First: learn to "observe" the facts speak, do not add too much "evaluation",
Multi-observed facts speak add a hint of embellishment evaluation.
Comments vs observation
He got up late, too lazy vs 10 o'clock every morning to get him
He played badminton sucks vs 3 matches last week, did not have a point
Second: the right to express your feelings, to let others know that change your inner emotions, know your needs!
Most people in expressing their emotions, feelings and thoughts it is easy to confuse, in turn, often expressed the idea, so we have to know the difference between feelings and ideas!
Third: learn to express, rather than request command!
① pay attention to our own feelings and relationships, through the expression of feelings to make claims than criticize others' behavior is much more effective!
Every time her husband Chi Guazi will seeds skin all over the floor!
Criticism expression: Wife: "Do not throw seeds on the ground skin" (Roars own hole)!
Expression of feelings: his wife: "My husband seeds skin can trash it, our family get so dirty, I'm sorry, I want to keep the room clean."