Source: Dr. Fai - BV1b24y1x7Gg
Hello everyone, I am Ahui, a doctor of law. Today I will talk to you about a topic related to internal friction. In a word, the best way to fight internal friction is to treat all unimportant people as NPCs. Let’s start without talking nonsense. Of course, if This point of view makes you feel a little interesting.
And if you are willing to give it a like, thank you very much. I wish you a fortune. This video is not about how you see or think, because anxiety or internal friction are not things that can be controlled by yourself. Just like being nervous, it doesn't mean that if you think clearly about being nervous, it's useless and harmful.
You can control yourself so that you are not nervous. I don’t know if you have experienced it. For example, before the interview before the exam, someone told you not to be nervous. It's nonsense, if I can control my nervousness, can I still use it to say it.
The essence of this kind of thing is the same, it is because you know that it has no positive meaning, it is harmful but you cannot control its occurrence, so it makes people anxious, so our logic today is more that you know it What you know how to do, and then your approach is right.
After doing it a few times, I started to get positive feedback, so this thing disappeared naturally. Then what is the internal friction we are talking about? It is actually a process of the brain repairing bugs. Think about it, based on our cognition, There are some judgments about this world.
For example, if we walk to a small shop where we eat every day, then the problem of what I eat for lunch will be solved from the moment I walk into this shop, but sometimes reality will have some changes to your perception. Shock, for example, the restaurant you frequent is not open today.
This is a shock. It broke my expectations. Because of this shock, I need to rethink. Where do I go to eat today? A small bug appeared. Although this bug is very small, I can ignore it, and it will be solved if I eat in another place. There is no need to repair it specially, but if it is a big thing.
It can't help me not to think in my heart, for example, if I perform very well in my honest work, then in theory, I should be promoted and should have a raise, and at least get some verbal praise. I was laid off, so I couldn't help thinking about what I did wrong that caused me to be laid off.
Is it because I was a little late and didn't get full attendance, or because I didn't correct a few typos in an important document I handed in, or because I bumped into the boss on the road and made a joke and he didn't finish it. Choi, it seems like I'm driving a bit inappropriate blah blah blah, that's once you start thinking like that.
You will find that each one can be solved, but none of the explanations is very convincing, so you can only continue to dig down from your memory, digging for details endlessly, which enters an endless loop, that is Every time you dig, you deny yourself once.
But these things cannot be established, so you can only continue to dig down, denying yourself and hitting yourself infinitely, which leads to a kind of spiritual internal friction that is getting more and more serious, not only at work but also in other aspects of life, such as relationships, a period of your life A feeling that is very serious and carefully managed.
In the end, it was forced to end, and it may be difficult for you to avoid entering this state of internal friction. All in all, once you encounter a serious impact that you cannot ignore, internal friction will begin, and this internal friction can only become more and more serious. Seriously, because in general you have existing information.
It is impossible to analyze this matter clearly. The occurrence of this kind of problem that may lead to your internal friction state has a high probability that it has nothing to do with what you did before. For example, the reason why you were fired is probably only because you were fired. It is cheaper, because HR layoffs are not based on who's performance is good or bad.
He is based on the logic of whoever has the lowest cost, but if you don’t know this information before, and you always think from the perspective of your poor performance at work, then you will most likely enter an endless internal friction cycle , This is the basis of our idea, treating most people as NPCs.
Treating this world as a linear plot game can solve most of the internal friction problems you encounter. Why, because most of your internal frictions are generated by human feedback. You said that if you cut a whole business The chain is cut from top to bottom, so you will have internal friction, you will not be right.
Because you know very well that this matter has nothing to do with you, you have to be cut no matter what you do, then when will you have internal friction, everyone will lay you off, and this time you will internal friction , You will uncontrollably wonder what the person who cut you thinks and what you did wrong.
Let others decide to lay you off, but once this kind of thing happens, there is often a huge information gap between you and the person you are forced to think about. With your own information, it is impossible for you to understand this matter, so Uncontrollable, I always want to keep thinking, but there is no output, so internal friction comes.
Then enter the second ring, you repeatedly think that you can’t just follow suit, but this matter has a great impact on your reality, and you can’t think about it, so you can only cover it with a catch-all clause, such as Why did the leader lay off you, because my ability is poor, for example, I have paid so much for this girl.
Why doesn't she like me, because I'm ugly, because I don't deserve it, so a kind of continuous mental suppression comes, this kind of thing is sometimes called self PoA, in a word, a shock that can't be ignored and can't be solved will make you Internal friction occurs, so please think about it with me.
Will the NPCs in the game impact you, there will still be impacts, but this impact will not cause you internal friction, because you know that this is a set program or an abnormal bug, no matter what the reason is, it must be It has nothing to do with your actions. For example, you sent back to the big servo in the soul of Elden Fa.
This was supposed to be a safe house, and it was supposed to be your own people, but once you passed it back, an NPC came up and chopped you down, and you didn't know why, but it was also a kind of shock. The setting is to kill you, so you just need to kill him, how can it be so troublesome.
