On the surface, you are very sleepy every day, which seems to be a sleep problem.
In fact, the crux of the problem is not sleep, but anxiety.
The root of all anxiety lies in people's excessive attention to self. The only effective way out of this anxiety, then, is in self-forgetfulness.
When you study hard with a spirit of selflessness, integrate your personal life into the life of all human beings, dedicate yourself to ideals, beliefs, careers, and justice, and contribute to the continuous progress of mankind, you will be able to surpass your personal life. To achieve universal existence, beyond the limited to the infinite, beyond self-struggle to strive for the freedom of all human beings, so as to live without worries, live contentedly, live freely, live naturally, and live with hope , to obtain stable and harmonious happiness.
As long as you can actively devote yourself to future studies with a selfless spirit, the sleepiness you have encountered will no longer exist!
When you are sick, you have to value yourself, and you can't wait for someone to value you. At that time, you will find that you are already suffering physically and mentally.
8. Studying in a different place alone, you must learn to communicate with your parents more, and learn to listen to your elders. Learn to be patient, there is nothing you can't bear, no matter how wrong others are, you can't punish yourself with others' mistakes.
9. You can believe what others say to you, but not all of them, no matter what the original intention is. However, when others say it, try to listen carefully and respond carefully. This is respect for people.
10. Don't test your good friends easily, or you will be disappointed, or you will be labeled as " crazy + thinking too much". 11. Don't be sentimental
about people easily , even if you are really sentimental . Others may not understand your sentimentality , nor do they have this obligation and responsibility. In this case, what you think of venting becomes self-inflicted humiliation and deepening pain. 12. In any case, you can't play with others, and you will be played by others. No matter how thoughtful you are, you are not the strongest one. 13. Don't grab the interests that belong to others, but you can't allow others to grab your own. This is the principle. 14. There is no need to be jealous of other people's achievements, popularity, status, scholarships and so on. There are five reasons: 1. Others may really pay more than you, but you don't see it. 2. These things can only bring temporary satisfaction, not permanent satisfaction, so don't worry about it. 3. There are rules of the game that you can't play , and those who can play are very tired. 4. If you are not as good as others, you must be better than others. Wait for the opportunity. 5. If you don't compete for these, you will have more friends. 15. If you can help others, try to help. If you can't help, don't force yourself.
16. For those who like to fight against you, you must first reflect on yourself objectively, correct yourself, and eliminate your own reasons. Second, see how naive she is and leave her unhappy alone.
17. For people whose living habits are different from yours, keep the distance a little farther away, and then live their own lives without affecting others, and don't ask others to change.
18. Good brother , clear accounts. Don't make the accounts too complicated. The money is given by your parents, not earned by yourself. You should spend it sparingly.
Anchor dreams, everything becomes simple
(June 26, 2013, answering questions about selection at Peking University Law School)
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There is a story about a donkey with two bundles of grass on its back. When it is hungry, which bundle should it put down to eat? I kept hesitating and ended up starving to death. This story is a bit exaggerated, but there are many intersections in life, and everyone will wander at the intersections. It is difficult and painful to make a choice. There are temptations here and there. Which one to choose? All my classmates have gone abroad, should I also go to New Oriental to study and prepare for TOEFL? My quiz is for civil servants, do I have to buy books to review? It was said on TV that there was a person who made a fortune in e-commerce without graduating from elementary school. Do I also want to open a store on Taobao?
If you hear the liveliness in the east today and run eastward, and tomorrow you hear the liveliness in the west, you turn around and run westward. After many years, you will become a headless fly, with a hammer here and a mallet here, exhausted and without accumulation. I think that if you feel that you are still young, you must take some time to think about it, not to mention how long it is, that is, in the next ten to fifteen years, what kind of person do you want to be? In the next ten to fifteen years, what do you most want to achieve? This is the most important. This thing, you can call it a dream, or it can be called a value.
Why? Because once you think clearly, no matter what judgment you make or what choice you make in the future, it will be much simpler. I will do whatever helps to realize my dream. If it doesn't help, I give up. Anchor your dreams, no matter what temptations or difficulties you encounter in the short term, they will not affect your judgment and choice.
At this point, I am very lucky. I rarely waver in the face of difficulties, and often make decisions with a slap on the head. Because when I was in high school, I figured out what I wanted to do with my life. I don't want to enter a unit that depends on others. I dream of starting my own computer company to edit software, arrange life and destiny by myself, and when it is done, many people will use it. This is very fulfilling.
Once you have that in mind, all the options are really easy. For example, when I was in high school, I won a prize in the National Physics Competition, and many universities were willing to admit me, with various majors. One of the more famous universities wanted to admit me to major in food engineering. My parents were very happy when they heard about it. They had experienced the era of not having enough to eat, and they felt that they would not have to worry about food in the future after taking this major. But I strongly disagree, because I'm not interested in food, I just want to write software. At that time, Xi'an Jiaotong University also came to admit me. I didn't know what Xi'an Jiaotong University was doing at the time, but I thought it was a railway construction university. But Xi'an Jiaotong University asked me to go to the Department of Computer Science, so I went because it met my goal. On the contrary, many of my classmates chose their majors according to whether they were popular or not at the time, and many of them chose international trade. This choice seems very smart, but now it seems that this may not be what they really want, nor may it be a place where they can display their talents.
