Summary
I have recently read the book "This is China", "low self-esteem and beyond", "commercial nature", "to break the self-label."
Given my current level of knowledge, appreciation of the natural landscape still in 牛逼, 666level, "This is China" think geography is relatively small due to the beauty of introduction. Appreciation of beauty I still have self-knowledge, are some distance from the level of the public, too slowly. There are several other business, there are psychological, self-awareness. Simple talk about some of the insights it.
Career Development
"Commercial nature" This book is about the workplace have an interesting word, called 命运之域the word sounds like a new word, but in fact is a common theme. Is the meaning of life is to find the meaning of your existence , 命运之域it is to help you usher in the day as soon as possible. Then how does it work? In fact, methods or you've heard countless times: the deep analysis of their own, find your favorite and good. You have to spend enough time to explore their skills or characteristics. Then you comprehensive reality, such as the financial situation, to find a balance between reality and the ideal, then slowly transition to this you like and are good at.
This method is heard countless times, but has not to fall. why? Listen to me analyze.
First look at the good things, basically no.
- Programming: write code to write for so many years, there was some experience. But not really good at, after all, five years or this level.
- Logical thinking / reasoning: really good, a basic literacy engineering students.
- Writing: a child fairly prominent, very sensitive to life, but also to write some essay to impress people, grow up, is average.
Look like something, because it is grown in the fields in the countryside, I never went to training courses. Therefore, hobbies, music, fine arts and I missed.
- Education: Education is really like, but that it is more meaningful and rewarding. No experience, I do not know where the bitterness of Kula.
- Knight: like wandering, had a dream sword wander. Idealized life, too floating.
- Programming: once loved, become daily after work, there will be a intermittent resist.
Therefore, this method is very difficult to implement, in this fast-paced modern industrialized society, screws, and explore the unique characteristics of individual hard. Not so many opportunities for you to experience a different work and life in order to find you are good at, like.
Inferiority and Overcome
"Humility and beyond" author A Deqin think everyone has varying degrees of inferiority, superiority and inferiority of the compensation for. But there is an inferiority complex is not a bad thing, because it inspires people continue to strive for excellence, to overcome their own obstacles. The concept of childhood huge impact on the lives of everyone. Fortunately, people, life is cured in childhood; unfortunate people, life in the cure childhood .
Who wants to understand their own, you have to constantly explore their own childhood memories, so you can deep understanding of their own. So in the dead of night a night, I really fucked one. Words recorded everything. This process is really a process of self-flagellation, wrote later, I was crying to go on, splinters, keyboard wet. I have a bad memory loss, forget a lot of things, or else estimated to have depression. This article I have the courage to come out publicly, set to private, a person slowly aftertaste.
Obviously I was kind of need a lifetime to heal childhood. But this fact is not so can shoot, sounds like very poor, in fact, will not, but also worthwhile depression. You can heal through their own efforts.
I had two important cure, cure now basically good.
Psychology cure
The first time was in college entrance examination. Admitted to the university, to be happy, but do not know what a professional newspaper, reported that the only think is the psychological profession, did not know why, now that I think is actually a kind of inner self-healing, eager to better ourselves. Finally, of course I did not report this profession, because everyone says this profession too pulled, could not find work. So I went to school the other professional. Newly enrolled freshman, very confused and do not know what to do. It is too boring, so in the library to see psychology books, I read one or two months, before the discovery of their own self-esteem of those ideas are nothing, even ridiculous, because everybody says so in the book, this is not your unique individual , that since it is not unique to me, what is there to do self-esteem. I was too caught before self, and neglect their contact with others, and society. So easily immersed in their own world, unable to extricate themselves.
The self-healing, give me the biggest feeling is one thing more you understand, the more you feel it mystical, esoteric, not pondering. To explore it, to figure out, and found nothing to fear.
Healing love
The second is to cure my wife loved. Before I go through self-healing, self-transcendence completed, people have become very confident. But these limited contacts with classmates and friends, teachers, strangers. For the opposite sex, or a deeper level of exchange is not enough natural. In layman's terms, it is not to express their love, can not accept other people's love. Love as a burden, eager to love others, afraid to lose. I want others to love themselves, afraid to hurt others. Often trapped in the narrow world of self, and self tangled.
In five years, along with his wife in her love and tolerance cured me. I realized that another level of healing, learned to love and be loved.
Of course now I still have flaws, so I still have self-exploration, self-depth analysis, expectations constantly improve themselves.
Self-break tag
This book too have feelings, Chen Huping author is Doctor of Philosophy, but the main title is New Oriental teacher. On the extreme point of view and sharp, Zhichuo the depths of your soul. Before reading this book I was in the third stage of self-exploration, how to establish contact with society. That day just to eat with friends recently when talking to the confusion, I felt at a certain stage, unable to establish contact with this cold society and self-seeking, a bottleneck of self, not break. But the feeling they can not clearly described, it is naturally not break. After talking a few days, to see this book, be part of the solution of my confusion.
The authors say
2012, I mainly emphasize self, emphasizing thinking. The past few years and reading experience, so I understand the importance of action and society. Before I very much believe that, do not be compared with others, keep yourself than in the past, constantly negated, there is a wonderful life. However, little progress or progress for several years before it may be considered acceptable. This idea is still too self, take yourself too seriously in the past. Keep than others, than with peers. To rely shun human motivation: the status of competition. We lost the game on simmering endured. Do not mind the glass, do not argue. Always with his past than, progress is too slow, and you past this benchmark is it so important? Do past preferences and tastes too seriously. Compared with others, and they knew they progress so fast. Someone else is better than you have knowledge, money or social resources. External stimuli reflect more violent than the heart, more direct, it hurts your pride. You really want to fight! It does not matter with independent personality, who is the point of sentiment to push yourself.
Today we like to talk about 寒门难出贵子, 阶层固化because the results can not see the struggle, so start 佛系, self-satisfied, give up the competition, do not fight do not rob, not competition, Petty live their lives. The idea is contrary to human nature, born to compete .
Bustling city of night, lighted, you want to have one is yours. We come from all over the world, away from home, she came to the city to take root. Reality hit you in the face again and again. We began to complain about the government, he did not regret born a few years earlier, there is no good time to catch. Do not stay down, they can not be reconciled, all the way to their own pride, admitted to a good university, he came to the big city, now dingy back, self-retreat, is courage. So caught in the tangle of self, unable to extricate themselves, dilemma.
One thing to think clearly
- No matter what age, are all social strata, there is no accumulation of the family, from 0 to start as a clear understanding of self. Establish the correct target, do not set up too high, easily frustrated, step by step
The wise man of lofty
Too many smart people in big cities, like you desperately lot of people, why would a good opportunity to fall on your head? So to win the trust of others is very important. But many of us are not social habits, 996 to and from work, lying dead on weekends, and occasionally play with fellow classmates. Self, do things according to their own personality, willing to change yourself, do not trust people. Hate people seek personal gain, engage in relationships. Do not want to waste energy in relationships, plunged into a small intellectuals aloof and narcissistic.
This book is written by Chinese people, combined with China's national conditions and the current social context, worth a visit.