78 classic effects that you must know in life
1. Catfish effect
Previously, the survival rate of sardines during transportation was very low. Later, someone discovered that if a catfish was put among the sardines, the situation would change and the survival rate would be greatly improved. Why is this? It turns out that catfish will become "impatient" and swim around after arriving in a strange environment. This undoubtedly plays a role in stirring up a large number of sardines who are very quiet; and the sardines discovered that there is such a The "dissident elements" were naturally very nervous and swam faster. In this way, the problem of hypoxia of sardines will be solved, and the sardines will not die. Later generations called this phenomenon the "catfish effect."
2. Herding effect
There is a humorous saying: An oil tycoon went to heaven to attend a meeting. When he entered the meeting room, he found that the seats were already packed and there was no place to sit. So he had an idea and shouted: "Oil has been discovered in hell!" This shout does not matter, heaven The oil tycoons in the world ran to hell one after another. Soon, only the late one was left in heaven. At this time, the tycoon thought to himself, everyone ran over, could it be that oil was really discovered in hell? So, he also hurried to hell.
After laughing, you should be smart enough to quickly understand what the herd effect is. The flock of sheep is a very scattered organization. They usually rush left and right blindly when they are together, but once one sheep starts to move, the other sheep will rush forward without thinking, completely ignoring the wolves and other sheep that may be nearby. Better grass beyond.
The herd effect is a metaphor that people have a herd mentality. Herd mentality can easily lead to blind obedience, and blind obedience often leads to scams or failure. "Herding effect" refers to a common phenomenon in the market behavior of some enterprises in management science. For example, a sheep flock (collective) is a very scattered organization. Usually everyone rushes left and right together blindly. If a sheep discovers a fertile green meadow and eats fresh grass there, the subsequent sheep will rush up and compete for the grass there, completely ignoring the eager wolves next to them, or not being able to see other other sheep. There is better green grass.
The herd effect generally occurs in an industry with very fierce competition, and there is a leader (leader) in this industry that occupies the main attention, then the entire herd will continue to imitate every move of this leader, and the leader Wherever the sheep go to graze, other sheep go to dig for gold.
Positive: The herd effect is a strategy to reduce R&D and market research. It is now widely used in various industries. It is also called "Copy Strategy". When a company puts a product on the market through research and development, it can be easily copied by its competitors without the need for early R&D costs, which is one of the sources of intensified competition.
Counter: The herd effect brings more blindly launched projects and vague prospects without sufficient market research, and can even distract a company's energy. As the saying goes, there is no free lunch. Only by grasping the pros and cons of the herd effect can you make the right decision and choose fertile grassland.
3. Murphy’s Law
(Murphy's Law)(Murphy's Law) originated from an American captain named Murphy. He thought one of his colleagues was an unlucky guy and accidentally made a joke: "If something is likely to be messed up, if you ask him to do it, it will definitely be messed up." This sentence quickly spread. Over the years, this "law" has gradually entered the category of idioms, and its connotation has been endowed with endless creativity and numerous variations. "If something bad is possible, no matter how small the possibility is, it will always happen, and it will happen." "Cause the greatest possible loss", "If anything can go wrong, it will. (What will go wrong will eventually go wrong)", "Smile, tomorrow may not be better than today." "The better something is, the less useful it is." , "Don't try to teach pigs to sing, as this will not only produce no results, but will also make the pigs unhappy!"
The original words of Murphy's Law say this: If there are two or more ways to do something, and one of those ways can result in a catastrophe, then someone will do it. (If there are two choices, one of them will If it leads to disaster, someone must make this choice.)
According to "Murphy's Law",
1. Nothing is as simple as it seems on the surface;
2. Everything will take longer than you expect;
3. Things that can go wrong will always go wrong;
4. If you are worried about a certain situation happens, then it is more likely to happen
4. Matthew Effect
There is a story in the Gospel of Matthew in the New Testament. Before a king left for a long journey, he gave each of his three servants a piece of silver and told them: Go do business and come see me again when I come back. When the king came back, the first servant said: Master, from the ingot of silver you gave us, I have earned 10 ingots. So the king rewarded him with 10 cities. The second servant reported: Master, for the ingot of silver you gave me, I have earned 5 ingots. So the king rewarded him with 5 cities. The third servant reported: Master, I kept the ingot of silver you gave me wrapped in a towel. I was afraid of losing it, so I never took it out. So the king ordered that the third servant's ingot of silver should also be awarded to the first servant, and said: "Anything that is small, even what he has will be taken away." If there is more, give it to him, so that the more the better.
5. Butterfly Effect
The butterfly effect was proposed by meteorologist Lorenz in 1963. According to "turbulence science" researchers, the weak air current caused by the occasional flapping of a butterfly's wings somewhere in the southern hemisphere can turn into a tornado sweeping somewhere in the northern hemisphere a few weeks later. They call this phenomenon, which starts from a very small cause and develops into extremely huge and complex consequences over a certain period of time with the participation of other factors, the "butterfly effect."
Comments: Those who end well should be careful about their beginnings, and those who are cautious should be cautious about small things. The general idea is: A butterfly in the Amazon rainforest in South America, flapping its wings occasionally, may cause a tornado in Texas in two weeks. The reason is that the movement of the butterfly's wings causes changes in the air system around it and causes the generation of weak airflow, which in turn causes corresponding changes in the air or other systems around it, thus causing a chain reaction. Ultimately leading to drastic changes in other systems.
This effect shows that the results of the development of things are extremely sensitive to initial conditions. A very small deviation from the initial conditions will cause a huge difference in the results. The "butterfly effect" is used in sociology circles to explain: a bad and tiny mechanism, if not guided and adjusted in time, will bring great harm to society, jokingly called a "tornado" or "storm"; a good small mechanism will bring great harm to society. A tiny mechanism, as long as it is guided correctly, will produce a sensational effect, or a "revolution" after a period of hard work.
6. Stockholm Syndrome
Stockholm syndrome, also known as the hostage complex, refers to a complex in which the victim of a crime develops feelings for the perpetrator and even helps the perpetrator in turn.
On August 23, 1973, two criminals with previous criminal records took four bank employees hostage after a failed attempt to rob one of Stockholm's largest banks. The two would-be robbers held hostages for six days, during which time they threatened the lives of their captives but also sometimes showed mercy. In an unexpected psychological twist, the four hostages resist the government's eventual efforts to rescue them. Months after the incident, the four bank employees who were kidnapped still showed compassion for their captors. They refused to charge the kidnappers in court and even raised funds for their legal defense. It is said that one of the women who was kidnapped later became engaged to one of her previous kidnappers while he was serving his sentence. First, the captive must truly feel that the kidnapper threatens his or her survival. Secondly, during the kidnapping process, the kidnapped person must recognize the kidnapper's possible small favors. Third, the captive must be isolated from all other points of view except that of the captor; finally, the captive must believe that escape is impossible. Experts believe that this psychological transformation of Stockholm Syndrome can occur in three to four days, but it must be emphasized that people experiencing this syndrome are not crazy, but they are fighting to save their lives. This syndrome represents a tactic used by captives to secure themselves by currying favor with their captors. The captor tries his best not to provoke or provoke his captor; and as he does so, the captor gradually loses his sense of self until he fully accepts the captor's point of view. If the captives now see the world through the eyes of their captors, they will no longer desire freedom, and as a result, the victims may resist rescue when it comes.
