, that contribute directly to between happiness of others. Like laughing baby can you laugh, laughter is contagious. Generally strive for happy people, shows once again, not those who always kept happy. In general the living, to strive for happiness. Changes to experience the ups and downs of life, strive for more happiness and joy, have better relationships, more tolerant and more accepting of others, more tolerant of others and their own, many studies have shown that self-help. In other words we strive for their own happiness, help us to be happy, but also lead us to be more tolerant of others and cordial.
"Selfish" is the beauty of human nature
People do in a day five good thing, make them happier, but also to help others help themselves. We should not have selfish equivalent immoral. We should see it as, the beauty of human nature, we should celebrate nature. Even related to our happiness with others, through the compassion of our network and others related company, that is the beauty of human nature is the same as what we deserve further glorification. If we do not Ode to that part of the field do not appreciate human nature, that part will be devalued. Appreciation has two meanings. First, know how to thank the second is passed. If we appreciate human nature, desire good things. If we appreciate that part of nature. We will appreciate it more. If I despise it said. "It's terrible. I'm from helping others who benefit." So that part of the nature of the depreciation over time.
I remember such a story, Joey and Phoebe in the world if there is no charity in return from the dispute on this matter in "Friends" in. Joey felt that if you help others, they will receive rewards and happy. Phoebe is convinced that helping others is not to return, so there must be no return to help the world. Phoebe first example, help yourself before his brother had three children, pregnancy and delivery process is very painful. But Joey pointed out that she gained great satisfaction and happiness after successfully gave birth to the baby. So they set out to do those good things Phoebe did not return, such as the large sum of money to the tramp, let yourself be a bee sting, were later found in either of these good deeds will bring their own happiness and satisfaction, or she would do is not a good deed (such as Joey pointed out that the bees will die after the bite), therefore, indeed, there is no reward good work does not exist in the world, because in any case, you will be looking into this matter and there is satisfaction even a sense of well-being, which is a byproduct of sweet charity. But we can not be like Phoebe as equivalent to these selfish, saying that "this is terrible, I have benefited from helping someone else."
Become the change you want to see in the world
Mahatma Gandhi This is a story about him. A woman like many others, to seek advice Gandhi. She came a long, still with his son. She Meet Gandhi before him, that she said to him. "I came because my son has a long question. My son is eating too much sugar. I hope you can tell him not to eat too much sugar, because sugar tooth damage his health. He'll listen to you, he admired you." Gandhi looked she said. "Madame month later, you can come?." She did not understand why but still listening to his words. Because he was Gandhi. She left a long return. Come back a month later. Gandhi meet again. She said that in front of him. She said, "A month ago I came." He said, "Yes, I remember." She said, "Can you tell my son not to eat too much sugar?". So Gandhi watched the boy said. "The children do not eat too much sugar." That's it. The woman was confused her courage. He said, "Mahatma Thank you very much. I'm sure he will not eat too much sugar, but why not tell him a month ago. I came a long time?". He said, "Lady since a month ago. I also eat too much sugar."
Gandhi said a word, from his wonderful autobiography, "My practical experience for the truth", "become you want to see change in the world", the only way to achieve change.
The best way to spread happiness is to fight for their own happiness
I think we make a small practice. Especially for boys it is a difficult exercise. But please be patient. Feel uncomfortable. I do not want to do according to the following instructions. Let your thumb and middle finger. Forming a right angle as possible. It may be a bit painful. Forming a right angle as possible. He looked at me like this. Right angle. Let these two fingers. Middle finger and thumb. Surrounded by a circle as possible while maintaining a right angle. Men harder than women do. Flexibility smaller men. In a circle. Looks like a rabbit. If the projected words. Middle finger and thumb. Well look at me. Like this around in a circle as possible. It is not a perfect circle but to try. This enclosed circle. See? It's a circle. This circle on the cheek. Another place. It may take a while. I see most of the students are placed on the chin. I clearly said to be "cheek."
That's the problem,Most people are doing as you do and not do as you say. Keep this in mind. I do not think there is anyone in class will tell me: "My goal in life is to make people sad I really want to do, I want everyone in the world, unfortunately.". Here no one really say that word. hope so. What most people regardless of us here do, now and into the future are idealists. We want to benefit the world, want to spread happiness. But remember that people do as you do and not do as you say. You might want to spread happiness through your words words. But the best way, the best way to spread happiness to strive for their own happiness, because then you become a role model. This also applies to leadership, the most important thing is not to say leadership, but how to lead by example. Parents most important thing is not to tell children "honesty is very important," but how honest you own. If you want to spread happiness, "has become in the world you want to see change" and lead by example.
Do not give yourself limits
It is what I heard, the first story about the psychology. That story made me understand how important psychology of happiness and success Yes. The story is about Roger Bannister, Roger Bannister was an athlete. Until 1954, run a mile in under four minutes, was thought to be impossible. In fact medical certificate four minutes to run a mile. It is the limit of human capabilities. Physiologist experiment. In science show that human capacity limit, can not be less than four minutes. Runners have proved doctors and scientists ... prove that they are right. Two seconds one mile run four minutes. But did not run four minutes one second hand can be less than four minutes. Since one mile timed run. When people start timing run. It is impossible to prove the doctors and scientists. The world's top players proved the doctors are right. Then Roger Bannister appeared, he said, "within four minutes to finish is possible. I want to show you." He said this is a Doctor of Medicine at Oxford University, is also an excellent runner, but he ran a mile time is much higher than four minutes. His best time is four 12 seconds. Naturally no one took him seriously. But Roger Bannister insist on training hard. Unlike other runners turn out to be more bitter. But other runners in the world and the same hard training. And there is progress. He broke the four ten seconds. Four five seconds. Four went to stop two seconds. Like everyone else. Not less than four two seconds. He is not the world's best runners. But also a leader. But he said, "it is possible. In this matter the man has no limits. We can run a mile in four minutes." He insisted on doing and keep practicing has been a failure.
Until May 6, 1954, when it is back in school. Roger Bannister with a 3 minutes 59 seconds run a mile. Hit the headlines around the world. "Science is challenged," "Doctor challenged." "The impossible possible." It is the dream of becoming a mile. Now listen to this. For decades since from the beginning of a timed mile run from. No one to break four minutes boundaries. It was thought to be impossible. But in the May 6 Roger Bannister did it special. After six weeks the Australian runner John Landy. One mile run 3 minutes 57.9 seconds. The following year in 1955. 37 runners run a mile in four minutes. In 1956 more than three hundred runners to break four minutes boundaries. How is this going?. Athletes train harder? Of course not. With the new technology is the new shoes. It is not a conviction. How strong belief yes.Not because the time went. He said, "Oh exceed the speed limit. Slow down now." It's not like their best efforts. most likely. However, they limit their subconscious. They push the boundaries to stop . That's not a doctor. Physiologists and scientists claim that physical boundaries. But psychological boundaries. Roger Bannister broke the fort. The will and psychological fortress. That belief self-fulfilling prophecy. They often determine our performance. Our performance is good or bad. Often determine how good or not so good in our relationships. They are the number one success and happiness in life predictions. We will talk about. Today and the next session, we are going to talk about yes. How beliefs form reality. How does it work?. What is the mechanism behind the power of faith and science?. Because in many ways it sounds like mysticism. It is part of the mystery still can not understand. But we talk about what we know. Why faith will work and how it works. Unfortunately, there are plenty of misconceptions about optimism. Because in many ways self-help movement. He is telling us how it was the power of faith.
