Although it is clear that knowledge needs time to accumulate, what should I do if I still feel anxious when I see problems that others can do that I can’t solve, and codes that I can’t write that others can write?
Have you ever been confused because of the gap between yourself and the people around you? Has this confusion been overcome by you now or still bothers you?
Here's my opinion on this issue:
1. My feelings
First of all, I feel that my positioning is not clear, what kind of person I want to be, and when comparing different classes in the same school, whether it is material or spiritual comparison, many people who think more will feel that they are not enough, so I start to hope that I can change. I want to be that kind of person to be excellent, but after constant comparison, I become greedy, I want too many things, I start to become physically and mentally tired, I start to be confused and don’t know where to go
Two, how to do
1. Accept the facts
Sometimes there is a reason for others to be better than us. It may be because they have received a better education since childhood, family background and other objective factors that make them inherently better than us. We have to admit and accept the fact.
2. Adjust mentality
There will never be a shortage of people who are better than you in the world. Others are better than yourself. The good part of it is to learn from
3. Silent effort
After acknowledging the excellence of others and recognizing your own gap, you must find a way to narrow this gap and make yourself excellent. This process may be painful, but you will definitely gain a lot of happiness in the process, and move in the right direction Work hard, set a goal every day, don't waste your time, have a better mentality, and just have a clear conscience
3. How to adjust your mentality
Anxiety stems from a sense of insecurity, lack of belief in oneself, and lack of heart. We want to understand who we are, really see ourselves clearly, know our true side, and see the sun through the clouds.
1. Don't compare
People are more popular than people, and if you are too attached to comparison, your heart will be more tired. The life of comparison is bitter, because you are always envious of other people's life, and hate your own.
2. Self-correction
When you have a bad mentality, if you realize that your mentality is not good, try to correct yourself, conduct a rational analysis of yourself, correct the attribution, and find a good solution.
3. Don’t aim too high
Desires are endless, and the higher we set our goals, once we fail to achieve them, there will be a huge gap, so our mentality will easily collapse. What to do is still one step at a time, take your time, don't expect too much, do it seriously without regrets
Finally, I would like to send a word to everyone, " He is strong and let him be strong, and the breeze blows the hills. He is strong and let him be strong, and the bright moon shines on the river. " There will never be a shortage of people who are stronger than you in the world. Take your eyes off others and let go. On yourself, try your best to do everything well, and over time, you can become a strong person in the eyes of others, even if you don't, you have a clear conscience!
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