7. Frog Effect
There was once a fable about the boiled frog: if you put a frog in boiling water, it will jump out; if you put a frog in warm water, it will feel comfortable. Then you slowly increase the temperature. Even if it rises to 80 degrees Celsius, the frog will still stay in the water as if nothing has happened. As the temperature continues to rise to 90°-100°, the frog will become weaker and weaker. In this case, the frog has lost the ability to escape itself until it is cooked.
In the second situation, why can't the frog get out of danger on its own? This is because the frog's internal organs that sense bottom-up threats can only sense drastic environmental changes, but cannot respond to slow and gradual environmental changes in a timely manner. Make a feeling. This is a kind of "frog effect". The "frog effect" tells us a truth: "Be born in sorrow and die in ease."
8. Barrel effect
There is a famous "barrel theory" in management, which refers to using a wooden barrel to hold water. If the wooden boards that make up the barrel are uneven, the capacity of the water it can hold is not determined by the largest size in the barrel. It is determined by the shortest board in the barrel, so it is also called the "short board effect".
It can be seen that in the development process of things, the length of the "short board" determines its overall development level. Just like, the quality of a product depends on the component with the lowest quality, rather than the component with the best quality; the overall quality of an organization does not depend on the quality of the best elements of the organization. Rather, it depends on the quality of the most general elements in this organization. ...This phenomenon is often called the "barrel effect" in management science.
9. Black hole effect
The black hole effect is a self-reinforcing effect. When an enterprise reaches a certain scale, it will also have very strong devouring and self-replicating capabilities like a black hole, attracting a large number of resources within its reach, and these resources will make the enterprise More powerful, forming a vortex of positive acceleration.
Black hole is an astrophysics concept, which refers to the collapse of some massive objects in the universe to form a dense singularity in the universe. Because its mass is very large, the gravitational force generated is also very large, so large that Even after light enters, it cannot escape, so it becomes a black hole. And the matter and energy that are constantly being swallowed in turn become part of the black hole, causing the black hole to generate greater suction. Therefore, the blackness of a black hole lies on the one hand in its devouring ability and on the other hand in its ability to replicate and self-reinforce.
Now DELL and Wal-Mart have begun to have such characteristics, especially Wal-Mart, because Wal-Mart itself has a particularly strong sales capability, so if suppliers want to expand sales in the world market, they cannot avoid Wal-Mart and can only serve as Wal-Mart's suppliers. As the number of participating companies increases, Wal-Mart's scale will become larger and its impact on retail terminals will be stronger. More suppliers will have to enter Wal-Mart's system. Therefore, for suppliers, Wal-Mart's To a certain extent, it has become a "Wal-Mart cocoon" that suppliers are trapped in. To deal with such a "black hole" type of organization, enterprises must have very strong power to compete with it and avoid being swallowed up. Otherwise, we either have to surrender under its power, or we have to avoid its edge and find another way out.
A "black hole phenomenon" may also occur within an organization: once some trends or corruption phenomena exceed a critical point, they will begin to rapidly corrupt the surrounding body like a malignant tumor, and as the scale expands, the corrosive ability will also increase rapidly. Enhancement, after many companies have deteriorated to a certain extent, it is difficult to rely on their own strength to break this vicious cycle. Governing such an enterprise often requires very strong leadership or the help of external forces to reverse the deteriorating situation.
Therefore, enterprises need to constantly monitor possible bad signs within the enterprise and eliminate them as soon as possible when they are in the bud, because this is the time when the cost is the smallest and it is easiest to eliminate them. The difficult part, of course, is to discover which signs may deteriorate into a "black hole" that swallows the life of the enterprise. If we wait until the disaster is complete before we go to the rescue, I am afraid that the result will be either the bankruptcy of the company or a major surgery that will break our muscles and bones.
10. Tuning fork effect
The tuning fork effect means that for something, the key is not the size of the force you exert on it, but finding its pulse.
Due to the existence of the tuning fork effect, it is also possible for a small disturbance to have a huge impact, such as an avalanche. In police movies, we sometimes see situations like this. The precious jewelry in jewelry stores are placed in special bullet-proof glass. This means that this kind of glass is so hard that bullets cannot penetrate it and cannot be broken by hammering. , but you can use a tuning fork to vibrate. When the selected tuning fork frequency is consistent with the resonant frequency of the glass, the glass will crack into pieces.
This way of sensing an object using skill rather than force is called the tuning fork effect. A more popular word to express the tuning fork effect is resonance. When the two interacting parties resonate, it can stimulate a particularly large force, which may be constructive or destructive.
The phenomenon reflected by resonance is: For some things, the key is not the size of the force you exert on it, but the key is to find its pulse. Due to the existence of the tuning fork effect, it is possible for a small disturbance to have a huge impact. situations, such as avalanches. But this resonance can also be used for positive effects. For example, corporate propaganda must impress consumers and arouse consumers' desire to buy. Many domestic companies use oppressive and indoctrinating propaganda methods such as large-scale advertising. The result is The cost is not small and the gain is not big. In fact, the focus of brand promotion is to arouse the resonance of consumers and arouse consumers' reactions, so that it can achieve twice the result with half the effort.
11. Bullwhip Effect
The bullwhip effect is a phenomenon that is affected by uncertainty and at the same time exacerbates uncertainty.
It means that the starting point of the event only changes slightly, and the further it is transmitted outward, the greater the amplitude of the fluctuation. The bullwhip only shakes slightly in the hand of the person holding the whip, and a very big change will occur at the tip of the whip. The sociological impact of the bullwhip effect is that the starting point of the event only changes slightly, and the more outward it is, the more it moves outward. transmission, the greater the amplitude of the fluctuation.
This phenomenon is most obvious in the supply chain. The phenomenon of demand variation amplification in the sales process is colloquially called the "bullwhip effect." It is a common high-risk phenomenon in marketing. It is the result of the game between sellers and suppliers in the aspects of demand forecast revision, order quantity decision-making, price fluctuation, shortage game, inventory responsibility imbalance and coping with environmental variability. It increases supply. manufacturers’ production, supply, inventory management and marketing instability.
