The reason a deeper reason why people are not able to self-regulation, because we have not been able to go more thorough understanding of the nature of the problem behind, all methods are impossible to obtain long-term effective to perform, first of all we always fun but not enough the reason is that self-regulation does not recognize the value of time, a number of media and marketing staff is the concept of "pieces of time", the literal meaning from the point of view, these "time" is of no value, it should be consumed go, can is it really? We can count on their own, we remove the daily work, study, sleep outside most of the time occupied, then exclude those who can not avoid the morning and evening wash, make-up, transportation, meals, trance, grocery shopping, cooking, washing dishes, walking, after the chat, party activities and so on, in the end we still have much time left? To know that most people are actually forced to go to work, work eight hours a day, but for others the goal, and that they only seemed to landlord farming in the long-term employment, as if every day we choose to indulge themselves, around the time of kill, consumed, wasted, then what can we expect in the future can live a better life yet? Day life, but life is a microcosm of Bale.
We all know the tortoise and the hare story, I think through the efforts of all people to change their living conditions or the fate of all the tortoise, and the hare are those who are born on favorable conditions or gifted, when they stopped playing time, the tortoise did not stop, still insist on forward, will it be possible to go beyond the rabbit, and if born turtles also indulge themselves, flying themselves, let alone beyond that of rabbits, a turtle in a large group of them, they can not come to the fore, What happens when there is a rabbit generation better than generation, I have seen a TED interview with Bryant impressed, he said he actually began four points every day for training, and then everyone else was still asleep, he do better than every day players training longer and longer during training this piece his life is no way other players chasing him, the longer the greater the gap will only, and this is the reason why he was better, he's such a strategy is actually very simple It is to use as much as possible all the time to improve themselves all the time spent on them, after cumulative production A huge compounding effect, the better the achievements of their own, widened the distance between the others and, in fact, not only the athletes, if you are careful to observe, in fact, the leader in all walks of life, almost all away Volkswagen, away from entertainment, such as those of painters, writers, musicians or craftsmen of all kinds, the logic behind this is very simple, earth and achievements are all the good takes time to accumulate and precipitation, there is not enough time investment would not have great results and outputs.
Li Jian is still with the kind of the most ancient Nokia mobile phone, only to answer that call, and Jay successful truth written on the song "listen to her mother's words," the lyrics inside, the most common of those business people around us they also tend to business, regardless of what the working hours, but their money is in the 24 hours a day to serve them with, and they compared how smart we are ah! We will play, and playful, but also know how to be lazy, how to cheat but we really that smart use of the place? You see all those people of accomplishment, they were trying to pursue their own goals every day, they spend all their time and energy spent on their achievements this matter, their eyes are inward-looking, is to in seeking, but what about us? On the contrary, people are seeking out mediocre looked out, all of our attention in the outside world, all the time looking for fun, good to pass the time, which star having an affair, which hurt the rich, something for the country, for things of others, to the world of things a lot of trouble, but we never care about your growth, and that is the root cause of most people mediocre lies.
We are more like those turtles will only fun, living neither realistic nor pragmatic, has always been the heart is the heart of the spectators, who can do nothing dramatis personae are, ah, in fact, we have fun undisciplined important reason for this is short-sighted choice of the moment pleasure, not to consider the long-term result, we believe that at this moment he is there who can think, can look back upon the past, you will find that it is too much himself made the decision a no-brainer, right ? This is for social Mody it? In fact, our "brain" of this organ it is not reliable, it is the instinct want to be lazy, to take a shortcut, an easy thing to do, like not extricate themselves indulging in those short and cheap happiness among so many times, we Some of intuition and judgment are often wrong, can not stand the test of time, and fun, to waste time, dawdle result is falling into mediocrity, you will find that with increasing age, in order to survive, you will not not to compete with a much larger group, we have not compared with their peers in terms of skills any difference, you will be others, receive the same education, there is no difference in the level of thinking, it seems out of production product, doing the work can be replaced at any time, worthless alive, even though the child is a treasure house, the society may enter more than anyone else is destined to play a "cheap" game, standing business point of view to look, we and others he is nothing more than the difference between a few hundred dollars more than you hundreds of dollars less and nothing more, just because we do not have anything extraordinary ability and more The ability of money, had been a more difficult life, from dawn to dusk, unable to stop, shattered dreams and aspirations constantly getting smaller and smaller, all day in the life of a variety of powerlessness and his disappointment and more blow.
I know almost had seen on some description of this feeling, I feel quite interesting, he wrote: You know what really crit is not it? Not the kind of hit the spot the face of defeat, so that you really can not breathe into the pain, the feeling can not live a long time and is the harsh reality, in a single minute cut in pieces with your dignity, it will be a little bit the forgotten your enthusiasm, little by little extinguished your hopes, all your effort and sweat like cotton into fists, without any feedback and harvest. You've seen think? Sympathy it? Because life is hard for a miracle, it just so desperate.
