Time as a friend - dilemma

1. Question:
Maybe because the exam is approaching, maybe because of work needs, you must read a book now. This book is not an easy text, so it can't have ten lines at a glance - it requires you to read and understand it carefully, and even requires you to further create something based on the principles or rules it states, in order to be truly rewarded.
  You decide, "officially"!
  After a while, I'm thirsty, go get some water...
  the water you got is wrong, go and change a bottle...
  the TV was turned on accidentally, it happened to be the host you like to watch, and I watched it for a while. ......
  A good friend called and asked to go shopping...
  I had a chat with my good friend on the phone...
  Finally, at a certain moment, you exclaimed: "Grass, no It's time!"
This embarrassment, whoever it is, has either experienced it or will experience it. with no exceptions. Once this embarrassment occurs, the pressure on the client is enormous, and the panic caused can often make the client make absurd decisions that make others unthinkable: self-contradiction, self-deception, desperate, wishful thinking... and so on, etc. foot.
  Tasks should all have a deadline.
  The problem seems to be very simple:
a. did not start the task on time;
b. wrongly estimated the time required to complete it;
c. there was an error in the execution of the task; if so, it is easy
  to solve. . But the fact is not so simple, otherwise there will not be so many people helpless in their lives;
2, panic;
They are full of contradictions - they are "hardworking and lazy." They get up early every weekend, rush to the bus to go to class before 8:30 am, and they may play video games or get sleepy during the class, but obviously they are more diligent than sleeping in at home. But at the same time, they also show a tendency to be lazy at any time.
"Only learning to think correctly can mean truly evolving into an adult."
After repeated inquiries and certification observations, I finally understood that the bizarre phenomenon that many students are "diligent and lazy" comes from their feelings of "time pressure". The panic of "running out of time" or "running out of time" makes them extraordinarily diligent. Even if it's just false "diligence", it can make them want to forget to eat and sleep. And the same feeling also makes them not forget to look for shortcuts all day long, euphemistically calling it "improving efficiency", but in fact thinking "best effortless". No matter what kind of behavior, it is definitely unrealistic, because there is "no time" - this is the cold fact.
  "There's no time" is the only phrase that repeatedly flashes in the minds of patients with "time panic". Huge pressure and extreme panic make the "patients" synthesize all contradictions; they are diligent and lazy, smart and stupid, brave and cowardly, full of hope and face despair every second, full of confidence and ready to go. Inferiority everywhere....
  But there are clearly other people in life - albeit not numerically dominant - living in a different state. They are calm, they are graceful, they are good at defuse all kinds of pressure, quietly do what they think they should do, and always achieve something. They can even reach a state unimaginable by ordinary people—not happy with things, not sad about themselves.
3. Resolve:
  There is no doubt that we cannot manage practice.
  Although the embarrassment we face is "no time", in essence, this embarrassment has little to do with time.
  We can't manage time, what we can really manage is ourselves. Only by accepting this simple fact can there be hope for a solution to the problem. "Time is unmanageable", although it sounds simple, but understanding it and accepting it is not so easy. Because, it's not necessarily (and almost certainly isn't) an idea you've identified with in the past.
  People have a hard time accepting information and ideas that contradict their prior knowledge and experience. Because a person's existing mere and concepts are screened repeatedly, although many are indoctrinated. People are more willing to believe that they have a certain ability to judge and will not be easily fooled. Even some "taken for granted" ideas tend to be viewed as "conclusions after thought." "The earth is flat", so that at the moment when it was proved wrong, the first thought was not "Ah? So it is!" but "Bullshit! It's not like that!"
  The more the concept instilled, the more Wrong, the more amazing the reproductive capacity, the more stubborn it becomes over time, until finally, it can blind a person unknowingly and make him lose his ability to grow mentally.
  Time cannot be managed. The mind must be opened to see clearly, to understand: the problem is with us. And the problems we face have little to do with time, management, or time management. There is only one core idea for solving problems - everything depends on accumulation. Believe in the power of accumulation, time is your friend, otherwise, it is your enemy.

From --- "Take time as a friend"