Theoretically, companies can take some measures to avoid or resolve the impact of demand amplification and variation, such as hierarchical order management, strengthening warehousing management, reasonably sharing inventory responsibilities, shortening lead times, implementing outsourcing services, and avoiding gaming behaviors in shortage situations, etc. wait.
The bullwhip effect is a phenomenon that is affected by uncertainty and at the same time aggravates it. The bullwhip effect in marketing occurs because upper-level suppliers decide their orders based on the demand forecasts of lower-level suppliers. In order to To cope with the fluctuations caused by uncertainty, suppliers need to reserve based on the most conservative figures. Under normal circumstances, this reserve will definitely be larger than the real downstream demand. If the central value of demand is 10, the fluctuation range is Up or down 5, then the upstream supplier will stock 15 units. Then when the downstream demand suddenly increases, for example, from 10 to 20, the supplier will stock 30 units based on the original fluctuation ratio, and the magnitude of the change begins to increase. , similarly, when this kind of fluctuation is transmitted further upstream, the amplitude of the fluctuation becomes larger and larger, thus producing a bullwhip effect.
The bullwhip effect often occurs in economic activities. In 1985, the price of personal computer memory chips was low and the supply was abundant, but sales fell by 18%, and American manufacturers suffered losses of 25% to 60%. However, in late 1986, a sudden shortage was exacerbated by panic and over-ordering. As a result, the price of the same chip increased by 100% to 300%.
A similar boom and bust in demand occurred in the semiconductor industry from 1973 to 1975. After orders surged, causing shortages and delivery delays across the industry, demand then plummeted. Whatever product you needed, you could get it right away. Within a few years, Siemens, Segni Nortel, Honeywell, and Schlinberger all entered the industry by buying declining semiconductor manufacturing companies.
In mid-1989, General Motors, Ford, and Chrysler were, as the Wall Street Journal put it, “making far more cars than they sold, and dealer inventories were piling up. The companies were idling factories and operating at rates not seen in years. The country's economy as a whole often goes through what economists call the "inventory accelerator theory" of the business cycle - a slight rise in demand, leading to an excessive increase in inventory, which then leads to slow sales and recession. .
12. Focus effect
Just like the growth of a child, the focus in the infant stage is not to get sick, the focus in the early childhood stage is personality education, the focus in the youth stage is skill learning, the focus in the middle age stage should be the courage to achieve ideal goals, and the focus in the old age stage is sports. Extend life.
The growth of an enterprise is just like the growth of human beings. The focus and emphasis are different in different situations. I hope it will be helpful to everyone from my personal perspective.
13. Tidal effect
Sea water rises due to the gravity of celestial bodies. If the gravity is strong, there will be a spring tide. If the gravity is small, there will be a neap tide. If the gravity is too weak, there will be no tide. This is the tide effect.
The same is true for the relationship between talents and social times. Society needs talents, the times call for talents, and talents emerge as the times require. Based on this effect, as a country, we must increase the promotion of talents and form a good atmosphere of respecting knowledge and talents.
For a unit, it is important to adjust the treatment of talents to achieve a reasonable allocation of talents, thereby increasing the unit's attraction to talents. Nowadays, many well-known companies have put forward this human resources management concept: attract people with treatment, unite people with emotion, and motivate people with career.
14. Halo effect
The halo effect means that when people look at a problem, it should be like a halo, gradually spreading outward from a central point into increasingly larger circles. If a cadre performs well once, it is considered that he is excellent in everything; if he makes a mistake, it is said that he has always performed poorly.
The harm of the halo effect is that it obscures the view, using a single point to represent an entire aspect and generalizing, which can easily affect the accuracy of cadre assessment and the credibility of talent evaluation.
15. Primacy Effect
The effect of first impression is called primacy effect. It is often biased to evaluate a person based on the first impression. If you only rely on the first impression during the civil service examination or when inspecting cadres, you will be deceived by certain superficial phenomena.
There are two main manifestations:
First, judging people by their appearance. It is easy to get a good impression of someone who is well-groomed and personable, but their shortcomings are easy to be ignored.
The second is to judge people by their words. Those who are eloquent and repartee often leave a good impression on others.
Therefore, when inspecting, assessing and selecting talents, we should not only listen to their words and observe their appearance, but also observe their actions and test their performance.
16. Lansden Principle
Be sure to keep the ladder tidy as you climb up, otherwise you may slip when you come down. Comments: Only when you advance and retreat appropriately can you avoid being in a dilemma; only when you forget all favors and disgrace can you be calm about favors and disgrace.
17. Luwes’ theorem
Humility is not thinking badly of yourself, but not thinking of yourself at all. Comment: If you think too well of yourself, it is easy to think badly of others.
18. Tolde’s theorem
To test whether a person's intelligence is superior, it only depends on whether his mind can accommodate two opposite thoughts at the same time without hindering his behavior in the world. Comment: Thinking can be the opposite, and must complement each other.
19. Hedgehog Theory
Hedgehogs stick close to each other to stay warm when it's cold, but keep a distance so they don't sting each other. Comment: The important way to maintain intimacy is to maintain an appropriate distance.
20. Minnow Effect
Minnows often live in groups because of their small size, with the strong being the natural leader. After cutting off the part of the back of a slightly stronger minnow's head that controls its behavior, the fish lost its self-control and its movements became disordered, but the other minnows continued to follow blindly as before.
Comments:
1. Subordinate tragedies are always caused by the leader.
2. The most boring thing for subordinates is when they follow the worst leader.
21. Rebaugh’s Law :
As you set out to build cooperation and trust, keep in mind the following in our language:
1. The eight most important words are: I admit I made mistakes
2. The seven most important words are: You did a good thing
3. The most important The six words are: What do you think?
4. The five most important words are: Let’s do it together.
5. The four most important words are: You might as well try.
6. The three most important words are: Thank you.
7. The two most important words are: us
8. The most important word is: you
Comments:
1. The four most important words are: try it;
2. The most important word is: you
22. Lorber’s theorem :
What matters most to a manager is not what happens when you are there, but what happens when you are not there. Comment: If you only want your subordinates to listen to you, then they won’t know who to listen to when you’re not around.
23. Steiner’s theorem
Wherever less is said, more is heard. Comment: Only by listening well to others can you speak your own better.
24. Fisnow’s theorem
People have two ears but only one mouth, which means people should listen more and talk less. Comment: If you talk too much, what you say will become an obstacle to what you do.
25. The whining effect
If there are people in a company who complain about their work, that company or boss will be much more successful than a company without such people or with such people who bury their complaints. Comments:
1. Complaints are the catalyst for changing the unreasonable status quo. 2. Although complaining is not always correct, taking complaints seriously is always correct.
26. Lightning rod effect
Install a metal rod on the top of a tall building, connect it with a metal plate buried underground with a metal wire, and use the tip of the metal rod to discharge electricity to gradually neutralize the electricity carried by the clouds and the electricity on the ground, thereby protecting the building, etc. Avoid lightning strikes. Comments: Being able to communicate leads to smooth communication, and being able to guide will lead to safety.
