I read "Vital Relations" some time ago. Although the book has been discontinued for many years, some of the theories in the book reflect all aspects of the entity's current life. This article summarizes the essence of the book and shares it with everyone.
Shoot before aim
The traditional workplace behavior patterns are: prepare, aim, and shoot. But now in order to adapt to the rapidly changing world, more and more people or products adopt new modes: aim, shoot, aim again, shoot again, aim again, shoot again...
If you are engaged in Internet-related fields, you will know that this model is what the Internet talks about: iterate quickly and run in small steps.
For Internet products, the only way to quickly try and make mistakes, quickly obtain market feedback, and quickly seize the market.
If this criterion is used in the workplace, it is to aim at new opportunities at any time and quickly withdraw, instead of waiting until unemployment is started to consider another way out.
About changes
Andy Grove once said: "Only paranoia can survive." It means that success is short and perfection is hard to stay. When you take success for granted, your competitors are ready to beat you.
Hastings said: Most of the time, changes in the world will be sudden, making you hard to defend.
Relationship with self
There is a sign on National Highway 101 that runs through the San Francisco Bay Area. It says: 1 million overseas people can do your job. What is special about you?
Competitive advantage is formed by the interaction of three different and constantly changing forces: your assets, your pursuit/values and market reality, that is, the supply and demand of your comprehensive capabilities in the competitive market.
Relationship with the future
"What color is your parachute? "The first chapter reads: Before applying for a job, it is important to determine what you want. Whether it's the career you love, your goal or mission in life... Passion comes first, job hunting comes second.
The second habit listed in "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People": "Start with the end".
"Leveraged Life": Everyone on this planet has an innate goal.
ABZ plan
ABZ plan: A plan refers to the work we are doing, the purpose is to give play to our competitive advantage; B plan, what we try to do in our spare time, what we can do when the opportunity comes; Z plan, the AB plan failed Time can prepare us to stand up again.
For example, plan A is the current job, plan B is a sideline, and plan Z is life-saving money in the bank.
General advice for the ABZ plan: make a plan based on competitive advantages, put learning first, learn in practice, place some smaller bets, make a two-step plan in advance, and keep an identity distance from the boss.
The last one is to say: build an identity that has nothing to do with your profession. When you lose a profession, you can still control your own destiny through this identity.
Relationship with others
What your team is like, your company will be like.
Interpersonal relationships are important because the people around you influence and decide which kind of person you will become.
Everything is revolving around "me": me, me, me. Why do we pay little attention to friends, partners, and colleagues who invisibly influence the formation of our personality?
The most difficult problem in dealing with human relationships is how to see the problem from the perspective of others instead of just thinking about yourself.
The three characteristics of the alliance: first, the alliance is the person you often ask for opinions, and you believe in his judgment; second, when you encounter an opportunity, you will first think of sharing and cooperating with it; third, you will Introduce his alliance to other friends and help him build his reputation.
Trust is a habitual mutual relationship that slowly becomes a feeling. As two people slowly discover that they can rely on each other, this emotion continues to develop. Soon, members who trust each other will not only be willing to cooperate with each other, but also willing to sacrifice for each other.
The paper "The Power of Weak Connections" concludes: Those friends you don't know well are the ones who can recommend good jobs for you.
Small social circles usually restrict you, resulting in you not getting richer experience, opportunities, and information. Weak connections can become a bridge to another world, so they may bring information and opportunities you don't know.
Six-dimensional space theory: The earth is a huge social network, and it only takes about six middlemen to connect any two people together. The world is small and the connection between everyone is so close.
Ben Franklin: If you want to make friends, let others do you a little favor.
People will change, so will you. Some relationships cannot continue after reaching a certain step.
Relationship with risk
Reed Hastings of Netflix said: If you do not really experience the pain of risk when making strategic choices, then this may not be considered a strategy.
Risks are always there, which is why career plan A needs to constantly complement career plans B and Z.
Neuropsychologist Qi Hansen said: In order to keep our ancestors alive, Mother Nature would play with them from time to time and make them make three mistakes: overestimating risks, underestimating opportunities, and underestimating resources. The result is that it is always easy for us to overestimate risk in any situation.
Buffett: Fear when others are greedy, and greedy when others are fearful.
Small fires prevent large burns: fires will occur in the forest. The fires are not so serious and easy to be controlled. Large areas of bushes will be burned, so that it is not easy to cause larger fires.
"Anti-fragility" also mentions the relationship with risk: the wind will extinguish the candle, but it can make the fire more and more prosperous. The same goes for randomness, uncertainty and chaos: you have to use them, not avoid them. You want to be a fire, longing to be blown by the wind.
summary
In the self-media era, everyone has unlimited ways to amplify their influence, and they can also build their own business strategy. But we must learn to deal with our relationship with ourselves, with others, with the future, and with risk, in order to cope with this rapidly changing world.
Original link: " What kind of self you have when you have a relationship with the world "
