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I recently learned a new word: "begin a fan" .
Next, I want to give some examples, I believe it will poke the pain points of many people.
Are there many people who feel that buying a book is equivalent to reading it on their own?
Are there many people who feel that buying a fitness card is equivalent to going to the gym?
Is there a lot of people who buy a column for learning programming, which is equivalent to mastering this technology?
That's right, this is the beginning enthusiast. Then I would like to ask my heart: Am I a "beginning lover"?
We bought a book, a fitness card, and a column for learning programming, but we never implemented it, did not read, did not exercise, did not study, but we always felt that we had a book I feel that I have exercised my body and that I have mastered this technique.
Do you make a plan, but never insist on it, just enjoy the happiness of the few days when you made the plan? Regarding the beginning as a result, this is the psychological habit of most people, and we call it "beginning lovers".
Why do everyone like to be "starting fans"? The reason is that implementing a plan is much more difficult than making a plan, so "starting fans" generally do not choose to stick to it, but choose another start.
They make plans just to satisfy their inner anxiety or the desire of the moment, remember: the present, the thoughts at the time. Once the current situation and stage have passed and enter another stage, another plan will be made and the choice will start.
For example: One day Xiao Wang ate a big meal and was very satisfied, but when he came home, he weighed 75 kg, and he thought to himself: No, I am too fat, I have to lose weight, I need half a fitness card . Then the next day I went to the gym next to the building to get a fitness card.
For example: One night, when Xiaocheng stayed up late at the company to work overtime, he saw a colleague next to him was learning a column course on concurrent programming. After you saw it, I felt that I had to learn too, otherwise he would be left behind, and I had to Go buy a set of technical columns to learn.
Then, after Xiao Wang spent 3,000 yuan to complete the fitness card, he went to the gym; and Xiao Cheng, after buying the technical column, he forgot to forget about 3 courses after reading the 3 courses.
They all have the same problem and fault, which is the passionate decision without hesitation under the circumstances at the time.
Without careful consideration of his own brain, without careful planning and arrangement.
If you want to get rid of this way, avoid your own passionate consumption, and avoid becoming a "starting fan", then learn to "wait for a decision."
What does that mean?
For example, a few days ago, I watched the Apple iPhone 12 mobile phone conference. After watching the various propaganda and speeches made by Cook at the conference, was it very exciting? The next day I wanted to say that I must buy and I also want an iPhone 12. For most people, they would go to the official website to place an order.
No, I'm not like this. I give myself a week. After a week, I will ask myself: Do you really need it? At this time, I hesitated. Maybe I know at this moment that buying iPhone 12 may not be what I just need.
After another week, I asked myself: Do you really want to buy? I took a look at the phone in my hand. I don’t need it anymore. My phone can last for 1 year. Why should I buy it? Show off? My decision was made at this time, and I would not buy it.
"Waiting for a decision" is to let your brain rest for a while, or let your passions and ideas fly for a while, after the flight is over, if you still want to buy, then buy.
The 75 kg above actually refers to me, but I did not purchase a fitness card. I said before, oh, it's hard to say a word, I didn't expect to be heavy again. I just thought I wanted to exercise. I wanted to apply for a fitness card, but I didn’t make a decision right away. Although I had an idea, I let the idea fly for a few days. After the flight, I became more rational and said in my heart that you are You can jump downstairs by yourself, isn't it more fragrant?
You have to buy a fitness card. In case you get busy and run out of time, and you can’t go several times a week, it’s better to buy a skipping rope, right, and convenient. When you get home, it’s better to jump downstairs a few hundred times a day.
Therefore, the way to avoid becoming a "starting fan" is to learn to "wait for a decision." Let your thoughts fly for a while, maybe you will be more rational.
If your thoughts fly several times, each time you ask yourself: Do I really need to do this? If the answer is affirmative, then execute it. The decision you make at this time has a high probability of success, because your inner desire is really strong, not caused by short-term passion.
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