Some time ago, because of home decoration, I needed a ladder. I learned that my neighbor had one, so I borrowed a ladder from my neighbor.
As a result, the ladder was dirty and cleaned twice. There was a little bit of white latex that was not cleaned, so I took a damp cloth and touched it, but I still didn't have the courage to take it back to the neighbor.
Later, I finally mustered up the courage to take it, and explained the situation to my neighbor, who didn't say much, and a heavy stone in my heart fell to the ground.
I have heard that people who are afraid of trouble cannot live a good life. I fully realized it from borrowing a ladder.
Those who are afraid of trouble cannot live a good life. There is some truth to this view.
Many things in life require action to be successful. If you are always afraid of trouble and dare not take steps to solve problems when you encounter problems, it will be difficult to achieve good results and gains.
On the contrary, if a person is willing to work hard and is not afraid of trouble, it is possible to obtain a better life and more opportunities through his own efforts.
I didn't dare to return the ladder because of some inner anxiety and worry. I was worried that the neighbor would blame me for returning the ladder without cleaning it. I was afraid of facing the neighbor's reaction.
But I have obviously cleaned it, and this kind of ambivalence makes me very anxious.
This kind of psychology is more common in social situations, and I believe that some people will also encounter similar situations.
If I encounter a similar situation in the future, I think I will face it more calmly, face the problem directly, and sincerely apologize to them, expressing my apology and determination to solve the problem.
This can eliminate inner anxiety and worry, and make yourself more confident.
Or send a neighbor a small gift, such as a box of chocolates or a bottle of wine, to express your apology and gratitude.
This can not only resolve the dissatisfaction of neighbors, but also enhance the relationship between neighbors.
Learn and practice methods of self-acceptance and self-affirmation to enhance your self-confidence and self-esteem.
In this way, similar situations can be faced and handled more calmly.
Solving this kind of psychological problem requires courage and determination. Gradually overcome the psychological barrier of being afraid of trouble and make yourself more confident.