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Happy Life Seminar (a): not Miller, not to stand
Xu Cai ceremony teacher , was born in Taiwan, a former primary school teacher, working with children after school classic teaching. In teaching and learning in realizing the sages education for life primary education, then resign his post, he went to Australia Jingzong Institute study modeled after the traditional culture and Confucianism seniors Xu Xing-min teacher to learn Confucianism. In October 2003, in Hainan and Haikou Xiaolian founder Yang Shufen teacher with Guoxue center. The end of 2004 in Hong Kong launched a 10-day "Happy Life Seminar" to moral education as the main subject, it is sure to get warm. This album by the wisdom of life website based on this document finishing excerpts from speeches.
Jacky gentlemen, good afternoon. I am very pleased to have this opportunity to work together with you for alumni seminar "How to make life to be happy." First of all let me introduce myself, my name is Cai, courtesy of the ceremony, the rising sun Xu, Xu Cai ceremony.
I have a habit of a child, and later learned that this habit is also very good, that is, as long as the elders came to our house, I just heard his voice, no matter where I was, I must first put down the work at hand, to which bit in front of the elders told him to say hello, I say good uncle, good aunt. Alumni of you, so when I bow down, looked up, the elders of expression is very happy, touch my head and say, you Zhenguai this child, I am satisfied, because he certainly me, I'm happy. So when a child is doing something virtuous, in the exercise of his sage teachings, when he really bow to bow down, in fact, his heart will be very happy, because people do have good good good German heart. So I grew up on this habit to develop, and later because of this habit to get great benefits.
One time when I just on the elevator, a lady of the same age with my mother, I advanced the elevator, then she came in, I said to her, "the woman, on which floor would you?" You friends, If you enter the elevator when you have a person with a smile said, "I ask you on which floor?" how are you feeling? Very comfortable, probably the day in a good mood. So courtesy is the most beautiful distance between people, this had to teach politeness. So I often tell my students to speak, as well as with the parents of the students speak, I said, "Politeness is important, or test ninety-eighth to one hundred important?" A: Politeness important. Courtesy feel important.
Q: Will now parents are doing the work of the former, the latter is still doing work?
A: The latter. why? The verbal obviously feel important way of doing things, but in fact encountered a child, he is still only forced his homework.
Q: So in the end the problem lie?
A: hopeful.
That fraction of a Well, hopeful yet? After a good score, his life is happy yet? So many of the problems we need to think deeply, we need to use intelligence to judge, it is possible to judge correctly.
I believe that many parents push their children to the other side to score, and then wait for people graduate from college kids, it is very likely even the ability to greet with others are not. Do not even say that graduating from college, many students go to study for a few months is the school drop-out, and why is the school drop-out? The ability of poor people to get along, and have the ability to self-care of their own bad. With the ability to self-care ability of people to get along with all the influence of his life, and one hundred ninety eight with two points difference, will not affect his life? will not. Because I am also a student generated from studies under the doctrine, and in ten years of his career studying them, really looked back and did not learn anything, so we have this profound experience, I do not want my students ten years time consuming with no major relationship in his life studying the above. So we have to understand that this is a deep will to think, how to let a student, let a child, really learn the right attitude to life with the concept, then the foundation of this life so that he can tie very firmly.
So there is no Miller, his life may increase a lot of resistance, because he was a rude, people could not help him, even he will be obstacles. But if we are polite when life may increase a lot of help, help our help, so we should think about elder man, what things can help children learn life. So I grew up with the elders of greeting this attitude, but also because of the teachings of their parents, so from an early age the habit.
When I told the lady finished greeting, she is also very happy that I then told her to introduce myself. The results of such a talk, found her daughter and I are the same session, high school students, but also appreciate from here so often talk about the proverbial "little place."
Confucius said, "do not Miller, not to stand" polite words, it is possible to gain a foothold in the crowd. So we are very happy people say hello to us, the same, if we are willing to take the initiative to talk to other people to say hello, others will also very happy. If all of you here today, friends, you come from different communities, after the end of our program today, each alumni to return to their communities when dozens of communities will be sounded while greeting the language of greeting, we are able to say to each other "Will you a few floor? "when dozens of communities like this beginning, we believe that the relationship between Hong Kong people will certainly play a big change. We want a better society, people want to be able to respect each other, care for each other, should start from where? Definitely not to ask others to do it, but respect other people from our own initiative, take the initiative to care for others began to start, I believe that it will soon form a caring respectful atmosphere.
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