27. Amino acid combination effect
As long as one of the eight amino acids that make up human protein is insufficient, the other seven will not be able to synthesize protein. Comment: When one is indispensable, "one" is everything.
28. MiG-25 Effect
Many parts of the MiG-25 jet fighter developed by the former Soviet Union lagged behind those of the United States. However, because the designers considered the overall performance, it was able to become world-class at the time in aspects such as lift, speed, and emergency response. Comment: The so-called best overall is the best combination of individuals.
29. Running-in effect
After a certain period of use of a newly assembled machine, the processing marks on the friction surface will be polished and become closer together. Comment: In order to achieve a complete fit, both parties must make necessary sacrifices.
30. Botter’s theorem
When faced with a lot of criticism, subordinates tend to remember only the first few and ignore the rest because they are busy thinking of arguments to refute the initial criticism. Comment: Always focusing on the mistakes of subordinates is the biggest mistake of a leader.
31. Lansden’s Law
Working with a friend is far more interesting than working under a "father". Comments: Those who are respectable but not approachable will eventually be difficult to respect; those who have power but no authority will often lose power.
32. Gilbert’s Law
The surest sign of a job crisis is that no one is telling you what to do. Comment: The really dangerous thing is when no one talks to you about the danger.
33. Authoritative cue effect
A chemist said that he would test the spread speed of odor in a bottle. 15 seconds after he opened the bottle cap, the students in the front row raised their hands and said that they smelled the odor, while the people in the back row raised their hands one after another and said that they smelled the odor. I have also smelled it, but there is actually nothing in the bottle. Comment: Superstition leads to credulity, and blindness leads to blind obedience.
34. O’Neill’s theorem
All politics is local. Comment: Only those who can experience it personally will the masses think it is real.
35. Positioning effect
Social psychologists once conducted an experiment: when convening a meeting, people were first allowed to freely choose their seats, and then they went outside to rest for a while and then went indoors to sit. After five or six times, they found that most people chose the seat they sat in for the first time. seat. Comment: Most people don’t want to change what they believe in easily.
36. Edgeburn’s theorem
If you meet an employee and don't recognize him or forget his name, your company is too big. Comments: Once the stall is too big, it will be difficult to take good care of it.
37. Giegler’s theorem
Except for life itself, there is no talent that does not require acquired training. Comment: There is no vastness without accumulation of water, and people cannot become talented without nourishment.
38. The Mastiff Effect
When the young Tibetan dogs grow teeth and can bite, the owners put them in a closed environment without food and water and let the puppies bite each other. Finally, one dog is left alive. This dog It's called a mastiff. It is said that it takes ten dogs to produce one mastiff. Comment: Dilemma is the school that creates strong people.
39. Recency effect
The most recent or last impression has a strong influence on one's perception. Comment: The results are often seen as a summary of the process.
40. The law of spreading wells
It is better to make yourself a good company than to use all possible means when recruiting workers, so that talents will naturally gather. Comment: It cannot attract talents, and it cannot retain existing talents.
41. Beauty is good effect
It is easy to mistake a person who is handsome and beautiful on the outside and assume that he or she is also good in other aspects. Comment: Once an impression is based on emotion, the impression often deviates from the truth.
42. Ogilvie’s Law
If each of us hired people stronger than ourselves, we could become a giant company. Comment: If the people you use are worse than you, then they can only do worse things than you.
Pierre Cardin's theorem states that one plus one does not equal two, and may not equal zero. Comments: Improper combination often loses the overall advantage. Only proper arrangement can achieve the best configuration.
43. Horsefly Effect
No matter how lazy a horse is, as long as it is bitten by horse flies, it will be full of energy and run quickly. Comment: Only with the right stimulus can there be a correct reaction.
Inverted U-shaped hypothesis: A person can do his best work when he is mildly excited. When a person is not excited at all, there is no motivation to do a good job; accordingly, when a person is extremely excited, the resulting pressure may prevent him from completing the work he should have done.
The world famous tennis player Becker is known as the "constantly victorious general". One of his secrets is to avoid being over-excited and maintain a semi-excited state throughout the game. Therefore, some people also call the "inverted U-shaped hypothesis" the "Becker realm."
Comments: 1. If passion is overheated, passion will burn out reason. 2. Calmness in passion makes people sober, and passion in calmness makes people persistent.
44. Turber’s conclusion
Security is not found in numbers. Comment: Numbers are dead, situations are alive.
45. Mosco’s Theorem
The first answer you get is not necessarily the best answer. Comments: Get to the bottom of it and get to the bottom of it.
46. Rogers’ conclusion
Successful companies don't wait for outside influences to determine their fate, but always look ahead. Comment: I just want to go with the flow, but it is difficult to reach the ideal shore.
47. Sagai’s Law
A person who wears one watch knows the exact time, but a person who wears two watches is not sure what time it is. Comment: If you choose the wrong reference, there will be no correct comparison.
48. Tunnel vision effect If a person is in a tunnel, all he sees is a very narrow field of vision in front and back. Comments:
1. If you don’t expand your mind, it’s difficult to broaden your horizons.
2. If your field of vision is not wide, the road under your feet will become narrower and narrower.
49. Buffett's Law: You will not get rich by investing where everyone else has invested. Comments:
1. Only if you are good at walking your own path can you hope to walk the road that others have not walked.
2. There are no special features and no advantages.
50. Gutray’s theorem
Every exit is an entrance to another. Comment: The previous goal is the basis for the next goal, and the next goal is the continuation of the previous goal.
51. Levin’s theorem
People who hesitate to make plans often do so because they are unsure of their abilities. Comment: If you don’t have the ability to plan, you will only have time to regret.
52. Frost’s Law
Before building a wall, you should know what to keep out and what to keep in. Comment: If you set clear boundaries from the beginning, you won’t do anything that exceeds them in the end.
53. Polk’s theorem
It is only in debate that the best ideas and best decisions are born. Comment: If there is no friction, there will be no running-in. Only when there is controversy can there be high opinions.
54. Wedge’s theorem
Even if you already have an opinion, if ten of your friends disagree with you, it will be hard not to sway. Comments:
1. There should be no prejudice before listening, and there should be no lack of opinion after listening.
2. Don’t be afraid of different opinions at first, but be afraid of not being able to agree in the end.
55. Falkland’s Law
When there is no need to make a decision, it is necessary not to make a decision. Comment: When you don’t know how to act, the best action is to take no action.
56. Wang An’s conclusion
Although hesitation can avoid some opportunities to make mistakes, it also loses opportunities for success. Comment: Indecisiveness can turn a good thing from good to bad, and decisiveness can turn a crisis into safety.
