Today I read the book "Fireworks of Desire". I want to understand why I am easily given up, how to increase the cost of being given up by others, and at the same time I want to understand the way people of my opposite sex think.
1. What women want
1. Economic strength
The expression of economic strength: directly is money, and indirectly is the respect of peers, reputation, and the level of people you contact.
In the human world, women's preference for durable mates with resources requires three prerequisites.
First, in the history of human evolution, resources must be growing, reliable, and controllable by men.
Second, each man's resources are different, even huge, and the resources he gives to his spouse and children are also different.
Third, the benefits of being with one man outweigh being with multiple men
Women’s expectations for their spouse’s earning ability are at 70%, which means they expect more than 69% of men.
Men’s expectation of their spouse’s earning ability is 40%
2. Social status
Since hierarchy is a common feature of human groups, in a hierarchical system, resources tend to accumulate in the hands of those with higher status. Women solve the adaptive problem of how to acquire resources, in part, by selecting for high-status men. Social status gives a strong indication to women, and women almost all over the world want to marry someone of high status.
Women are very concerned about educational qualifications and careers. Women like to marry men who are doctors, lawyers, professors, etc. Women do not want their spouses to be easily dominated by other men, and they do not like those who are not respected by other men. .
=》In modern times, a person's economic strength and social status depend not only on himself, but also on the support of his parents and family. This is the way to evaluate overall strength .
3. Age
Women like men who are slightly older than themselves and have great prospects
I like older people because age is positively correlated with resources, so as long as the resources are sufficient
=> In traditional society, human teenagers and young men rarely get the respect and possessions that more mature and older men receive. status and location.
Women with strong resources may prefer to date younger men, but in the end they will end up with men who have similar resources to themselves.
Due to age issues, older women are more likely to marry younger men (young men at this time have no social status)