With the popular broadcast of "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", Miss Wang Zhi was eliminated in the first performance, and Yi Nengjing's post-match interview brought out the keyword "Yi Nengjing pua".
There are many discussions on Weibo about this. "Some netizens said that Wang Zhi and Wang Likun are friends who lived together under Yi Nengjing's pua." This comment received over 10,000 likes.
So what exactly is pua? In simple terms, PUA is to achieve the purpose of suppressing, brainwashing, possessing, controlling, and deceiving the target object by packaging itself.
Yi Nengjing showed in the show: how I used to be, how powerful I am. What did you do wrong, how do you want to correct it, I am kind-hearted and help you point it out and help you correct it, listen to my preaching carefully, and remember to thank me for helping you so much.
The most eye-catching part of "Iranian-style PUA" is "to belittle others and elevate oneself, so as to convince others." This made me inadvertently think that there are often PUAs in the workplace!
Be wary of PUA in the workplace!
Workplace PUA: The practice of this skill in the workplace, through the means of continuously suppressing employees' self-confidence, denying employees' abilities, personal attacks, creating anxiety and other negative emotions, makes employees feel that they have achieved nothing and cannot find a better job if they leave their current positions. Work, and thus a means of obeying the words of the manager.
"Workplace PUA" is highly concealed and deeply harmful. Many newcomers in the workplace, and even "community animals" in the workplace are deeply involved in it without knowing it. Next, let's take a look at the common workplace PUAs and how to see and dismantle them~
Identifying "Workplace PUA" - "Seeing the tricks and dismantling them"
1. "I know this at a glance, why don't you always?"
proceed if you can! Some people seem to know everything, but when you ask him, what he said is specious, and sometimes he slaps his face to pretend to be fat. For this kind of demeaning pua, don't take it psychologically, it's just their mouth!
2. "I didn't expect you to be so much worse than I expected."
Expectations are his own definition. A good manager should put forward specific training plans and work requirements for you, instead of belittling employees by failing to meet expectations. At this time, maybe you can directly ask, what is your expectation? What kind?
3. "It is for your own good to let you work overtime. In order to let you grow faster, some companies don't even have 996 opportunities"
How could someone talk about squeezing in such a sober and refined way! Working overtime for legitimate reasons is unavoidable, but this kind of typical workplace pua of "Story Archway", be confident and fight back!
4. "I really don't know how the company recruited you. Did you come in based on your relationship?"
Hearing this, self-doubt? You don't have to. Passing the interview, written test and trial period shows that I am qualified for this job.
If it is not suitable for you to recruit me and keep me here, it is your dereliction of duty in the first place.
5. "Compared with others, you are not good at anything, and you are inferior to others in everything"
First of all, if I was really that bad, the company wouldn't hire me. Secondly, everyone has their own advantages, and the team is also composed of different people with different advantages.
If you can't find my strengths and this team doesn't need me, then there is a team that suits me.
How to fight PUA in the workplace
Someone asked on Weibo: Among the sisters who ride the wind and waves, who is the least likely to be pua by Yi Nengjing?
The two answers with the highest praise are as follows:
Huang Shengyi: It’s not certain who pua is (Huang Shengyi said in an interview that ynj may lack a little bit of dance)
Lan Yingying: I can't hear people say she can't do it (if I say I can't do it, then I can show you)
Of course, the above is just a joke, the five elements of anti-workplace PUA:
1. Continuous learning and self-improvement
2. Maintain self-confidence and affirm self-worth
3. Set self-acceptance values
4. Understand equality and mutual respect
5. Don’t forget to be happy when you forget everything
Being PUA in the workplace is like being cheated by a scumbag in a relationship. "The sooner you get rid of it, the better." Of course, the most important thing is to improve your self-strength and maintain self-confidence. It is difficult to be PUA!
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