There is no doubt that this NPC must not kill you because you did something wrong or said something wrong, and you will not worry about what the NPC thinks, because no matter what you think, what you do is the same, whether you get it or not This difference, when you assume that the other party is a person or a player.
You will think about what the other person thinks, this is a habit or instinct of us as human beings, but when you understand that the other person is just an NPC, you will not think about what he thinks, because you know that he is just a program and a code , he had no idea.
You won't be internalized or over-interpreted because of any feedback from him, and how the NPC will treat you and what you did before, these two things have almost nothing to do with each other, you can only understand that the plot has progressed to this point, this Things are bound to happen.
He didn't leave the team because you didn't equip him or give him medicine, and he didn't kill you because you didn't talk to him at any time. It's just that he would do it according to the design of the program. When you use this logic to face you When most of the unimportant people in your life, you will find that most of the shock is gone.
Your brain doesn’t have so many bugs to fix, and the corresponding mental friction will disappear seven to eight out of ten, and generally speaking, this is in line with objective facts. For example, why did your leader suddenly scold you today? There may indeed be something wrong with what you're doing.
But the greater probability is that he was stuck in traffic and drunk today, he was scolded by his boss, his child took the bottom of the exam, his wife cheated, etc. You have no way of knowing, you have to think about it It doesn't matter at all to understand why he wants to do this to you.
He is just a wild monster that you meet when you go out and will attack you. You just need to think about whether I can beat him, should I fight him or should I run, and if I beat him, should I use physics or magic? Wait for these things to be clear. And how you deal with him has nothing to do with why he hit you.
It is recommended that there are no more than seven people in your life at the same time, and the rest will be dealt with as NPCs. You will meet many, many NPCs in your life. The proprietress, he may sell you weapons and medicine.
Some will attack you and some will become your teammates, so you see, if you can treat all unimportant and uncontrollable people as NPCs, your life will be much easier. , such as embarrassment, timidity and loss of face, none of these things will have any impact on you.
Because they are just NPCs, if you fight evil and die 20 times or 100 times, will Gotok look at you and care what he thinks? As long as you become the king of Elden, the game is over and he will disappear Now, how embarrassed and embarrassing you are today has nothing to do with him.
Well, the above is how to see and the following is how to do it. To sum up, first, there should not be more than seven people or players in your life at the same time. Second, if there are two different ways to deal with people and NPCs, you only need to understand each other when dealing with people. The idea of trying to empathize with the other person.
For NPCs, you don’t need the simplest behaviors and shadows. For example, if you chase a girl who is not sure whether she likes you, the first step is to judge whether he is an NPC or a human. There is no doubt that he must be an NPC. , unless the relationship has been established and the relationship has stabilized enough to consider marriage.
Before that, don’t look at the other party as a player. You must treat the other party as an NPC. This is the same regardless of boys or girls. The second step is that since the other party is an NPC, remember that first, don’t empathize, and second, you don’t need to know What does the other party think.
You just need to formulate some process and repeat the test. Initiating a date request directly is like inviting an NPC teammate to join the team. If the other party agrees, then you go to the next step. If the other party does not agree, it means that the matter is yellow. If you directly replace an NPC and keep replacing it, there will definitely be a success.
It's that simple, don't think about the reason why he rejected me, how can I do better and the next one is better, he won't reject me, once you think so, you start to treat the other person as a human being, but please You remember that you treat the other party as a human being before the other party treats you as a human being. This is a very dangerous behavior.
At least first see that the other party may consider you as a human being, and the same is true if you want to give the other party away from NPC-level work. Try to treat your leaders and colleagues as NPCs and do whatever you want. Don't correct the other party's mistakes and don't develop your own ideas in the process.
If you are tired and unable to work, just say that you feel the signs of being trampled and quickly start a resume, unless the other party is likely to become your bole, unless you think it is possible to build a career with the other party, of course, it is emphasized that most people have no career in the first place Or something like the future, don't add drama to yourself.
Generally speaking, as we said at the beginning, first think about this matter clearly and then practice according to this logic. Once the practical operation starts to give feedback, you will find that your internal friction has basically disappeared. Finally, we will summarize our topic today.
In the past, I often wondered whether primitive people or ancient people were as tired as our modern people today. My conclusion may be that there is no. Even if their material conditions are different from those of the present, most of the things that lead to human beings have not yet been born in their time. .
But these tiring and internal friction things are all invented by people in the end. They are ever-changing and you can't understand them alone. Then you can only say that the people who made them or the people who implemented them are all Isolated, and more importantly, this society is as complex as it is complex and as simple as it is simple.
At least I think there are not as many people who are really important to you and have influence on you. Some young friends who have just stepped into the society often have the kind of words that someone who has nothing to do with you can make you ponder This kind of thing for one night is actually the root of internal friction.
In short, when you start to understand that most people in your life are NPCs, you have taken a big step forward in realizing your own freedom. After all, we have suffered so much hard work and grievances along the way, and it is not for dedicating it. For some people who have nothing to do with you, right, this good video is here.
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