I recently found a problem, many people are actually very good, but they always complain for no reason that everyone doesn't like me, hate me, don't look at me directly, I found this is a very strange thing, how to say Woolen cloth? This needs to be viewed from several aspects, which I will discuss below.
First of all, we know a truth, you can't please everyone, no matter how well you do, someone will always complain about you, so you don't have to care too much, in fact, there are still many people who like you, but you don't Only found. In fact, you care too much about your circle. You like others to care about you, understand you, and care about you. The more you are like this, the more you find that you are living in the shadow of others, and you cannot discover the vast world and the vast ocean outside at all.
The second is the personality issue. Everyone has a different personality. Some people are upright, some people are soft, some people are cunning, and some people are funny and weird. You can't deliberately change yourself for all people and all things, because there is no need. If you lose your own personality, is it still you? Some people are naturally like this, you don't like it, not necessarily all people don't like it. Think about it another way, and those people you don't like become the people most people like. There is only one reason for this, that is, he abandons his own interests for the interests of more people. Although his ideas are extreme and his style of doing things is weird, But the goal is firm, you can't call such a person a robber, you can't say that such a person is shameless, and your views will be completely different from different positions. In fact, we are all ordinary people, just some different people. They would rather give up personal gains and losses for a certain goal. Such people are great.
Perhaps, what I write is more paranoid, with some personal imposition of color, but if you open your eyes and enlarge the pattern, you will understand that many things are not what you think, everything has two sides, in you When you are disappointed, it does not necessarily mean the arrival of misfortune. When you are happy, it does not necessarily mean the arrival of happiness. The two-sidedness here is very peculiar. It is mixed, how you view life, how it is I look at you the same way, so the one yang and the other yin here contains great truth. Humans are very strange, and the rigidity and flexibility of human beings are also stretched here. The two extremes, the more extremes, the greater the potential.
So people sometimes learn to appreciate themselves. No matter what you do, your personality is what separates you from others, and your thinking habits are the most distinctive highlight of yourself. Why care so much about what others think? There are so many people who like you, let us accept ourselves with joy, you are very different, you are really not a simple person, live a different self, this is life, this is life