"The so-called high emotional intelligence is talking"
On average, a person will ask for someone 22 times a day, and some will get a “yes” answer, while others will be rejected. How to increase the possibility of consent? Judging from the way of speaking alone, improving the request method will increase the possibility of getting help by 2-3%.
There are a few breakthroughs here
. 1.
Do what you want. Do n’t just say what you think, try to figure out what the other person is thinking about, and consider wording that is in the interest of the other party.
For example: there are a lot of fish left on the aircraft, how can I make a smooth adjustment of the amount?
Do n’t say “I ’m sorry, only fish is left”
but rather say “white body fish made from high-quality herbs, natural rock salt rich in mineral resources and black pepper sauteed”
, most passengers will choose fish
2. Discourage evil
For example: many children run around in the family restaurant, and the mother of the child faces the persuasion of the waiter if nothing happens. If you say this: "The freshly prepared dishes are very hot. If they are scattered when they are served, it will cause serious burns to the children. Could you please let the children return to the table?"
3. Choose to
invite girls freely , "The famous Italian restaurant can only book seats on Friday and Saturday. Which day are you free" is more successful than "Are you free this Saturday"? other side.
4. Approved desire
is very dangerous here, hold my hand. "The child may not want to be dominated, but when I hear" I am afraid alone, can you hold my hand to cross the road together? "The child will feel very proud.
5. You must
"You don't come or not lively, so you must participate"
6. Teamwork
"Let's do something together"
7. Thank you,
"Please help me to throw away the garbage, thank you"
