It took two days this week to finish reading "Insight" by Mr. Wu Jun. It contains a lot of very good advice for life, and I will share it with you
1. Happiness is the goal, success is the means
1. Life is a river
Life is like a river. How much water the river can store depends not only on the length of the river, but also on the penetration and depth of the river. Although the length of life is not fixed, everyone is almost the same, so if we want to live a more exciting life, we need to broaden our breadth and tap our depth.
2. Suggestions for Sanben students
I have been to many universities in China, 985, 211, from one to three. No matter what their reasons are for the three books, but you will find that the students of the three books work far less hard than one (there is no discrimination against the students of the three books, just to explain such a phenomenon), a very common phenomenon, you I went to the gate of Sanben School to see that the snack street outside was bustling with feasting lights; but when I went to Tsinghua University, Peking University and Jiaotong University, there was really no one outside at night, and everyone was studying in the library. The environment is really important. The ancients often said that those who are close to vermilion are red and those who are close to ink are black. Think about it, if your dormitory roommates are reading and studying every night, would you still have the nerve to play games? On the contrary, if everyone is playing games and watching movies, it will be difficult for you to calm down even if you want to study.
3. The most important investment in life
What is the most important investment? Work? studies? No, it's marriage, the person who will accompany you through your life. Isn't this the most important thing?
Teacher Wu Jun’s advice to boys:
- Smart people appreciate smart people, and only smart people appreciate smart people. The reason is also very simple, if the cognition of two people is not in the same class, they cannot communicate at all
- Find a partner who is mature and has the same values. Those girls who can never leave their mothers or families will probably have problems in their marriages in the future
- Men should have enough independence. Boys should take the initiative to take responsibility for their future family. In a perfect marriage, both husband and wife should understand that "husband and wife are better than their children, and even better than their parents". Only when the small family is good, everyone will be good.
- The plasticity of both husband and wife is very important. Girls have some small flaws, boys can tolerate them, but it’s okay to tolerate them for a day, a month, a year, but it’s still difficult to tolerate them for a lifetime, so the husband and wife slowly adapt in the process of getting along, change each other for each other, and become excellent together.
Teacher Wu Jun’s advice to girls:
- Recognize love and marriage. Love is different from marriage. Love is passion, and passion will eventually recede. Marriage is a comfortable community built by two people.
- Boys are not honest or dishonest, only boys who treat you well and who treat you badly. Boys who are honest and responsible are good. Most girls may have such a view in their hearts, especially those of their parents' generation, but this is not the case. The reason why human beings continue to reproduce is that there are elements of lust in the genes, not only for men, but also for women. If a boy treats you badly, no matter how honest he is, he will one day be unable to resist the temptation of a woman and cheat.
- For a boy who is nice to you, you can’t look at what the other person says, but how he does it; (many boys have done this when chasing girls, that is, I will say good night to you every day from today, this situation is light If you say you can’t do it, you can’t believe it. Of course, if he has said and done it, then he will say otherwise) It depends not only on how he treats himself in love, but also how he treats others (especially his parents), and how he can treat himself. No will be nice to you for a long time. Boys in love always like sweet talk, which may be sincere, but after the secretion of hormones decreases, men often don't admit it.
2. Life needs subtraction
1. The happiness of not making choices
I don’t know if you have ever worried about what clothes to wear this morning, what to eat for lunch today, etc., anyway, I have. Why is there such a reason? The answer is that there are too many choices. Do you still worry when there is only one piece of clothing in your closet? Of course not. We wish there were more choices, but we also feel annoyed by too many choices. If so, let’s reduce some choices altogether. Make a break from life, throw away unnecessary things, and focus on your own growth.
