"If Life Deceives You" is a poem written by Pushkin. This is a poem in a Chinese textbook in junior high school. It has been nearly 20 years since I encountered this poem. Before I went to bed last night, the name of this poem popped up in my mind. Maybe I have a fate with this poem. The unforgettable 2020 is about to pass. Maybe this year, like this poem, it will leave the most memorable memory in my mind.
Here I will post the original text of the poem again:
if life has cheated you,
Don't be sad, don't be impatient!
You need to be calm in a gloomy day:
Believe it, happy days will come!
Xin'er always yearns for the future;
Now it is often melancholy.
Everything is fleeting, everything will pass;
And that which has passed will become a kind nostalgia
This poem expresses the author's outlook on life in the past, present and future. This open-minded attitude and the attitude of reconciliation with life is an attitude that many contemporary people lack. I am a more emotional person. When facing the past, present and future, I am always full of three emotions: extreme addiction, dissatisfaction and anxiety. I think this poem should best suit me as a compass for my life. Reflecting on these three stages, I feel a lot of emotion. Thinking of junior high school, university, and now my understanding of this poem is really interesting. Let me talk about me in junior high school first!
When I was in junior high school, I was enrolled in a boarding junior high school, and that was the first time I left my parents' arms. At that time, it was classmates and teachers who got along the most. Who said that teenagers didn't know how to feel sad and left the original living environment. I felt all kinds of discomforts, especially many classmates and friends in elementary school were disconnected. At that time, there was no mobile phone, QQ, or WeChat. It was troublesome to connect, and everyone went to different junior high schools. Later in this boarding school, my previous friends rarely met. New environment, new teachers, new classmates, everything means a new model, I am in a period of transition. When making new friends, I encountered various psychological problems. In the junior high school stage, everyone’s psychology has begun to nurture independent thinking, and the interaction between each other is no longer as simple as in elementary school, and the educational behavior instilled by our family before has lost its influence, and everyone has begun to not know Unconsciously constructing one's own thoughts, the estrangement between people begins to form. This was the first major test of life for us. At that time, I felt that I was deceived by life.
The second is when I was in college. I left my hometown for the first time to go to university in another place. I traveled from the south to the north alone, and I also encountered the problems of the junior high school boarding school. When I was in college, I encountered various cultural conflicts. The differences between the north and the south are quite big, and it is easier for everyone to get along with each other. Everyone's various careful thoughts and small actions in the face of interests make me feel very confused. I don't want to get involved, but I can't stand alone. At that time, I felt that life deceived me. I remember that I wrote this poem behind the cover of a book. Whenever I was unhappy, I read this poem. I was confused about my university life, but I was also working hard. Look for the future, look for the self in your heart. It was not until I graduated from university that I found out that the trivialities of college life were nothing. The intrigue in the society has intensified, increasing unabated.
I have been working for nearly ten years now, and I came across this poem again before going to bed last night. Maybe I feel that life has been deceiving me, not caring for me, making me both anxious about the future and melancholy in the past, and the daily suffering makes me even more exhausted.
Maybe it's because I am sick, a kind of heart disease: I am overly dependent on life, and I always hope that life will treat me better. But if you look at it from the last moment of life, I am actually a part of life. If you want to be kind to yourself in life, you must first treat yourself kindly.
The new year is about to arrive in four days, and society is moving towards 90% infinite convergence. If you want to be yourself and not be pushed by the social clock, you must find the meaning of your own life. I don’t live for fame and fortune. After all, I’m almost to the top of the mountain in my life. I must pay attention to the beautiful flowers in the mountains every downhill, because living in the present and accepting life is the best start.
I also wish the new year, all you who read this article will be safe, healthy and happy. In the new year: please be kind to yourself.