Friendship is not a line, not mass-produced, can have a certain friendship, even deep feelings, which are mostly private order.
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I found myself in a circle of friends more and more people. All kinds of friends, classmates, relatives, colleagues has slowly filled up my friends list.
Even long out of the circle of friends, you'll get dozens of points praise.
I sometimes complacent, feeling that he is a very successful man, there is so much attention being my friend.
But the real trouble when I want to talk, I will find a search list, but I can not find a few can really listen to my troubles, give me support and encouragement of friends.
So sometimes, when I have trouble, I would prefer to send circle of friends.
Because in the piece circle of friends, I am much more, I want to get some encouragement and comfort, consolation and even those who really do not have much indulgence.
I often think that the most important function of micro letter, is not easy for people to chat communication, nor is it convenient for people to transfer red envelopes, but it created a fragile and wide circle of friends.
Micro-letters, so that "add friends", with a sense of ceremony.
Just sweep the two-dimensional code, you have a contact between me, I was able to participate in your life, you learn the latest trends, so we became friends.
Though at times we only just met, in addition to each other's names, we know nothing.
Although sometimes, met today in addition, since never intersect.
Sometimes though, you have not seen me, I have not seen you.
Micro letter, the need to get along with each other, in order to establish the relationship became simplified, just a two-dimensional code scanning, you can set up the so-called "circle of friends."
It need each other, careful management of feelings, became simplified, as long as a "like" and a "comments", will be able to heat up emotions.
It looks like we broaden social circles, with a wider network of people, but in fact, are just "invalid" social and "fragile" friendship.
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Sociable, became the basic literacy of adults.
No communicative competence of a social person, in this highly competitive society, it will be eliminated every minute.
But sometimes, a number of friends really do not equal more than one way.
Two days ago, one of my friend Joe, sent to hospital for first aid.
Because drinking, stomach bleeding.
Joe is a friend with senior experience "old marketing" because of the nature of the work's sake, the pressure to drink is inevitable.
Fortunately, this time, near misses.
I put the fruit to go to the hospital to see him, his side only next to his wife to take care of.
See me coming, Joe eyes red. Xu is due to go outside the gate of hell for a while, his whole people become sentimental up.
“我住院这几天，我平常称兄道弟的哥们，一个个见不到踪影，倒是你抽空过来了。”
老乔和我是老朋友了，他性格豪爽，人脉很广，业务做得很广，所以结识了不少商场上的朋友。
在生意场上，人脉就是财富。所以他常常得意于自己广阔的人脉。
但，这个社会就是这样：锦上添花易，雪中送炭难。
往往都是，真正到了患难时刻，才见到人心。
老乔的酒肉朋友认识了不少，但真正到了关键时刻才发现，其实压根没人把他当做一回事。
其实我们身边，像老乔这样的人，真的不在少数。
他们好像谁都认识，不管去医院还是去银行，总会有熟人、也总有点关系。
很多时候，这层人脉真的能够解决很多事情。
但你也应该注意的是，这层人脉关系的背后，是同等的利益交换。
你只看到了他们有那么多人脉，却没看到对方为了维持这层关系，耗费了多少精力，多花了多少财力。
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我们应该认识到一点：
别人帮助你，是基于“你值不值得帮”这一判断的。
所以如果我们不够优秀，那么这层人脉其实是不值钱的。
人脉不是讨好来的！而是吸引和交换而来的！
只有合理的、等价的交换，才能得到平等的关系和合理的帮助。
所以，在你刷遍好友列表，却找不到一个人倾诉烦恼的时候，你应该反省一下，当别人有烦恼找你倾诉的时候，你是耐心去开导了，还是不耐烦的转移了话题。
唯有真心才能换真心。
别让朋友圈里脆弱的“交情”占据了你的交际圈。
真正的朋友，其实并不会在意，你今天有没有给他朋友圈点赞评论。
他更在意的是，当他需要帮助的时候，你是不是第一时间出现在他的身边。
当然，社交，也是这个社会必需的，即便是一些“虚假”或者“脆弱”的社交。
有人问：职场上，什么才算是有效的社交？
其实，最有效的社交就是成就他人的社交。
因为成就了他人的同时，你也会成就自己。
但我们也需要清楚的知道一点：
职场上，没有永恒的朋友，只有永恒的利益。
这世界，熙熙攘攘，皆为利来，熙熙攘攘，也皆为利往。
职场上，社交的基本原则是，互相给予、互相交换。
要想维持一段有效、积极的关系，就得保持两方的平衡和对等。
礼尚往来、知恩图报，是职场的规则。
In a word:
Do your really are spent on social pleasing type.
A true friend, you do not need to please, only your heart.