2. Watermelon and Sesame
I don’t know if you have stepped on the following pits:
- Queuing up for free stuff
- To save money, walk an extra 10 minutes on the road
- For the red envelope of a few yuan, I look at my phone every three to five minutes
- Don't sleep for "Double Eleven" to grab goods
These petty profits in front of you are sesame seeds. If you pick up 1000 sesame seeds, it is better to harvest a watermelon. Taking the long view, these words are also for those college students who work part-time to earn some extra money to buy clothes and snacks
3. There is no limit to life, and there is no limit to knowledge
Zhuangzi said this sentence at the beginning of the chapter of "Health Master": "'My life has a limit, but knowledge has no limit. If there is a limit, there is no limit, and it is over. Those who know it are nothing more'. Its The general idea is: life is finite, knowledge is infinite, and it will fail to pursue infinite knowledge with a finite life. If you already know this fact and continue to do it, failure is certain.
People who are late to a party always have a variety of reasons, and they are all quite reasonable. In fact, after a careful understanding, most of it was because something was dealt with temporarily in the middle. If you ask him if these things can't be dealt with now, they say that's not the case, they just deal with them as soon as they come. At work, we often encounter a lot of urgent but unimportant things like this, and it’s okay to postpone unimportant things for a while.
I've always been a very punctual person myself, and I'd like to share my method here. Regardless of parties, meetings, or car rides, etc., as long as it is an agreed time, I will arrive early (the specific time in advance depends on the situation), and I will reserve enough time for myself, so that even if there is a traffic jam or other problems on the road, I will arrive early. I also have time to deal with some trivial matters.
3. Talk about knowledge
1. Starting line and glass heart
It is a consensus among Chinese parents that children should not be allowed to lose at the starting line. You can see how good the tutoring class business is now. In a class of 50 people, there will always be first place and fiftieth place. If you win at the starting line, can you win in this life? This is really not the case. People who know the deeds of US President Truman should understand what I mean.
Due to the over-emphasis on the importance of the starting line, many parents and teachers keep telling their children that once they fall behind, they will always fall behind. Once the children encounter some difficulties and temporarily fall behind, they will be terrified to death. It didn't take long for the child's heart to become very fragile and become a glass heart. In later life, once you encounter some setbacks, it becomes a great thing. A wise man might as well cultivate a heart that will never be broken. With a strong heart, I can always keep running, even if I fall down, I can get up.
2. What is more terrible than poverty
Lack of insight:
Without insight, vision is limited. You may have such an experience that it will never make sense to reason with some people. This is not because those people do it deliberately, but because they really have no knowledge, and everyone's cognitive level is not on the same plane at all.
lack of love:
Win-win cooperation, a person who doesn't know how to love others is not worthy of being loved by others
Lack of rules
Principles and bottom lines are things that cannot be violated. What is not allowed in principle is not allowed. There are no exceptions. A person should have a basic bottom line.
4. Wisdom
1. The Wisdom of Shakespeare: On Friends
Teacher Wu Jun’s rules for making friends:
- Think twice before acting, don't say what comes to mind
- Be nice to people, but don't be too familiar
- A friend who knows each other well should be tied to your soul with a steel ring, but don't abuse your friendship for every general new knowledge
2. Buffett's Lunch: Wisdom for Life
- don't do things you don't understand
- don't short stocks
- Never invest with leverage
5. Reject fake workers
1. Ten thousand hours theory
Is it true that practicing 10,000 hours in a field can become a master in this industry? Why I have spent a lot of time in my industry and still have no progress, Mr. Wu Jun pointed out four misunderstandings
Myth 1: Simple repetition
I have been repeating low-level things. For example, when you were doing questions in middle school, you have been doing some simple questions, and you don’t challenge those questions that you think are difficult. In this way, no matter how many questions you do, you will not have too much Great progress.
Myth 2: Habitual Failure
This type of people is the opposite of the previous ones. They are ambitious, do not pay attention to learning, and are too lazy to learn lessons. At the same time, they are thin-skinned and embarrassed to ask for advice.
Misunderstanding 3: The Dilemma of Lin Daiyu
Lin Daiyu is very connotative and talented, and thinks deeply about problems, but this is also her fatal weakness. We know that the wider the connotation of a concept, the narrower the extension will be. If you only cultivate one-third of an acre of land, you will know less about the outside world.