57. Greste’s theorem
Great strategy must be coupled with great execution to be effective. Comment: Good things are better done if they are done well, and they are more practical if they are done well. Giedlin's Law: If you write the problem clearly, half the problem is solved. Comment: Disorganized thinking is unlikely to produce orderly actions.
58. Watson’s Law
Put information and intelligence first and the money will roll in. Comments: How much you can get often depends on how much you know.
59. The Tamara Effect
Tamara is a radar invented by Czech radar expert Vepech. The biggest difference from other radars is that it does not emit signals but only receives signals, so it will not be detected by enemy anti-radar devices. Comment: Those who are good at hiding cannot be known by others, and those who can know cannot be hidden by anyone.
60. Koike theorem
The more intoxicated you are, the more you cling to what is in front of you. Comments: Self-absorption is not easy to sober up, self-righteousness does not like criticism.
61. Heller’s Law
People will work harder when they know their work performance is being checked. Comment: Supervision will become a driving force only if there is mutual trust.
62. Yokoyama Rule
The most effective and sustained control is not coercion, but triggers voluntary control within the individual. Comments: Only when you have consciousness can you have enthusiasm; without the right to self-determination, you have no initiative.
63. Ash’s Law
Acknowledging a problem is the first step to solving it. Comment: The more you avoid problems, the more they will catch you.
64. Locke’s Advice
Rules should be set sparingly, and once they are set, they must be strictly followed. Comments: Simple means easy to follow, strict means necessary.
65. Hot Stove Rule
When people touch a hot stove with their hands, they will be punished by "scalding", which has the following three characteristics: immediacy, early warning, and equality. Comment: Crime and punishment can be consistent, and law and governance can be expected to meet each other.
66. Kemeiya’s Law :
Nothing in the world is perfect, so there is room for reform in everything.
Peter Principle
Every organization is composed of various positions, ranks, or hierarchies, and everyone belongs to a certain rank.
The Peter Principle is a conclusion reached by American scholar Lawrence Peter after studying related phenomena of personnel promotion in organizations: In various organizations, employees always tend to be promoted to an incompetent position.
The Peter Principle is sometimes called the “climb up” principle. This phenomenon is ubiquitous in real life:
A competent professor is promoted to university president but fails to do his job;
an excellent athlete is promoted to an official in charge of sports but does nothing.
For an organization, once a considerable number of employees are pushed to their incompetent level, it will cause the organization's personnel to be superfluous and inefficient, causing mediocre people to stand out and development to stagnate.
Therefore, this requires changing the corporate employee promotion mechanism that simply "promotes based on contribution." It cannot be inferred that just because someone has done an outstanding job in a certain position, that person must be qualified for a higher-level position. Promoting an employee to a position where he cannot fully utilize his talents is not only not a reward for him, but also makes him unable to fully utilize his talents and also brings losses to the company.
67. Wine and sewage law
The law of wine and sewage means that if you pour a spoonful of wine into a bucket of sewage, you will get a bucket of sewage; if you pour a spoonful of sewage into a bucket of wine, you will still get a bucket of sewage.
In almost any organization, there are several difficult characters whose purpose of existence seems to be to mess things up. The worst thing is that they are like rotten apples in the box. If not dealt with in time, it will quickly spread and rot other apples in the fruit box. The scary thing about "rotten apples" lies in their astonishing destructive power. An upright and capable person may be swallowed up if he enters a chaotic department, while an unscrupulous person can quickly turn an efficient department into a mess. Organizational systems are often fragile and are based on mutual understanding, compromise and tolerance, and can easily be violated and poisoned. Another important reason for the extraordinary ability of destroyers is that it is easier to destroy than to build. A pottery that a skilled craftsman spends time and time carefully making can be destroyed by a donkey in a second. If there is such a donkey in an organization, no matter how many skilled craftsmen there are, there will not be much decent work results. If you have such a donkey in your organization, you should remove it immediately; if you are unable to do so, you should tie it up.
68. Washington Law of Cooperation
The Washington Law of Cooperation says: One person is perfunctory, two people push each other, and three people will never achieve anything. It is somewhat similar to the story of our "Three Monks".
Cooperation between people is not a simple sum of manpower, but much more complex and subtle. In this kind of cooperation, assuming that everyone's ability is 1, then the result of the cooperation of 10 people is sometimes much greater than 10, and sometimes, even smaller than 1. Because people are not static objects, but more like energies in different directions. When they push each other, they will naturally get twice the result with half the effort; when they conflict with each other, nothing will be accomplished.
In our traditional management theory, there is not much research on cooperation. The most intuitive reflection is that most current management systems and behaviors are dedicated to reducing the unnecessary consumption of manpower rather than using organizations to improve human performance. In other words, it might be said that the main purpose of management is not to make everyone do their best, but to avoid excessive internal friction.
69. Principles of zero-sum games
A zero-sum game refers to a game in which players lose and win. What one party wins is exactly what the other party loses. The total score of the game is always zero. The principle of zero-sum games has attracted widespread attention mainly because people Situations similar to the "zero-sum game" can be found in all aspects of society. Behind the glory of the winner is often the bitterness and bitterness of the loser.
In the 20th century, mankind has experienced two world wars, rapid economic growth, scientific and technological progress, global integration, and increasingly serious environmental pollution. The concept of "zero-sum game" is gradually being replaced by the concept of "win-win". People are beginning to realize that "self-interest" does not necessarily have to be based on "harming others." Through effective cooperation, a happy situation is possible.
However, moving from a "zero-sum game" to a "win-win" requires all parties to have the spirit and courage of sincere cooperation. In cooperation, do not be clever or always want to take advantage of others. You must abide by the rules of the game, otherwise there will be a "win-win" situation. It is impossible for it to happen, and it is the collaborators themselves who will suffer in the end.
70. Watch Law
The watch law means that when a person has one watch, he can know what time it is, but when he has two watches at the same time, he cannot be sure. Two watches cannot tell a person a more accurate time, but will make the person looking at the watch lose confidence in the accurate time.
The watch theorem gives us a very intuitive inspiration in terms of business management, that is, the management of the same person or an organization cannot use two different methods at the same time, cannot set two different goals at the same time, and even each person cannot It should be directed by two people at the same time, otherwise, the company or this person will be at a loss.
Another meaning of the watch theorem is that everyone cannot choose two different values at the same time, otherwise, your behavior will fall into chaos.
71. The Law of Unworthiness
The most intuitive expression of the law of unworthiness is: anything that is not worth doing is not worth doing well. This law seems simple enough, but its importance is often ignored and forgotten by people.
The law of unworthiness reflects people's psychology. If a person is engaged in something that he thinks is not worth doing, he will often maintain a cynicism and perfunctory attitude. Not only will the success rate be low, but even if he succeeds, he will not feel What a sense of accomplishment. Therefore, for individuals, one should choose one from a variety of alternative goals and values, and then strive for it. "Choose what you love and love what you choose, only then can we inspire our fighting spirit and feel at ease."
