American social psychologist Festinger theoretical behavior of a very famous, known as the "Festinger rule":
10% of life is what happens in your body composition, while the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.
In other words, if 1 thing you did wrong, you may need to do 9 things to make up for it, the more you will be chasing the wrong run farther wrong.
If you want to change yourself, please do not ever do yourself the following 20 things:
1. Do bad things and bad people entangled
Zhou Guoping said, and life is not competing with wisdom. Often with teams compete, not short and long-fool theory.
And the wrong people struggle, dragged into the quagmire will only make you dirty. Do bad things and bad people tangled, because you deserve a good time wasted on all the good things.
2. lifelong learning, not stalled
Times abandon you, and you will not say goodbye. Do not progress, in fact, is the greatest setback. You are placing full of running forward, not to change the world but in order not to abandon the world.
3. do it yourself, do not blindly imitate others
Your whole day can become a Fan Bingbing, but can not read one day into a Huiyin. US not imitate others, do not imitate, you own your unique. Everyone is born original, do not let yourself become pirates live.
4. Do not lose a sense of juvenile
Young independent of age, some 30-year-old old, and some people 80 years of age still young. Keep the juvenile sense, does not compromise the life, dares, daring, pioneers, if not the old heart, life will never be evergreen.
5. Do not over-consumption of their own
You can use feeding dream tired body, strong body can take the win success, but you do not succeed again could get in exchange for health. The body is the capital of revolution, excessive overdraft their own, it will outweigh the benefits.
6. Do not be too busy
Busy when tired is tired point, but for the meaningful things busy will lead a fulfilled; leisure time, although comfortable, but idle for a long time people will rust. Do not choose easy in the age of struggle, not mediocrity comforted their ordinary valuable.
7. Do not just take a good way to go
The reason people are often confused only one, your strength is good enough for your ambitions. Do not go straight flat road, low resistance path even if it is difficult to go for longer thinking outside the box. Unlimited in the awesome scenery, not only through the steep paths more attractive.
8. Do not be afraid to make mistakes
Mistakes is not terrible, terrible is never wrong. In fact, the error is a learning opportunity, everyone is growing up in trial and error, sense of shame and then courage, rectifies can improve the hell. (Progress of trial and error + = + then perform modifications)
9. Do not put their faith in other people happy
Do not depend on other people happy, because people become, the situation will be scattered. Way of life is always to find their own path, no one can replace you happy, no one can pay for your happiness, self-sufficient happiness will not hesitate.
10. Do not always everything is ready and so began
Climate, geography, and, of course, everything is ready can be invincible, but this time often few and far between. We do not always ready and so began, because after the miracle of the vast majority of people are just caught in the right place.
11. Do not ignore the subtle touch
Ordinary life, flashing a subtle move. Do not ignore the life of every good moment, you never know what will be the second happiest moment of your life.
12. Do not jump to a conclusion
"Blessing in disguise blessing in disguise", not too early to conclude anything at this moment the shadow of the next second is perhaps a way out;
"The Painted painting difficult to draw tiger bone, Clothes make the man," Do not conclude too early for anyone, human well-being, inconstancy of human relationships, you want to thin materials in order to discern good and evil.
13. Do not be afraid of injury and refused to start
Romain Rolland said: the world after only one heroism, is to see the truth of life, still love life.
The real strong is not afraid of injuries, but after the injury can heal itself, still graceful embrace a new beginning after recovery.
14. Do not leave the bad side of the favorite people
Our biggest mistake is to temper the worst and the worst side gave the people closest, yet patience, tolerance to a stranger.
15. Do not humble love do not love you
No matter how you love someone, you can not be lost to humble themselves and their aim is to make you love better, not make you black and blue.
Some love doomed scarce, people can not wait, do not wait, do not squeeze into the world, do not stagger.
16. Do not kid yourself
Deceive ourselves much easier than to deceive others, but their own is much more difficult than others to wake up wake up. People you knew, see their sincere with yourself, calm acceptance of his own, in order to have a wider world.
17. Do not waste time and again to explain himself to others
Important people, do not have to explain he naturally understands you; unimportant person, he may not mind a thousand words. Long road, you just go its own way, though he gossip, nothing to be ashamed enough.
18. Do not forget the early heart
Not forgetting beginning of the heart, was always square. Has been on the road ahead, do not forget from time to time to stop, look back to the time of departure of the grounds.
19. Do not always compare with others
Do not compare yourself to other people's strengths and weaknesses; others do not have to envy and disregard you own; do not get lost in the comparison, do not follow someone else's map to find his way. Behind the man was, you do better than others, as long as you have your own good is like.
20. Do not bear a grudge thing of the past
Ma'am, we can not change the past, it can not be erased. People like the sea, put the past in the past, began to make the start.
Rousseau said: people live most meaningful, is not that one of the most long-lived, but for the life experience of most people.
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