The harm of complaining
Complaint is a very interesting word, it seems that it can only bring harm, but no benefit at all.
Such a word full of negative energy is used by many people every day. They keep complaining about the lack of opportunities, the unfairness of the society, or the bad attitude of others.
But complaining will not help things, not even a little psychological comfort, and the more you complain, the worse your mentality will be, and it will become an excuse for us to escape.
Often the more you complain, the worse things will become, because your energy is all on complaining, and you don't really think of a way to solve the problem.
The harm of complaining is not just a waste of time, nor is it just that it will expose one's incompetence.
What's really bad about it is that it makes you automatically give up struggling.
Complaining will not only make you incompetent and annoying, but also affect the people around you, and pass on negative energy to them without knowing it.
Complaining is actually dissatisfaction with oneself
We are always complaining about dissatisfaction with life, but what we really want to complain about is: dissatisfaction with ourselves.
Why am I incapable of living a colorful life?
Why is my job so boring and my salary low?
Why do I have to live like this for the rest of my life?
The more you struggle with a problem and keep complaining about it, you are actually complaining about your inability to solve it.
Complaining won't make the problem go away, it will wear down your willpower, shatter your confidence, and throw up all kinds of negative emotions that will make things worse.
Since this problem has been pestering you, it means that you are temporarily unable to solve it. It's not your fault, everyone has temporary incompetence and is stuck in place.
The important thing is to accept it first.
If these are problems that you can't solve temporarily, then your complaints about it are just a waste of emotion, and you might as well improve your abilities if you have this time.
If you do, what's likely to happen is that the problems you let go fade away.
And they disappear, not because of your complaints, but because you spend the time of complaining to enhance your ability, and when you have enough ability, they will be solved naturally.
fight back
If I meet a person who always complains, and I can't avoid it, I will give him a proper reminder, although this is generally useless, and the other party may not listen at all.
But I think I have to fulfill my duty of reminder, and then I will carefully observe why he complains, learn from it, and think about how not to let myself make the same mistake.
In this way, no matter what kind of shortcomings and strengths the other party has, I can learn something.
"Use courage to change things that can be changed, accept things that cannot be changed with a heart, and use wisdom to distinguish the difference between the two."
Completely quit complaining, if you have difficulties, solve them if you can, and accept if you can't.
Let's stop complaining, change or accept, and act now.
Finally, delete "complaint" from our dictionary completely.
(Most of the above content is excerpted from the column "The Road to Wealth and Freedom" by APP teacher Li Xiaolai)