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Lead: I believe everyone has a problem, that is the best people in the end what is the difference with us, in fact, sometimes the difference between people is not large, large is thinking and habits.
Today, it allows us to share with you a few benefits everyone lifelong habit of thinking.
1 things cool and objective analysis of consciousness
I remember when an undergraduate, my major is journalism. At that time one has a profound theoretical knowledge and many years of practical experience in teaching the teacher told us: If there Which statement is worth to give everyone, and can have a lasting impact on everyone, I hope that we can in the future of learning, life and work always remind myself:
Do not be prejudiced anything. Stereotypes here, referring to the existing ready-made views and ideas.
When I first heard these words, I feel commonplace, did not much appreciate. But after that for a long period of practical experience and life experience, I gradually came to understand the value and weight of this sentence.
We live in a multi-layered cultural environment small circle of big trap, it is easy to mind certain things or people to form a generalization of fixed opinions, and to this view, by extension, while overlooked individual differences, which It is known as "stereotype" in the field of communication studies.
The tags of the habit of thinking can sometimes help us more quickly and easily cognition and judgment, but it more often, become a thinking shackles, he became solidified our path of barriers and obstacles.
For example, we often think that transcendentalization: money to bad men, some women wear cool is bad style, ugly people are more reliable, less educated people are more superficial ...... and so on and so on.
However, these concepts are often taught to our people, more often just our self-righteous. When we discard prejudices, calmly and objectively carry out some observation and analysis, the facts tend to give the theory a diametrically opposite answers.
Stereotyping is an unfriendly thing, it not only makes you paranoid closed, short-sighted, it will bring disaster to the independence of your thinking, your influence to establish healthy relationships with others . If you have a habit of thinking what is needed to establish the first up, I think, objective and dispassionate analysis of consciousness thing, doing my part.
2 rose to the challenge of solving the problem of consciousness
I have seen a popular question in the know almost: in the eyes of people with high emotional intelligence, how the world is?
There is such a brief and profound answer: no problem can not communicate, there is no contradiction can not be solved.
The face of difficulties first thought was to escape emotional catharsis, it is human nature, but a person can go far, and achieved much success, basically see if you can overcome all kinds of "human nature" to what extent.
There is such a story: a young boy in a stone, father Encourage your child to the next, as long as you go all out, be sure to get up and move. Ultimately failed to move up the child, he told his father: I've been doing all the. Father A: You are not doing all they could, because I'm with you, you have not asked for my help.
This story tells us that the so-called problem-solving difficulties, the attitude to be willing to communicate with the means to exhaust all possible.
In many cases, seemingly dead end, but as long as we step forward exploration, ask a mouth, do more, everything will be very different.
So, if you want to make your life a qualitative change, we must from this moment to establish a positive sense of their own to solve the problem, do not hesitate to tell myself, do not delay, diligent communication, immediate action.
Qin mouth of the poor can ask golden pony, Tuiqin of every man ran out of three miles.
3 rich thinking
What causes the rich get richer, the poor poorer? How much is the hands grasp the resources? A higher level of education they receive? I admit these are some practical factors. However, the real rich and poor widen the gap, the angle is thinking of looking at things and analyze problems.
Rich and poor look on what is the difference?
We the poor, or that ordinary people, are the hands of how many resources, how much dare to do things.
The rich, is a mind to think of something to do, I began to consider how to mobilize resources after the target laid down.
Rich people thinking the logical relationship between the "target" and "resources" to reverse over, so that they will not be some seemingly insurmountable barriers to locked. Because of this way of thinking, so nothing blocked lives they do one thing: No one can ask, can borrow money, do not understand can be outsourced, restrictions can be circumvented, and the enemy can be good, can buy off opponents.
In short words: Measures are people who want to come out.
And before we do things, always indecisive, always feel that their accumulation is not enough, the time is not that the methods needed to study, to learn experience again, what could be the reason for the stop to do one thing, we view our world everywhere fetters and red.
Health is also a non-exclusive, good fake to things.
So, before you have not become a so-called successful people, may wish to look at how they do things to think about, which was Qufahushang, almost emulated in obtaining the next, what kind of person wants to be, it might go to imitate people like that.
4 value-oriented thinking
We analyze and solve problems in the process, emotional things are often dominant. In judging a thing to do or not to do, in the end how to do, and they are often emotional defeat rational.
If we use more some knowledge of economics to understand life, with some more value-oriented thinking to judge right and wrong, long stick with it, everything will be in good order, efficiency will be much higher.
Presented here today thinking method of analyzing a problem for everyone, called swot analysis.
The so-called swot analysis, is closely related to the study of the major internal strengths, weaknesses and external opportunities and threats, the survey listed, and are arranged in accordance with the form of a matrix, and then use the idea of system analysis, to a variety of interrelated factors match up to analyze, draw a series of corresponding conclusions, but conclusions usually have certain decision-making.
Using this method, it is possible to carry out the scenario in which the subjects comprehensive, systematic and accurate research, so as to formulate appropriate development strategies based on the results of research, planning and countermeasures. S (strengths) is an advantage, W (weaknesses) is a disadvantage, O (opportunities) opportunities, T (threats) is a threat.
When we apply this method to a crossroads faced in real life, it will gain a more rational and balanced decision-making results, this method is really much more like a roll of the dice fly than a coin toss.
5 look at everything, learn empathy essence
Have to admit, you and I live in a very utilitarian era. And this time the most prominent feature of the law is "exchange." Here is a neutral exchange of words, is not the same rule, it contains the material and spiritual aspects of the two exchanges.
So, from the nature point of view, you want to do something to help someone else, or want to get the benefits you want to get through your efforts, we must look at the problem from the root, figure out what you have exchanged with the other chips the reality required.
If you thirst, unbearable, just a glass of water. And your friends on your deep feelings, he for you from dawn to dusk for a whole big pot of steamed bread, and take the galaxy more than 900 pairs of shoes worn path to your side, this is for you what kind of experience?
joke? Our lives, but often do not consciously make such stupid mistakes. Sometimes, we do not mind, but not hard enough, but does not take into account each other's real needs, the effort the wrong direction, and ultimately doing useful work.
Your boss hired you, he needs you to create for him a substantial profit gains, so the interview, you trumpeted your qualifications, honor, insights on life and career planning, as the point is not to tell him you can for his company bring something more to win his favor.
Your lover you choose, you've got to prove her recognition, she needs most at this time is that you convey information to her "I love you the same or even more", so you continue to prove yourself more good, than how others do not on you, if you do not stay with her every day, leaving her to care for her peace of mind.
Your mentor choose you as his graduate student, his most valued is your knowledge of architecture and his research whether there is common ground, so you smile flatter, greeting gifts, not as good as you make a real contribution to his research work more practical.
Empathy famous chicken soup has become a bad street, our ears have heard out of the cocoon, but seemingly commonplace sentence if it contains eternal truths deal with social relations, from ancient times it was barter ancestors adopted, namely: to see what their own hands have, and think about where the other missing something.
Conclusion: Through years of practice and experience accumulated learning I found: what really distinguished people, widening the gap often than not, those external forces or miracle can not be met, but depends on you what kind of perspective on , analyze and solve problems. There is, indeed, true right: thinking determines an action, decided to habits, habits decide character, character determines destiny.