Maybe you do not have the old man around, almost eighty years old, due to being plagued by a variety of chronic diseases, gradually lost the ability to walk normally, only the kind of push chair at home with a pulley slowly move, you'll know if you've seen really is a few centimeters centimeters in slowly moving, and even daily toilet have become a pain, maybe you will be feeling when we wake up every day, watching out the window the sun is so bright, we feel that life is so long and wonderful time, but this time the old man how cruel it is! To know that she had also had an eternity of youth, and suddenly I realized that one day I too will inevitably grow old, and certainly will grow old, because young, because we are the first man , so we are often unaware of the time it has relentless other side.
When we make excuses for myself when we deceive ourselves, deceive others, deceive life when, in fact we are guilty and will be very upset, because we know very well, we lie, we are talking nonsense, but just like that period as described in words, it will not suddenly jump out of a living demon or a god to teach you, to punish you or fan your two ears, no, it is time to say nothing, do nothing, and let you enjoy the show and let you develop and let your self-deception, and then let you full of despair and misery of life in the long struggle, all those playing a slide in the past, stole a lazy, will eventually be slowly all the time liquidation, let you die than live, want to die but did not dare to go, can go to almost any animal instinct and desire to follow through the day, hungry, eat, tired, sleep, on a dry dry, afraid and ran, but people just can not live like this, which is the most miserable place human, alive seemed to suffer a kind of "presence" of pain, just trying to bloom themselves to pursue their own Goals, realize their value, this may be less painful if we take the initiative to the pursuit of the fallen, to escape, indulge in various recreational activities, the most they can get a moment of relief, joy and had to re after face various problems of life, all kinds of trouble, those happy, who ha ha ha ha, all of those peak experiences from the brain, and not going to help us survive in nature, whether you are now addicted What, after all, it is an illusion, a dream, when the music stops, you will find yourself not getting anything, but the most painful is that you find less and less time, this will only result in a more strong sense of guilt, but also make you more anxiety and urgency, time will eventually punish all stupid and lazy person who will not let go, the only thing you can cheat is yourself, the only thing you can also live up to themselves, pay for is your own, and those who take the initiative to give up their time, destined to live in a long painful, but the pain is far more "change their own" A pain to come stronger and more durable.
In fact, we think that the reason no one understands, but the reality is often not the case, many people may just know a ballpark name, a concept of it, I did not go deep in thought about, let alone understand, in fact, "know" and "understand "are two different things, but also" know "and" understand "the distance is very far away," Selected Works of Mao Ze-dong "(sensitive words) in a word, I think the explanation is in place, he said:" felt something we can not at once to understand it, only understand something, we can deeply feel it, "so I think the only people in see through, figured into action before they can change, if they can not figure out, it is certainly impossible, just after we really to understand those reasons, we will naturally go to make some changes, so I suggest you start now to consider the "long-term consequences of the current behavior of the" escape out of himself every day to observe from a higher level the behavior of his brain to be alert to those things that do not benefit their own future, even then funny, then joy, we must do even less Do, good things for the future of their own, good thing is boring again, and then pain, then the difficulties, but also to force themselves to do it, never really the right thing to do, to do the right thing.
When you understand this truth then, we'll even quit drinking will become very easy, because you smoke each cigarette will increase your chances of future illness was cancer, but the future will come, you smoking, but that action is to meet the short-term pleasure you stupid brain fills, do not you will go to condone it anyway? We now every decision the moment, in fact, are changing and affecting the results into the future, so no matter what your dream is, allow yourself to do it away from the more recent things, eyes always look inward, always concerned about their growth , began planting their own home, when you really and their rivalry, definitely give your brain constantly sends signals to perform resist, suggesting how much of it you do not like this type of activity, you can give up hope, because it have been accustomed indulgence, why do not you go have some fun of it? This at the right time, you need not care about its feelings, ignore it, tame it, you realize it's just one of your organs, but rather it must obey a higher level of you! Force yourself to train to become accustomed to boring, simple repetitions ability to resist, you will find that, in fact, difficult path, but not crowded, of course, change is never make a snap of his fingers can do, after repeated self-discipline will struggle, especially for childhood did not develop good habits of people, especially, do not be too hard on yourself, we do not beat the world record, we are not going to fight the world, in fact, our efforts, our change made, as long as the ratio of their colleagues, their students have tried harder, life will be greatly improved.
Finally I recommend a book: "The nasty courage" by: Ichiro shore and see Koga Shi Jian.