For a company or organization, it is necessary to analyze the personality characteristics of employees and allocate work reasonably. For example, let employees with a strong desire for achievement complete tasks with certain risks and difficulties alone or take the lead, and when they are completed, Give timely recognition and praise; allow employees with strong attachment to work together in a group; let employees with strong desire for power serve as supervisors commensurate with their abilities. At the same time, it is necessary to strengthen employees' sense of identification with the company's goals and make employees feel that the work they do is worthwhile, so as to stimulate employees' enthusiasm.
72. Mushroom management
Mushroom management is a management method used by many organizations to treat newcomers. Beginners are placed in dark corners (departments that are not valued, or do errands), and are doused with dung (unwarranted criticism, accusations, and suffering on behalf of others). ), left to fend for themselves (without necessary guidance and support). I believe many people have had such a "mushroom" experience. This is not necessarily a bad thing, especially when everything has just begun. A few days of "mushroom" can eliminate many of our unrealistic fantasies and make us more confident. Closer to reality, the problem becomes more practical.
An organization generally treats new employees equally, and there is no big difference from starting salary to job. No matter how talented you are, you can only start with the simplest things at the beginning. For growing young people, the "mushroom" experience is like a silkworm cocoon that must be experienced before emerging. step.
Therefore, how to efficiently go through this period of life, learn as much experience as possible, mature, and establish a good and trustworthy personal image are issues that every young person who has just entered society must face.
73. Occam’s razor
In the 12th century, William of Ockham in England advocated nominalism, which only recognized things that really existed, and believed that those empty universal concepts were useless burdens and should be ruthlessly "shaving off".
He advocated "Don't add entities unless necessary." This is often called "Occam's razor". This razor once made many people feel threatened and was considered heresy, and William himself was persecuted for it. However, it has not damaged the sharpness of this knife. On the contrary, after hundreds of years, Occam's razor has been sharpened faster and faster by history, and has long surpassed the original narrow field and has broad, rich, and profound implications. significance.
Occam's razor can be further evolved into the law of simplicity and complexity in business management: making things complicated is easy, making things simple is complicated. This law requires that when we deal with things, we must grasp the main essence of the matter, grasp the mainstream, and solve the most fundamental problems. In particular, we must let nature take its course and not artificially complicate things, so that we can handle things well.
74. Greenhouse effect
The temperature on the surface of Venus reaches a maximum of 447°C. Why is it so hot?
The greenhouse effect refers to the thermal insulation effect formed by the lack of heat exchange with the outside world in a closed space that transmits sunlight. The greenhouse effect on Venus is jaw-droppingly strong. The reason is that the density of the atmosphere of Venus is 100 times that of the Earth's atmosphere, and more than 97% of the atmosphere is "heat-preserving gas" - carbon dioxide. At the same time, there is a layer in the atmosphere of Venus that is 20 to 30 times thick. A thousand-meter thick cloud composed of concentrated sulfuric acid. Carbon dioxide and dense clouds only allow sunlight to pass through, but do not allow heat to be emitted into space through the clouds. The trapped solar radiation makes the surface of Venus hotter and hotter. The greenhouse effect makes the surface temperature of Venus as high as 465 to 485°C, and there is basically no difference between region, season, day and night. It also causes the air pressure on Venus to be very high, about 90 times that of Earth.
75. 80/20 Productivity Rule
(the 80/20 principle), (also known as the Pareto Principle) 20% of the causes of events can lead to 80% of the outcomes of events. For example, 80% of a company's profits and income often come from 20% good customers, 20% good-selling products, and 20% hard-working employees.
An important inspiration of the "80/20" principle for business managers is: avoid spending time on trivial issues, because even if you spend 80% of your time, you can only achieve 20% of the results: you should Spend your time on the important few issues, because by mastering these important few issues, you only spend 20% of your time and achieve 80% of the results.
Applying the "80/20 efficiency rule" to manage human capital may improve the efficiency of human capital use in the organization to achieve twice the result with half the effort. If managers do not have the power or ability to build a new system based on new rules, then the partial use of the "80/20 efficiency rule" under the current system will also help achieve organizational goals.
The "80/20 efficiency rule" shows that with less input, you can get more output; with small efforts, you can get big results; the critical few are often the main ones that determine the efficiency, output, profit and loss, and success or failure of the entire organization. factor. Applying this law to human capital management may improve the efficiency of human capital use.
It is recommended to take five measures:
carefully select and discover the members of the "critical minority";
practice through hard work to build a team of core members;
exercise training to improve the competitiveness of the members of the "critical minority";
effectively motivate and strengthen the work motivation of the members of the "critical minority" ;
Survival of the fittest and dynamic management of the "key few" member team.
Everything should be done with emphasis on results, focusing on both efficiency and effectiveness. Concentrate firepower, prioritize things, stay away from "worthless", and see the essence of the problem clearly. This is the essence of the 80/20 principle.
80% of people are poor, 20% of people are rich,
80% of people control 20% of the world's wealth, 20% of people control 80% of the world's wealth, 80
% of people make money from below the neck, 20% of people use it from above the neck. 80% of people who make money
are negative thinkers, 20% of people are positive thinkers,
80% of people are selling time, 20% of people are buying time,
80% of people are looking for a good job, 20% of people are looking for a good job. 80% of people are good employees
. 20% of people are dominated by others.
80% of people are doing things. 20% of people are doing business.
80% of people attach great importance to academic qualifications. 20% of people attach great importance to ability.
80% of people say knowledge. That’s power. 20% of people say that actions bring results.
80% of people like shopping. 20% of people like to invest.
80% of people think about it all day long. 20% have new goals every day.
80% of people like to find questions among answers. 20% of people like to find answers. People like to find answers in questions.
80% of people only look at the immediate future. 20% of people can take a long-term view.
80% of people regret missing opportunities one after another. 20% of people can always seize every opportunity.
80% of people 20% of people always think about what to do today in the morning.
80% of people act according to their own wishes. 20% act according to successful experience.
80% of people are unwilling to do simple things. 20% like to do simple things repeatedly.
80% of people do today's things tomorrow. 20% of people do tomorrow's things today.
80% of people are always thinking that I can't do it. 20% of people are always thinking about how I can do it.
80% of people are always thinking. 20% of people have good forgetfulness
. 80% of people always have good memories. 80% of people are greatly affected by failure. 20% of people are greatly affected by success.
80% of people say that they are in bad shape, 20% of people say that they are in good shape,
80% of people have never had the habit of organizing information frequently, 20% of people,
80% of them always like to change others, and 20% of people always like to change others. change yourself
76. Rule of 250
This is Joe Girard's "250 Law". Customers are your bread and butter, so don't offend any customer. Because there are 250 customers behind each customer, including relatives and friends. If you only drive away one customer, you will drive away 250 potential customers.