Misunderstanding 4: The bear breaks the stick
10,000 hours of hard work require a cumulative effect, and the second hard work must reuse the results of the first hard work to the greatest extent. When it is used to develop software, it is necessary not to write repeated codes.
2. Three tricks to break the predicament
1. Establish "Vision-Goal-Road"
First of all, you establish a direction (vision), such as becoming a front-end engineer
Secondly, you have to set phased goals, such as learning html, css in the first month, making a static web page; learning js grammar in the second month, etc.
Finally, with the goal, how to achieve it, to achieve the goal, there must be a road to success. This road can be disassembled into a series of operable steps, such as learning div, p tags, etc. on the first day. Put it into action.
2. Even if you hear something that doesn't please you, try to find out the reason
This sentence has three meanings:
The first level is equivalent to what we call empathy today
The second layer, everything should be used to look back and think twice, think a few times
The third layer, even if the other party is really talking nonsense, think about why he said that
3. Keep a record of everything, so as to avoid the bear breaking the stick
If you don’t make a record of the books you have read and the knowledge you have learned for several months, you will soon forget it. When you need to use it, you don’t know where to read it. Recording is convenient for you to use next time.
3. Google’s Management by Objectives
How Google Manages Employees - OKRs
Although Google seems to have loose management, it does things with high efficiency, which shows that its loose and tight management is actually quite effective.
OKR is the acronym for Object and Key Results, that is, the key results of the goal and the achievement of the goal. Every Google employee needs to set one or several goals for himself at the beginning of each quarter. Each person's OKR is about half a page of paper, and after writing, put it on their own webpage in the company so that everyone can see it. , If anyone has not formulated OKR, it is clear at a glance. Even if no one urges him, everyone sees his webpage is blank, and he himself is embarrassed. This has actually played a basic supervisory role in management.
Different from KPI, OKR does not care about the process, but pays more attention to the result. No matter what method you use to complete a thing, as long as it is completed in the end, it is the case that many companies now implement flexible working system
4. Do the last 1%
A few people went to the mountain to dig ore. Most of them dug for a week and left after seeing no mine. Only one person persisted and finally dug. This is not to tell everyone chicken soup for the soul, but it is true. I don’t know if you have such a colleague. If you ask him if the work is completed, he will usually say that it is basically completed. What does this mean? It is not completed. Even if the difference is 0.1, it will not work. It must be done and done well. This is true of everything.
6. Things about the workplace
1. Young people should not care too much about salary in their first job
Almost no one makes a fortune from the salary of the first job. If everyone can recognize this reality, they will realize that it is meaningless whether the salary of the first job is 20% higher.
Your first job is very important. It must be able to help you earn 3-5 times the income of your peers or classmates in 10 years. It must allow you to grow rapidly and develop good professional habits in the shortest time. Learn about the whole industry.
2. Misunderstandings in the workplace
Misunderstanding 1: Distinguish between work and occupation
When working, everyone makes a living. Occupation is the career we want to engage in all our lives. We must choose those jobs that are beneficial to our career.
Myth 2: Think of yourself as just a guest, not the host
Many people think that their current job is just a springboard, and they will go to a better company in the future, so they don’t care about their work so much. Once you have such a mentality, your growth will be very limited
Misunderstanding 3: After being irritated by verbal violence, the rules will be messed up
At work, after being said a few words by the leader or the boss, I feel very uncomfortable, and then I resign or do not work well. These are all signs of immaturity. When someone commits verbal violence against you, first think about whether what he said makes sense, and if so, correct it. If not, you can also communicate with the other party in private to let the other party know that you have been hurt, otherwise others will think you are fine, and will still do it next time. saying you
lack of communication
You only focus on doing your own things, and forget to communicate with others. Many times, if everyone discusses a problem together and brainstorms, it will be solved quickly, but you choose to think hard by yourself, which is thankless