Author: North Ming take marine
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More contact with people, only to find that this is not my one example, the story that continue to unfold in the side.
Therefore, I want to say to the young age of 25, no more than [want clear goals in life, people know what to do] is more important.
1- how to think clearly it?
Successful biography is not reliable, it was after their homecoming, to deify himself and for the kind words. You only know its brilliant, but do not know Diablo hardships, and after the failure of what to face.
Or to have more contact with various people experience, understand their status.
For example, you want to be a university teacher, the Internet code of agriculture, serial entrepreneur, then go to know these people, look at their income and pay, joy and pain, whether you think the same.
Compared with winners, losers and more worth knowing. Whether each target successfully, are random.
After the listing or twenty billion worth five billion, but a number, and run to despair and desperation after the failure of all entrepreneurs, it is the most need of discretion.
2- How should set the goal of it?
Standard is no longer the envy of those different channels winner.
Aiming to become an author, you do not worry wealthy business leaders; by going to seek Buddha, met beautiful as her place Uxorilocal not even think about.
Distress caused by envy abandon these poles apart, not only make you closer to your own definition of success, but also let your happiness be greatly enhanced.
If you have not and standing, think the first half of life, whether you are tadpoles Brownian motion, or tortoise assured before the line. Once missed this time, into middle age years living jagged curse, I am afraid to do so will no longer have time to think, only to drift up. For me, the 28-year-old is lucky that fortune, such as drill-like plains whittled the four weeks cliff, and cracking down dark night to take my breath away. It urged me later period of time, trying to clear goals in life. Before long, I resigned from Microsoft Research abundant stable work. My goal with this article has nothing to do, not worth mentioning.
After that, my biggest change is the completely ignore how others see me, you scolded me for adults slag or, hailed as a saint worth mentioning, do not stand in my way, then another and I matter? Target looks difficult to determine: successful people in society, on the campus of the familiar. Pick a role model from Ma, Ma Dongmin or Maradona was not on the list? in fact,
3- For most people, this is not a given purpose, for meaning. We know the constraints, that is, from where, what are the limitations, often more important than the goal. Regardless of the starting point forward, the result is often tragic.
For example, for the average person, if your goal is a million a year, the appreciation for hard work pay it wants; but if given a small target Wang Jianlin, and no Sicong of the capital, only to give up that work, buy a lottery ticket every day.
4- the man of accomplishment as your goal is not wrong, but must first think about it, if you can bear the corresponding costs: If you want to serve laid-off parents, it would have to guarantee a stable income,
do not like Wang did serial entrepreneur, to stroke one-thousandth of the future; on the contrary, if you are a wealthy people, then do not find a dead iron rice bowl mixed with food waste of life;
5- If your body is already bad, do not dry-paying jobs that bring money for the rest of my life.
6- As for me that year, give yourself the constraint is to maintain work-life balance, make physical and mental state gradually changed for the better.
Under this constraint, I never add formalism of classes, nor participate in various entertainment career, yes, the boss also try not to treat. Clarify the goal after constraints, often could not find role models in the celebrity biographies.
7- For most people, the goal would be "to stay in Shanghai to take care of their parents, for forty-five retirement" or "buy a house in Beijing, to become influential scholars." It looks a bit low is not it? But this is real fresh.
So, I did not use such words mission or ideal.
8- You see, life is like a song of the teacher as a constrained optimization problem.
25-year-olds, a long-term perspective, to find a clear purpose in life; Second, we must look down the road, the former must bring luggage line.
8- A friend said: you said makes sense, but did not help. Because people can not stand the foot to appreciate the panoramic top of the mountain, and then map out the best hiking trails. In fact, the
essence is that, as long as clear and measurable objectives, the route is not so important, that kind of rattling simulated annealing can find the best.
(You know the difference between simulated annealing and Brownian motion of it?)
9- So, as long as you concentrate, not afraid of you as good as others.
Do not forget, in front of Hong eighty-one difficult to learn on the road, led us walked raids the monastery, not be seventy change the Monkey King.
10- short life to face the numerous temptations to master many skills. To a career with no limits, Scots carry on.
11- know where to go, come, your life will not be smooth sailing though, it will be able to go further.