Have you ever been in such a situation:
open the book you decided to read today, read two pages, take a photo, send a check-in in a circle of friends, then wait for the likes and comments, and then take time to reply to the comments, waiting and eager to be The time for attention passed little by little, and until it was time to wash up and go to bed, you discovered that the book had been stuck on the second page.
If you want to learn English, it’s still early, so let’s watch a TV series; how the TV series was filmed, the plot doesn’t match, it’s too boring, let’s play games; the game is almost finished, and when I look at the time, it’s ten in the middle of the night. It's two o'clock; forget it, let's learn again tomorrow, it's not a bad day anyway.
In the process of losing weight, but I can't keep my mouth shut. I want to try this store when I see it, and I want to buy it and eat it when I see it. I keep comforting myself that weight loss is not bad.
As a result, we have found a lot of excuses for ourselves, such as procrastination, late-stage laziness, and life’s complacency. There are all kinds of excuses, and these excuses are all justifiable, with a sense of humor that dares to laugh at ourselves.
and then?
Then, while we were in the clubhouse, I also wanted to change. I was so confused and helpless, I was so sad and helpless, and I didn’t want to do this either. I wanted to do better, but I just couldn’t find the direction.
And then, we're still in the same position, standing still.
Have you looked inside yourself through these appearances?
Why can't you do it?
Because you don't even have the least amount of self-control.
What is self-control?
Self-control is the ability to control one's thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
Last night, a girl left a message to me, saying that she couldn't control herself and would check her Moments every few minutes. She knew what she was doing was wrong, and she wanted to change and study hard, but she just couldn't do it.
When you want to change, it is because you have realized that this behavior has brought you a bad influence, and why did you not change successfully?
Each of us will encounter such problems. The key to doing well is whether we have strong self-control.
Frequently brushing the circle of friends is that your self-control has not reached the point where you can compete with what you want, so you keep letting yourself brush over and over again, as if only in this way can you find your sense of existence and fulfillment.
Confusion and not knowing where the road is are all excuses we make for ourselves when our self-control fails to play its role.
If you are a student, you must study hard and get good grades. If you are an employee, you must do your best to make good performances. Confusion is just an outlet for laziness. If you say you can’t do anything if you haven’t insisted, it’s your own. belittle.
So you have to force yourself to change, divert your attention from your circle of friends to the things you are interested in, and then cycle through and learn your professional knowledge.
What it's like to have too little self-control
I spent all day tidying up the house last weekend.
In theory, it wouldn't take a whole day to clean up; in reality, I did spend a whole day doing housework, something that didn't make me happy.
I cleaned up the bedroom first, and changed the sheets and covers. I felt that the room was very quiet, but the sound was good. I turned on the computer audio, and I was tired of listening to the songs in the playlist, so I searched the music library again. It took more than half an hour to listen to the first song, and I finally found a few similar songs, and then I remembered that I still have to work;
OK, go ahead, now I have to pack up the toys, wash the ones that should be washed and put them in the basin, and put the rest. Go to the corresponding box, hey, I haven't played this chess set for a long time, let's practice, and ask Mr. Qin to kill a game. If he loses, he turns around and sees that the toys are still scattered all over the place.
The bedroom is almost finished, and I moved to the living room. It's a bit boring, so let's clean up while watching TV.
I've seen the Langya List, but Mi Yue Chuan doesn't want to read it. Homeland Security has to stare at the subtitles to understand it. It's not suitable for this time. It's not suitable for people to reason. …
After searching for nearly an hour, I finally confirmed to see Xiaoao Jianghu.
Okay, the living room is almost finished, and now all that's left is the hygiene of the kitchen and the laundry to be washed in the bathroom.
I wanted to see what I had to deal with in the refrigerator, but I was attracted by yogurt. I took out two cups and drank it. Then I looked for something else to eat, and I ate it too...
When I finished washing my clothes, I was completely relieved. It's all dark.
In fact, what I could have done in two hours, I took a day plus no lunch.
I can finish the housework first, then eat something, and then see what I am interested in, or read a book or study chess.
Instead of doing this and doing that for a while, the housework is not done well, and I am not happy to play in it.
Because of our lack of self-control, we are always attracted by these external things and distracted, so we allow ourselves to be distracted by those trivial matters, and we cannot concentrate on accomplishing what we want to do, which leads to a waste of time. , the consumption of energy.
Start with interest and let it flow
How can we improve our self-control?
First of all, you have to find the things you are interested in. As the saying goes, interest is the best teacher. Interest is where the motivation lies, which helps to cultivate concentration.
Secondly, to find a direction and goal you want to move forward, random planning may take you off the track, so you need to understand where you want to develop and further study, choose the right one direction, do more with less.
Furthermore, you have to force yourself to persevere. For example, if you want to apply for an MBA, then you have to spend an hour or more every day to practice listening, speaking, and written test questions, no matter how sleepy, how cold, how cold. If you don't want to get up, you have to insist on finishing this part of the practice.
The process of persevering in this is the process of increasing your self-control.
A person's cultural literacy and life self-discipline are closely related to his self-control. I have seen many excellent people who don't follow the circle of friends very much. They are tolerant and generous, do not care about trivial matters, and are able to control their temper towards others. And measure, because they know that little things and impulses do them no good, there are more important things to do.
Cultural literacy, on the other hand, represents the level of our heart. The higher the level, the more noble the outlook on life and values. He can see the side that ordinary people cannot understand, and insist on self-improvement and control.
Improving knowledge and literacy, and improving self-control, complement each other.
Roy L. Smith said, "Self-control is like a controlled fire, and it is what makes genius."
If you want to achieve something, let go of those confused excuses, cultivate your self-control, and you will eventually get what you want.