If you say, my goal is very simple, which is an annual salary of 500,000. For such a goal, my suggestion is that the goal should not be too materialistic. Goals that are too short term and too materialistic cannot be internalized into your dreams. Goals such as annual salary of 500,000 or 1 million may be achieved quickly, and then you lose your dreams and goals. Like some people who received huge demolition funds, you indulge in it and ruin your future. ; Or some materialized goals are difficult to achieve, for example, if you want to become the richest man in China, you may give up quickly. In my opinion, only such non-profitable dreams and goals can motivate a person to pursue them continuously in the long run.
When I graduated from college, I was also faced with a choice. Should I go to work in a certain bank in the south and get a high salary of 3,000 yuan a month, or go to a large computer company in Beijing and get a salary of 800 yuan a month? I chose the latter without any hesitation, because only by going to a computer company can I learn how to make software and have the opportunity to realize my dream.
Later, I left this computer company to start a business on the Internet. Many people said: "You are too courageous to give up your high salary and position." But I don't think it takes much courage. It doesn't work for me anymore, it doesn't help me achieve my dreams. These things that others think are precious are nothing to me. Therefore, if your dreams and goals are not linked to material, material will not become a constraint in your choice.
For high school students, the lure might be a major that looks promising. For college students, seduction can be a job that pays well and is envied by everyone. But as you go farther and farther, the temptation of material things is getting bigger and bigger, and you need the firm compass of dreams to guide you even more.
Back then, I wanted to leave Yahoo because I couldn’t innovate in it, and many good ideas couldn’t be realized. This kind of atmosphere suffocated me and made me unbearable. Yahoo said that if I resign early, I will be deducted 30 million US dollars. Even now, this is not a small sum. Many people feel sorry for me, saying that you will hang out for another year or so. I don't want to mix, and I hate mixing the most. For me, freedom is the most important thing, and doing what you want is the most important thing. So, I started a business again. So, with 360.
It can be said that my dream has never changed until today, but my industry has developed from computers to the Internet and to mobile phones. My goal is very simple. It has always been to make products that no one else has ever thought of. My products can change the way of life and work of millions of people. It can be said that I have realized this dream, or it can be said that I have not realized it, because I think there are more good ideas that can be done.
Young people born in the 90s are full of vigor and vitality. You should have better dreams. I hope you all think about your future. Think about what kind of person you want yourself to be when you get together again in 10 or 15 years. This is the most important thing.
Don't dawdle:
1. In my own years, whether I was working for the country at Founder or I was working for foreigners at Yahoo, I was the biggest difference from others. I never felt that I was working for them. I might really be very confident man, I feel like I'm doing it for myself. Because when I do anything, the first thing I consider is what I can learn by doing this. What I have learned cannot be taken away by others, and it may objectively create value for the company.
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2. Leave it to me to deal with it, it is easy to deal with it, don't you feel like you are wasting your life after dealing with it? You can achieve 60 points for one thing, and you can do it very easily. After finishing it, you repeat the work for three hours a day and it’s over. Then you go to work every day and have nothing to do. The child is hot, but how do you make progress? People's progress After leaving school, learning is no longer about attending classes or reading books. You can accumulate your own experience and deal with many people by doing things and doing projects at work. Because I have an unyielding character, no matter how ordinary things I do, I do better than others. What everyone does is very ordinary. What I want to do is different from everyone. I found that my gain is the greatest, because I have worked hard, and your gain is directly proportional to your investment.
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3. If you are fooling around, I’m sorry, but in fact you are fooling yourself, in many big companies, how much money can you blackmail the boss? You have an annual salary of 100,000 yuan a year, and if you have a low-middle-level income, you can spend 1 million yuan with your boss after 10 years in the unit. For many companies, it will not hurt the company if someone cheats with me for 1 million yuan. But if you don’t work hard for ten years, it will be abandoned. Ten years, ten years may suddenly one day the company goes bankrupt, or finds out that you are a bastard and fires you, what should you do? Do you feel you are competitive? In this society, unless you have a good father, or you have a family, this is not considered by us. This is not my philosophy.
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4. As long as you fight the world with nothing, you finally find that in society, this society is becoming more and more fair. I think there are still many opportunities. You should not go to the angry youth every day and scold others. At least there is the Internet and IT. Look at Ding Lei , Ma Huateng, and Li Yanhong are all ordinary people. What does it mean for them to be successful in this industry? Explain that as long as you work hard, you have a chance to succeed. Many employees of Baidu, Google, and QQ, we don’t mention Robin Li, and we don’t mention the bosses. Many employees of their company participated in this event and were very successful. Many of them have a sense of accomplishment in buying cars and houses in Beijing. What do these things depend on? It still depends on the accumulation of your ability.
No matter what difficulties you encounter, you should first: live well.
When you do something, don't say you can't do it yourself, let others tell you whether it is OK or not.
Never think that we can escape, every step we take determines the final outcome, and our steps are heading towards the end we choose.