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It feels like time flies quickly, and it's time for the weekend again. Looking back at this week, what I learned and what I did will make some progress and regret.
When you decide to take some time every week to calm down and reflect on yourself, you are surprised to find that many things should not be solved in that way. Maybe it is a wrong decision made on impulse and irritability. When you really realize that a stress response is formed in your mind, and when you encounter the same thing, the first reaction is not to make a decision, but the impact of the same thing last time will always fill you in your mind. It will quickly make you realize how to make a decision on this matter is the most reasonable, empathize with the position and feelings of others in the same situation, and will not make impulsive decisions because you lose your mind. I really have a deep understanding. Only when you really practice it will you know that these are valuable. In addition to sharing technology every week in the future, I will also share this change in my own growth. Although technology is important, what is more important is your emotional intelligence.
I used to hate reading literature and masterpieces, and I feel that these words in the book should be the leisure and fun of some nerds. Not long ago, I bought a book on psychology in order to make up the order. I opened it and read a few pages when I was bored. After reading it, I felt that human beings had risen to a very high level in an instant. I guess this feeling, this feeling cannot be expressed in words, is this the charm of literature?
After that, as soon as I have time, I will slowly taste the book. Whenever I encounter a new problem in the book, I will unknowingly stop and think about whether I have had this problem before and look back. Let's see how others can solve it reasonably. And every time I encounter such a problem, I can think of a lot of things, and the whole person will be in a daze. I am eager to get this kind of knowledge to solve the problem correctly, and I continue to suggest myself in life, although not all Successful, but feel that I am constantly changing.
This should be growth, or it may be a long process for everyone to transform from naive to mature. In my opinion, there is no clear definition of what is maturity and what is naive, it is just what should be done when. Sometimes I suddenly recall things from the past, and this thing will reappear in my mind very clearly, refreshing my three views. The stupid things I did before now look really funny and naive. People are not afraid of doing wrong in their whole life, but they are afraid of doing wrong and don’t know where they are doing
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This time the foreword has been written a bit too much. Recently, I have indeed gained a lot of knowledge and realized many mistakes. Some mistakes are inevitable. You can read it purely as a story.
What I want to share with you today is that "complaining will only make you fall into the bottom of life."
Everyone has complained, and those who can truly do not complain are very valuable. In such second-rate universities, as long as you are good at discovering, this phenomenon is too common. I tried to observe the day of myself and my classmates, complaining can be said to be everywhere, everywhere infection, this method seems to have become a normal state. "Why are there so many classes today?" "Why are there so many bugs in this program?" Even when I ate, I complained about "I vomited in the cafeteria. What do you eat at noon today?" The seemingly inconspicuous language was hidden. Complaining. Not only do they have complaints, they also complain about all kinds of unfairness. Why can't he think the same as I think? Why did he do the opposite to me. Anyway, complaining about this and that all the time, have we really calmed down and thought, can complaining solve the problem? Not only can't solve the problem, this kind of complaint with criticism will make you hurt others invisibly. This kind of complaint accompanied by criticism is useless, it will arouse resistance and make people eager to argue; it is dangerous, it will hurt the self-esteem of others, and even make people feel hatred.
John Wanamaker, the founder of the department store chain, once admitted: “Thirty years ago, I knew that complaining is a stupid act. Overcoming my own shortcomings is enough for me, and there is still energy. To complain about why God didn’t divide the talent equally among everyone."
Carnegie also mentioned in "The Weakness of Human Nature" that criticism, accusation, and complaint are the inherent "talents" of fools; understanding and tolerance are a great test of character and self-discipline.
to sum up
People who complain often will always have troubles in their lives; those who complain often will always catch fire; they must face people and things in life in a tolerant and understanding way. People are not rational creatures. They are driven by emotions and dominated by prejudice. Pride and vanity are the source of their motivation.