32 the blink of an eye, mixed in this industry for 10 years. Neither good nor bad.
Ten years ago, I promised in front of his girlfriend a promise to achieve in three age of 30: 1 Villas 1 car and 1 million deposit. The gap between reality and the dream is so big, first job out ERP, salary is only 1,000 yuan. I can only live in the slums of the railroad, the monthly money just enough to eat.
This time my girlfriend was still in school, every weekend will see me, we crowded into a small room 6 square meters, buy good food, fried improve their own food. She did not think that my poor, just asked me when I married her. At that time I was really poor, you can only watch TV entertainment, look to buy a house real estate advertising doing daydreaming.
Six months later, in order to buy a house, I jump ship. Engage in the telecommunications software, with 3000 dollars a month's work. Because you want to save money to buy a house, the constraints of life continues. Both parents are met, still sitting together eating the engagement of wine, on the other she graduated we got married.
Buyers still nowhere in sight, I began a long business trip, because it can eat subsidy. I was sent to Xinjiang for six months, summer vacation, fiancee over tourism. This be our honeymoon. In Xinjiang and fiancee days of cohabitation my life flies happiest period of their lives.
After graduation, etc. fiancee, suddenly everything changed. She began to work with the glamorous suitors. And my husband's condition and her colleagues at the Moliu than rows. She is a heavy emotional person, but also a very big concerns of people.
She often asked when I married her, I asked: "After the first line does not get married to buy a house." The answer of course is no. Work only three years, I only accumulated 60,000 dollars. Buyers down payment is not enough, only buy very far. Fiancee agreed.
300,000 housing fund, we purchased a newlywed love nest. 24-year-old animal year is definitely my blessing years, this year I completed the purchase and married two events.
25-year-old company's operating loss layoffs. I carried a mortgage unemployment. After my wife's salary is only 1500 brought us the mortgage life, it is the most tragic year. I have wavered on the IT industry. Try to start their own businesses, small businesses do sell ERP, Boduantui software sold two sets.
My relationship with my wife by newlyweds dropped to freezing point, my wife is not afraid of the poor, but others said she was afraid to marry the wrong person. His wife said the maximum sentence is "poor and lowly misery."
Business failure, I had to find another company. Salary was modest, after the previous experience, I began to mature. In order to pay off the mortgage early, I was away on business long-term. Does not meet the long-term, the relationship between me and my wife very Xinjiang. Every time the phone she complained jealously guarding its availability. She did not like my job, for which we often quarrel. I am more and more alienated her spare time began to travel abroad obsessed with online games, can not play but do not travel uncomfortable.
My wife is such a person, pretend to be tried out their own life is very happy, including saving housekeeping, but like all the pressure vent in the living body of her husband. Our relationship continued depressed state of the two-year long separation of the Cold War, I was also looking for spiritual inside online games.
Because travel and more, we also save the past two years we can outside in addition to the mortgage balance is about 60,000 per year.
The end of which passbook deposit is sixty thousand digital, wife want to buy a house, she said: "Your work is very insecure unemployed who knows when, how do you get older and then unemployed for more than a young age.? At least there is the old house rent. "
I have no opinion, I am more optimistic about the investment value of the property, I believe tighten their belts investments will be richly rewarded. The results in both parents are puzzled and opposition under, and bought a house. At the same time for two brings us back to the days of poverty.
To also two sets of mortgage, those four years I have traveled to China, Tibet, Taiwan is not left to go. Certainly not going to make money on a business trip, I quit a stable life and began to chase higher salaries. I'm 30 years old, and experience is my experience of the capital. If this time we do not climb, perhaps a lifetime is a programmer.
Increase in wealth can only reduce poverty because of bickering produced, regardless of happiness. My job and income has not let feel shame, but also the mortgage is almost exhausted, we also bought a car. My wife and I are still good relationship. Enter the seven-year itch. My wife and I OOXX purely cross, my wife is in great shape, I think she feels like watching a naked man. Both parents have been worried about our marriage. Holding not abandon without giving up, we are in a difficult persisted.
Skyrocketing housing prices, the market capitalization doubled in two houses. Investment for us to get a good return. My three from a dream is very close.
2008 financial crisis, for me, is both a tragedy is comedy. My project because foreign divestment and Xiecai, threatens to hand the project bonus wasted. Annual 120,000 dollars thrown into the stock market was about to collapse in 2009 out of the final turn out 220,000. Taking advantage of the downturn in housing prices in those months, we saw someone selling the villa, we bite the bullet, sell a house, emptied the stock, bought a villa.
In a shrewd thrifty wife of support, I finally fulfilled the promise of the young and lived a life lived villa car, but still not happy. Huge loans to buy the villa, keeping a car cost us back into extreme poverty.
Entire youth, I and my wife and two lonely struggle in the big cities. We too poor, too bitter, fights. In retrospect, break off both ends, most days are not happy. Marriage to collapse several times, several times I wanted to commit suicide to depression, stand to look at the roof feel very comfortable downstairs lawn, you can comfortably sleep jump down. Perhaps this is the Buddha of "Oliver boundless", I began to believe in religion, my mind slowly free.
2009 My work left behind a tumultuous company, replace minister quit work management software development, struggling in pain, more work and less won.
Fortunately, in a very difficult 2009, my wife and I get through the seven-year itch finally reconciled. We are willing to talk to each other to stay with each other, understand each other, rather than Yiyanbuge will fight the state. Home to eat dinner, talk, yo dog, tired day's work can also be dissipated, I do not have to look for to meet in a virtual world, naturally, put online quit. Wife for my work, from resentment against slowly toward default and support. I also showed good working condition, firmly secured the position of minister.
This decade, the two of us resisted the pressure from all sides, also resisted the temptation, tightly hold this feeling. Career, life should be considered rain comes. Life already has too many things like siege, people want to come out, the people inside want out. The cause of this, so the marriage. Escape does not bring happiness, it will fall into another one Siege. Only in a religious loyalty to trust it, to stick to it, in order to reach the ultimate happiness the other side.
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