If someone asked you, "in the face of success, emotional intelligence and IQ which is more important?" How would you answer it?
Today, let us take a Secret about it!
Xiao Bian read a couple of days ago a Harvard University psychology Dr. Daniel Goleman's book "Emotional Intelligence: Why emotional intelligence is more important than IQ." With the above questions, small series this book of worship read it carefully. 
The book said that emotional intelligence is a basic ability to survive, you decided to show other mental abilities, but also determines the direction of your life and achievements.
So in the end what it is emotional intelligence? If emotional intelligence is really key factor in determining your success, how should you do to improve your emotional intelligence?
EQ is why people often say is more important than IQ EQ EQ, the quality of a person in terms of emotions, will, tolerate frustration and the like. Simply means that a person's ability to control their emotions and the ability to identify emotions of others. 
Of course, this ability can control is our own, can be obtained through the acquired training and learning. But IQ is different, reflecting the intelligence of human cognitive ability, it tends to be limited by innate factors. The book said a person's success, only 20% attributable to IQ, 80% are influenced by other factors (in particular EQ) is. So for us ordinary people, on the road to success, emotional intelligence is more important than IQ.
So how do we do to improve their emotional intelligence?
1, to understand their own emotions and active management
As the saying goes Dangjuzhemi bystander, we can not always understand their true feelings for certain things, so in order to truly understand their emotions, can only see myself as a spectator to observe their own.
When you truly understand their own emotions when, but also know their views on emotions. For example: certain people to do something to make you angry thing, then you should not only know their own angry, but also to understand the anger of poor health. So you can effectively control their emotions.
To understand their own emotions people are more adept at handling their own emotional life. They have a clear understanding of the emotional, psychological familiar with and determine their own limits, do not cocoon, more optimistic about life, life has a stronger ability to control.
2, self-motivation
Failure is the mother of success, when we encounter setbacks or failure, optimistic and positive attitude can help us avoid falling into disappointment and frustration.
Emotions determine our ability to play a variety of potential internal psychological boundaries, so it determines the performance of our life. Positive emotions can help us put this potential to the maximum. So that our life better.
When we are in a positive mood, preoccupied attitude towards work and learning, our achievements will also be proportional.
3, identifying the emotions of others
Do unto others not do to others, the more we understand their emotions more adept at understanding the emotions of others. So understand their own emotions is the basis for identifying the emotions of others.
If you can identify with the sentiments of others, and to respond, you will get more friends and recognition.
There will always be some subtle signals to show us the ideas of others, people often empathy reception for these very small signals, they can get other people to get more information so easy these signals others recognized.
4, interpersonal
In the workplace, dealing with interpersonal relationships is particularly important. How can good interpersonal to make their rapid integration into a community do?
To deal with interpersonal relationships, we must have the ability to regulate emotions in others, that you can put a person is angry, through some appropriate methods made him smile; you can minimize or mood that is expressed through their disguise felt optimized relationships; or you can replace that, in order not to hurt the people you love through emotional, with minimal damage to replace the real hypocrites brutal facts to achieve their goals.
Interpersonal skills of people in any field requires good interpersonal interaction will have a good performance. 
Under this pressure is too large current social environment, enhance emotional intelligence, can not only help us to get some success in their careers, but also help us to relax mentally, so feelings of happiness and joy in life. Let us learn together up, for themselves and to their families.