77. Hot and cold water effect
One cup of warm water to keep the temperature constant, one cup of cold water and one cup of hot water. When you put your hands in cold water first and then in warm water, you will feel the warm water is hot; when you put your hands in hot water first and then in warm water, you will feel the warm water is cool. The same cup of warm water produces two different feelings. This is the hot and cold water effect.
This phenomenon occurs because everyone has a steelyard in their mind, but the weights are not consistent or fixed. As the psychology changes, the weights also change. When the weight becomes smaller, the weight of the object it weighs becomes larger; when the weight becomes larger, the weight of the object it weighs becomes smaller. People's perception of things is affected by this weight.
In interpersonal communication, we must be good at using this hot and cold water effect.
78. Celebrity Effect
I couldn't get rid of the unsalable book for a long time, so I sent a copy to the president and asked for his opinions again and again. The president, who was busy with government affairs, didn't want to get involved with him, so he replied: "This book is good." The publisher advertised, "There are now books that the president likes for sale." So these books were sold out.
Soon, the publisher had another book that could not be sold, so he sent another one to the president. The president was fooled and wanted to ridicule him, so he said: "This book is terrible." The publisher heard about it and advertised, "There are now books for sale that the president hates." Many people were also curious. There was a rush to buy, and the books were sold out.
The third time, the publisher sent the book to the president. The president accepted the lessons of the first two times and made no reply. However, the publisher advertised heavily, "There is a book about the President that is difficult to draw conclusions about. Buy it now!" and it was sold out again.
The president couldn't laugh or cry, and the businessmen made a fortune.
Family humorous stories
1. "Walking"
A woman got married against her father's wishes, got divorced, father and daughter turned against each other, and lived in poverty with a son. His mother was kind-hearted and advised her daughter to take her son home for a hot meal while her father was taking a walk. So she often took her son to her parents' home to have dinner, deliberately avoiding his father. Until one day when it rained, the father and daughter met by chance in the community and couldn't avoid it. The father looked at his daughter and said: Don't hide when you go home to eat from now on, because I have to come out even if it rains heavily! Father is the one who always pays silently for you. No matter what you have done wrong, he will forgive you unconditionally.
2. "Under the Wall"
A boy was addicted to the Internet in high school and would often go out of school to surf the Internet in the middle of the night. One day, he climbed over the wall as usual. Halfway through, he jumped up and ran back. He looked strange and said nothing when asked. From then on, he studied hard and stopped surfing the Internet. There was a rumor in school that he had seen a ghost. Later, when he was admitted to a prestigious school, when his former classmates asked him about it, he remained silent for a long time and said: That day his father came to give him living expenses. He was reluctant to stay in a hotel and sat under the wall all night. With family ties, you have the motivation to work hard. Everything we do is for our children, and we hope that all children can know the hard work of their parents.
3. "Dyeing Hair"
Dad dyed his hair at home today. I asked him: Dad, why are you dyeing your hair when you are almost 60? Do you still want to have good luck? Dad said: "Every time I dye my hair black before going back to my hometown, your grandma will think that I am still young when she sees it, and she is not old anymore." Care about your children and grandchildren, but don't forget the old parents at home. !
4. "Catch"
A grandfather in the clan, who is over 70 years old, is sitting on the dirt floor outside the gate playing marbles with a few five or six-year-old kids, and they are yelling at each other for being stupid. Grandma heard it and came out with a cane to beat him, but he got up and ran away. In the end, he was caught up and got a good beating. Afterwards, he said with a smile: "If it weren't for the fear that my mother would fall, she wouldn't be able to catch me..." No matter how old you are, your mother is always the warmest presence, and she is always the person we spend our whole lives caring for.
-The most talkative people have these ten styles
01
A gentleman never loses his dignity, never loses his dignity, and never loses his words.
——Book of Rites·Be careful in your words and deeds. Don’t say things you shouldn’t say or do things you shouldn’t do. Firstly, to avoid giving others a handle and causing trouble. Secondly, it is also the personal cultivation of a gentleman.
02
Do not discuss business matters privately.
——Book of Rites · Qu Li says that people should not speak in private, and public affairs should be discussed and handled by the public. If they are discussed in private, there will be suspicion of treachery and personal gain. The success or failure of something often depends on whether the speaker can say the right thing in the right situation.
03
The words of the court are inferior to those of dogs and horses.
——Book of Rites·Qu Li You must have professionalism and self-discipline when working.
04
Women are not mentioned in court.
——Book of Rites·When speaking under the rites, you must seize the opportunity and talk about the right things at the right time.
05
In the official, the official is spoken, in the government, the government is spoken, in the ku, the ku is spoken, and in the dynasty, the dynasty is spoken.
——Book of Rites·Quli One cannot be tactful, but must be tactful, learn to adapt to the times and local conditions, and use words to lubricate interpersonal relationships. When a well-educated person talks to different people, the topics are consistent with the other person's identity, and the things they talk about are reasonable.
06
Don't talk about joy when you are in mourning, don't talk about evil when you are offering sacrifices.
——Book of Rites: Talking loudly, laughing and playing during the ceremony are disrespectful to the deceased and his family members. Only when you speak in a lower voice and behave slowly and steadily can you show your sincerity and grace.
07
A gentleman would be ashamed if he held his position but had no words; if he had words but no actions, a gentleman would be ashamed.
——Book of Rites·Miscellaneous Notes: If you are in a certain position, you should have words and deeds that are consistent with that position. It is even more unacceptable for people who hold a certain position but are incompetent. The words are loud and full, but there is always a lack of action and no results, which is not advisable. It is better to speak plainly and modestly than to boast.
08
If the elders are not as good as you, don’t say anything.
——Book of Rites·When talking to elders during the ceremony, the elders should lead the topic.
09
I was sitting with my husband, and he asked me if I wanted to, and he finally answered.
——Book of Rites·Don’t interrupt your husband’s words or interrupt during the ceremony. Similarly, when communicating with others, out of respect for the other person, it is best not to interrupt others.
10
When serving a gentleman, it is disrespectful to treat him with disrespect.
——Book of Rites·Qu Li’s words come from the heart. A wise man speaks carefully, says what needs to be said, and says it at the right time. When talking to an elder, if you speak first before it is your turn to speak, this is impatience; if you speak rashly without looking at the other person's face and trying to figure out his or her thoughts, this is called blindness; if you do not speak when you should speak, , this is called concealment
Tactics that can never be learned in a lifetime (classic)
1. See through but don’t tell. For many things, as long as you know them in your heart, there is no need to say them out loud.
2. When you are happy, just smile and let everyone know. Sad, just pretend nothing happened.
3. As long as it does not violate your principles, be tolerant to others and help when you can. Never push people to death or leave a way out for them.
