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The author's answer cites "Fu Lei," the words:
Looking for a permanent partner, but also with much more reason to consider the feelings do not be deceived! A married lover's eyes will change, become you do not believe: think of this in advance or else the, will move later untold suffering.
Requirements for life partner, just as all of the requirements of life can not be too harsh. There is always pros and cons: you have to chase too urgent, you feel the burden of heavy, chasing Debu tight, and felt warm enough. Gentle people sometimes seem weak, strong and yet close to tyranny. Much too unrealistic fantasy, competent housekeeper Mrs. tacky feel. Where not only the strengths and weaknesses of the people in it? Is there no perfect people or things of the world? Fu Gongzi asked himself perfectly to what extent? This type of problem you must consider more than once. I think the most important thing is the essence of goodness, gentle nature, open mind. With these three, the other can gradually develop, and with these three things, large and small, even in the face of the future is not caused by the storm turned into a tragedy. The wife of the artist's wife likened anyone is immune, do you want to understand this in advance, even if you know the person in charge of the strict liability has been too broad nor easy to learn Mingzhe, caring, tolerance. As long as you can solve on behalf of trivia, but was interested in your career on the line, the study of learning and so temporarily do not have to expect too extravagant, you will have to see how married life. Front sides first learn mutual respect, understanding, tolerance.
The other side you as her whole world is certainly very dangerous, but also very valuable! Now that you find, you will slowly awoke, she made the best insinuated Erwu positive, but also made her feel that her personality is to safeguard the independence, expand her worldview. If you have thought Olivier's story, it might put away her perusal of the book called twelve times, with particular attention to her that episode. Like Jacqueline, as only know love, love, love! (Editor's note:. Love, love) people just fairy tale characters, not only in the real world, not love, even the day will not go, because she knew nothing except love, nothing, nothing to love. Which such a narrow world like a world! Such one-sided view of life which will be happy! Both men and women, only the interest focused on career, on learning, art, try to put aside petty self (ego), may have the happy, it would feel to live deliberately. Inexperienced girls tend to keep a fantastic dream, that the feelings of love during the climax to stay afloat after marriage. This is a delusion violation of the laws of nature. The old saying, "civil use"; another one saying, "the couple courteous." Visible only calm, subtle, gentle feelings can only lasting another meaning of the phrase is that the couple later is entirely a relationship of friends of friends, that is what we call life companion. Prior to unmarried parties can deeply appreciate this. It is made up of the most reliable foundation for the future, eliminating much unnecessary misunderstanding and pain.
Dear children, the study of literature and art experience and love of ......, the number of friends in decades joys and sorrows deeds and observe the usual thinking, so that the conditions that we can participate more views on marriage and children than other parents.
Not only with emotion during the ear not Cong, currently unknown, see each other, they themselves would only unconscious aspects of good performance, the shortcomings hidden. Another advantage to remain calm, is unlikely to fall in love and abandoned is the industry or the impact of homework or a waste of time or damage to health, mood or disrupt the event of large or small twists and turns.
The so-called cool, action is not only the surface, especially in the hearts and minds must be done. Of course it is difficult. People are always people, emotionally, and does not easily controlled, young people do not love the experience more difficult to maintain the balance of body and mind, as well as everyone associated with temperament. I can not face life things calm, very easily excited, this is my big disadvantage. Fortunately, after the event but also an objective analysis, careful thinking, it will not come to the spot to continue the development of emotional, gone too far. I tell you this to let you know as temporarily unable to exercise restraint after must be controlled by reason the overall situation: it is correct when the correct, that the person apologize apologize, the income canopy to close the canopy, all in all, more than two points are summarized just up: feelings must be controlled by reason. To do it, we must make some hard work in real life and long-term exercise.
I never in my life had a "love-oriented" view. "Truth first" and "moral supremacy", "justice first" All these should as a rule of conduct. Love no matter how fanatical climax stage can not be violated these principles. Friend Ye Hao, Ye wives, lovers or, a encounter significant moment, and issues related to truth, morality, justice ...... and so on, never give in.
Secondly, people are the most complex animal observation must not be simplistic, but be patient, meticulous, thorough, after a considerable period of time, various incidents and occasions. Always make scientific and objective spirit of compassion and mercy combine. Each other's advantages, to recognize is not real reliable, is not imagine yourself out, or is exaggerated. Each other's shortcomings, related to the separation of whether nature. Disadvantages associated with the nature of, not because of other minor advantages to be ignored. Minor shortcomings have to discern whether the change and whether the development would affect the character or go on daily life. Everyone has weaknesses, both men and women are so in love. The problem is not to find a drawback no object, but to find a mutually recognize their shortcomings can each recognize willing to change gradually, but can tolerate each other companion. (This point is very important. The two sides can tolerate some shortcomings, while others can not tolerate, which caused a rift day a long time.) The best parties as natural, not contrived, all come true, the strengths and weaknesses together to see the other side. Must see the advantages of each other, also we saw the shortcomings that can tolerate phase to give way, will not affect the overall situation, when we talk about a better understanding; otherwise it can only do a common friend. But to fully see each other's strengths and weaknesses, it requires considerable time, but also requires a variety of large and small accidents to test; absolutely no quick fix! But can not jumping to conclusions! (Whether good or bad conclusion conclusion) only very frankly, to expose yourself; always exposed their shortcomings sooner the better, the later the worse! In order to find success in love and try to hide their shortcomings people are actually stupid. Of course, in love unknowingly show their bright side, unconsciously hide their shortcomings, not in this case. Because this is a human instinct, but also to prove that love can cause us to progress towards good and beautiful direction, the main reason is the love of the love of greatness, but also through the ages poets praise. Novelist often mentioned, we have experienced again and again in life: love of men and women often than usual clever; read from the book to also understand quickly; often exceptionally good heart, for their own happiness and would like to make others happy, or reduce others suffering; compassion is love expand valuable specific performance.
Solid hope things will become subjective and objective aspects still need to be mentally prepared in case of unpaired. In order to avoid the pain of lost love, etc., which is "sensible" I think it should be a beginning to fully grasp. Do not take each other for the best idea too sure, let all the natural evolution.
In short, everything is not urgent, the more important matter, the more calm, serene attitude, considering the long, careful observation, and strive to objectively! Feeling rushed peak easily, but unfortunately the peak (or peak) of anything only last a short time, to be long and indemnity Benedict maintain lasting friendships can be very difficult. ......
In addition to the advantages and disadvantages, the two character temper is an important factor in whether or not congenial. Hard and soft, soft and hard, to be able to adapt to different priorities of each swap. There are many manifestations in behavior, attitudes, made laugh, not tell countless little habits between sound ......, between men and women also plays a significant role, to find out what they have to sit on the sidelines slowly Zamo. The so-called stand the test of criticism and self-criticism but refers to the many tangible and intangible (reaction caused by people every move that is invisible criticism). Poetry often say love is blind, but love is not blind after all, more robust and more reliable.
Outlook on life worldview you know, I do not talk about it. Elegance and gas-minded people'd be very attention. According to my experience: refined and popular tastes and mind often with congenital, acquired transformation rarely get low to the high level of mention; it should be noted that the other party during intercourse if there is better than in their place, the future can help me progress, I will not turn to the back. You used to seeing his childhood home style, I will not put up with the amount of light of a narrow heart character.
Above all talking about the general question of principle cage systems. ......
Time also plays a significant role, find out if these have to sit on the sidelines slowly Zamo.Read a long, deep feelings.