Recently, a help post on Zhihu became popular, and the number of views once soared to more than 4.8 million. Nearly a thousand netizens left messages under the post, expressing their opinions one after another.
The post is like this. The subject is 26 years old and has not graduated from university. I have only worked for 12 days at most, and I am very scared every time I go out for an interview to find a job, and I can't stay in one place until the afternoon. I am always worried that I will not be able to learn and do well, and feel that time is getting faster and I have to make changes, so I am very distressed. Judging from the comments below, many young netizens are in a similar situation to the subject.
Social Terror: The Separation
The situation of the Zhihu topic owner can basically be classified as "social terror". The so-called social fear originated from the mental illness "social disorder", or "social phobia". But in the context of the Internet, the meaning of "social terror" has been further expanded, and it generally refers to young people who fear or refuse to socialize.
Nowadays, more and more young people choose to keep a distance from the society. After graduation, they neither come out to find a job, nor are they willing to continue their studies, let alone participate in any communication and friendship activities. Instead, they isolate themselves at home and immerse themselves in the virtual personal world. middle. The phenomenon of "social terror" is becoming a social epidemic, spreading among young people.
In addition to the real pathological reasons, the "collective social phobia" of young people is inseparable from social factors.
1. Popularization of the Internet
As the generation of Internet natives, Generation Z has been close to the Internet since childhood and regards the Internet as the main social platform. Compared with traditional face-to-face social networking, Internet social networking has the characteristics of anonymity and indirectness. Young people can meet their social needs without going out and without contacting others. However, if they really have to face offline interviews, work, and socializing with colleagues, they will be unable to deal with them due to lack of experience and lack of self-confidence. .
2. Social environment pressure
In recent years, affected by the economic environment at home and abroad, the youth employment situation is severe and the competition is extremely fierce. For young people who have just come out of a relaxed university environment, employment is undoubtedly a blow to the head. News such as "Girls who graduated with a master's degree are serving as waiters in hot pot restaurants", "a college student runs takeaway food", "undergraduate students apply for cleaning" and other news emerge in endlessly. After witnessing the huge contrast between ideal and reality, a considerable number of young people will choose passive resistance or escape, and the bedroom and the Internet are their fantasy land.
Self-salvation: the right way out of social terror
Obviously, even the "social terror group" knows very well that this state cannot last forever. Long-term closed life will seriously affect people's mental health and make people feel frustrated. In addition, as the age increases, the job seekers will have less advantage in the labor market, and the less they can find a job, it is easy to form a vicious circle of unemployment.
So, is there any way for a social terror like the subject to redeem himself? In fact, there are still. There is no unparalleled road, and many times the method is actually in front of you, and it depends on whether you are willing to take the first step.
1. Get rid of dependence
On Zhihu, a respondent gave a targeted answer. The fundamental reason why many "social fears" cannot be changed is because they have something to rely on and are within their comfort zone. For the post-95s and post-00s, the parents at home have a certain amount of savings, even if the adult children do not go out to work, they can still guarantee the basic daily life. The inertia is too strong, causing the "social terror group" to feel that they have no need to change.
If the "social terror group" really wants to get rid of "social terror", they must put some pressure on themselves. You can try to leave the support of your parents and bring a small amount of money to a strange city alone to survive. In the face of livelihood, any excuse is powerless. Even the "social fear family" who are unwilling to communicate with others will force themselves to adapt to society in order to earn money for food. Over time, changes have taken place.
2. Learning skills
Many people's "social fear" largely stems from their lack of confidence in their own abilities. And the social environment amplifies this anxiety infinitely, causing a vicious circle. The fundamental solution to breaking the cycle is to learn a technology. Since our higher education has long attached importance to academic qualifications and despised technology, there is a certain disconnect between the cultivated talents and the needs of enterprises. Many college students do not have a core skill that can be used after graduation, so naturally they cannot adapt to the more introverted world. society.
For ordinary people who have no resources, no skills, and no self-confidence, they can consider learning a technology, such as choosing IT. Today, our lives are inseparable from the Internet, and concepts such as AI and metaverse are the hottest topics with the most economic potential. Programmers are in great demand and have great job prospects. When your technology is in place, you will have the conditions, capital and confidence to negotiate with your boss. As for "social terror", it will no longer be a big problem.
The dust of the times falls on every ordinary person like a mountain. Although the experience of the socially phobic youth who has been unemployed for five years is heart-wrenching, just stirring up emotions and winning sympathy from netizens cannot solve any problems. All change starts with taking the first step. Perhaps, what many "social terror youths" lack is not the method to solve "social terror", but the courage to implement the method concretely?