4. Happiness is the most important. Who, what, and what makes you happy, be with them. If something makes you unhappy, leave him. If there are no conditions, you will leave him even if you create conditions.
5. Don’t always tell others about your difficulties and expose your vulnerability.
6. There is no perfect thing and no perfect person. The key is to know what you want. To get what you want, you will definitely lose another part. If you want everything, just nothing.
7. I like what a friend said: “Forgetfulness is a good thing.
8. Two people make mistakes at the same time. The one who stands up and takes responsibility is called tolerance. The debt owed by the other party must be repaid sooner or later.
9. If you don't like someone, you can respond with a silent smile; if you like someone, just do whatever you want, because your love will be revealed unstoppably.
10. Don’t be a hedgehog. Don’t make enemies with others if you can avoid them. Don’t follow anyone for the rest of your life. There are some things that you don’t need to keep in mind.
11. While learning to compromise, you must also adhere to your most basic principles.
12. Don’t stop learning. No matter what you learn, language, cooking, various skills.
13. Money is very important, but you cannot rely on men or parents. You must maintain a certain ability to make money.
14. Don’t overestimate your power in the group, because when you choose to leave, you will find that the sun still rises even without you.
15. You can never forget the past, but you must let it go.
16. Even if you lose everything, don’t lose your smile.
17. No matter what choice you make, don’t regret it, because regret will not help.
18. Don’t say extreme things out of impulse.
19. Don’t make promises easily. A promise you can’t make is more hateful than not making one.
20. Don’t think that love can exist even if you don’t understand. When we don't understand, we just like, but cannot reach love. When each other's shortcomings are exposed, the love will often end.
21. You can be very direct when speaking, and it is better to be straightforward than hypocritical.
22. Be kind to yourself. When you are in a bad mood, don’t think about anything and just eat what you like.
13 tips for knowing people
1. People with bad teeth generally have good tempers. On the contrary, a person with sharp teeth has a bad temper. Zhang Fei is an example.
2. When asking for help, those who agree immediately will generally not get the job done. Beware that such people may be liars. For example, after the college entrance examination, parents promise to provide financial support for those who go to school at the entrance of the university. Young people who have just entered the officialdom should choose as their teachers those who are honest and serious. "The feathers in the sky are light and weak, and the stones thrown on the ground have their own sound."
3. In adversity, be careful of "well-meaning people" who keep saying things to persuade you. Such as Lin Chong's friend Lu Qian in "Water Margin".
4. When learning English, those who are good at speaking are generally poor at grammar. People who are nearsighted have good hearing.
5. For leaders, the so-called claims of professionalism and knowledge must not be fully believed. People with leadership qualities are unlikely to devote themselves to academics at the same time.
6. People who don’t smoke and drink are mostly people who have strict requirements on themselves. Generally, it can be trusted for life. Anyone who is obsessed with "wine, sex, wealth and smoke" must be careful.
7. People who flatter you are most likely to betray you. The person who hurts you the most must be the person you love the most. Seventy percent of homicides occur between acquaintances. "You can still get close to a tiger when it's born, but don't get close to an acquaintance."
8. The most beloved child of the parents in the family is generally useless.
9. Most international students are patriotic. People who say good things about foreign countries generally have never lived abroad for a long time. People who are not filial to their parents are rarely patriotic. Those who love the motherland must be the kindest people at heart.
10. Young people in rural areas generally like to be officials, while most children in cities like to play.
11. People who value love can hardly have the happiness of love. When you say the word love, you are passive. The true meaning of love is "play hard to get", and most flowers are stuck on cow dung. "A horse often carries a foolish man on his back; a clever girl often sleeps with a foolish man."
12. Those who often see doctors generally do not have serious illnesses. Sun Simiao, the king of medicine, lived to be 110 years old. He was often sick in his youth. The writer Xie Bingxin vomited blood as soon as she could vomit milk, and lived to be over ninety years old. People who boast about their parents’ good health often don’t live long. "The mind is leisurely and has few desires, the mind is peaceful but not fearful, the body is tired but not tired, the breath is obedient, everyone follows their desires, and everyone gets what they want." Devotees live long.
13. People who love to curse are afraid inside. Animals with horns are not carnivores. The quietest person in a group is often the most powerful. "Moving like fire, motionless like a mountain."
last words
Don't be afraid of being used by others. If others use you, it shows that you are still useful.
Eating is real achievement, gambling is hedging, and whoring is failure.
Spending one penny to get the effect of ten pence, this is a master of spending money.
When doing things, you should make sure that both sides of the tofu are smooth.
There are three bowls of noodles that are the most unpalatable to a human being: human face and human face
When the money is used up, the friendship is exhausted. So when others save money, I save friendship. No matter how much money you save, there is nothing more than a mountain of gold and a sea of gold; spending money on friendship is like heaven and earth!
Nothing can be done!
What is empathy! (too thorough)
The first picture
: Think about life in another’s perspective, cherish it only then you deserve it!
This picture tells us: Life is not easy. When you think it is easy, there must be someone taking on your share of the difficulty for you. In life, you should always think from someone else’s perspective. Only by cherishing it can you deserve it...
——Be grateful to those who take responsibility for you!
The second
picture: Thinking from someone else's perspective, being grateful and understanding.
A man invited a blind friend to dinner. It was very late. The blind man said it was very late and I had to go back. The host lit a lantern for him, and he said angrily: " I can't see, but you gave me a lantern, aren't you mocking me?"
The master said: I light a lantern for you because I care about you. You can’t see it but others can. This way you won’t be afraid of others bumping into you when you walk in the dark. The blind man was very touched!
Enlightenment: Different understandings lead to different results. We must learn to think from others’ perspective. If you look at everything from different angles, you will have different insights!
The third
picture: Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Respecting others means respecting yourself
. You have a daughter, and you hope her in-laws will give her more gifts. You have a son, and you think the in-laws want too many gifts.
You have a daughter-in-law, but you think her daughter-in-law has too many things to do and is not sensible; you have a daughter, and you want her to take over the power of your husband's family;
You hate pedestrians when you drive, you hate cars when you walk;
When you were working, you felt that your boss was too pushy and stingy. After you became a boss, you felt that your employees were too irresponsible and lacked the ability to execute;
You are a customer who thinks that businesses are too profitable, and you are a businessman who thinks that customers are too picky.
——Don’t look at others in your own position, look at yourself in other people’s position, think in their shoes, and empathize with others!
be a human being,
You must know how to put yourself in others’ shoes and be kind to others!
Being able to feel the difficulties of others is caring;
Being able to understand the difficulty of others is to be generous;
Being able to forgive others' mistakes is magnanimous!
Life is an echo!
Gifts of roses, hand a fragrance.
Those who love return love, and those who go to good fortune return to good fortune.