reposkeeper 2017-09-15
Reading here refers to literature books, not technical or tool books
Most of the people who have known me for a long time will think that I am a person who loves to read. On this point, I can only say that it is "like " to love reading. Why, because I don't like to read it myself, I just have a slightly withdrawn personality. When everyone is happy together, in order to show that I am not so boring, I can only read books and talk for comfort.
I think reading is a matter of reading more if you want, and reading less if you don't want to. It can't be forced.
However, a few students recently asked me a question that made me want to write something: 逍哥,多看点书是不是能提升人的气质啊？.
I guess that the child was rejected because of his confession, so he was ready to read and crawl.
To this question, we must first give a direct answer: no, no, stop dreaming!
Let me tell you a little bit about my reasons:
First, let’s talk about the definition of temperament
Temperament is a psychological term that originally means:
Personality traits within a person, such as introversion versus extroversion, bravery versus gentleness. (Wikipedia)
The relatively stable personality characteristics of people, such as prudence, liveliness, openness, straightforwardness, etc., are the external manifestations of high-level neural activities in people's actions. (Cihai)
This is the intent of temperament. But in our current society, the meaning of this word has changed. Most of the time it means:
- Appearance is more handsome or beautiful (this is more important)
- show confidence or sunshine
- Speak and behave politely
The junior I want to ask my question, his understanding of temperament is probably the second.
I think if you want to improve this kind of temperament, you might as well save the money for buying books and sign up for a bodybuilding class. After a month, you can make others feel that you are very temperamental.
Second, reading only deepens your connotation
Connotation, as the name suggests, is something inside, not after reading it, it can be reflected on the outside for others to see.
If you read a lot, if you are in a certain scenic spot, at dusk, you can see the sunset and the reflection on the lake complement each other, which is very beautiful.
You can't help but think of the phrase "Luo Xia and Lonely Birds fly together, and the autumn waters are the same color for a long time." At that moment, you will feel that you have a personal relationship with Wang Bo who was more than 1,000 years ago. Across time and space, I still feel the same way about this scene. You will sigh and be moved, and this scene will become a very unforgettable memory for you. This is content, what enriches you within.
But if you want to show it, sing this sentence out loud: Ah, Luoxia and Lonely Birds fly together~~The autumn water is the same color as the sky. It is estimated that 99 out of 10 people around you think you are a fool.
Another example: After I finished reading the book, I would send a circle of friends (xuan) to read (yao). Later, I found out that you have gained something from your own reading and thought you should post it, but others will hate this kind of behavior.
If everyone hates you, do you think you have a temperament?
Finally, reading is not a utilitarian thing
In order to improve the temperament to read, whether it can be improved or not, this is too utilitarian.
There are many people who feel that after reading, they gradually forget, and feel that it is better not to read to waste time. This is also a utilitarian idea.
In fact, you will never forget the books you read carefully. Maybe you forgot a few words you liked at the time, maybe you forgot a character or a scene you liked very much; but the feelings described in the book, the thoughts expressed, and the impact on your cognition will be in your future. Your life and work have always affected and nourished you. Finally, it helps you to form a mature and sound thought, and helps you to show a stable personality trait, which is the temperament mentioned in "Ci Hai" .
Many people think that the famous novels I recommend are tragic, and they look too noisy. The reality is that most of the famous novels are tragedies. If it is a happy ending, there is generally another name called "fairy tale".
Why are most famous novels tragic? I secretly thought that in his book Bright Sword, a passage from Mr. Duliang describing the death of Tian Yu's father could better express my thoughts. The excerpt is as follows:
Tragedy pushes the good and evil of life to the extreme, and the philosophy of life and historical lessons it provides are unparalleled. Human nature is too complex, it has a huge tolerance, ecstasy that makes people gaffe, cowardice that makes people gnashing, cowardice that makes people feel embarrassed, slickness and sophistication that makes people contemptuous, and there is also a corresponding risky face, bluntly speaking Zhijian's backbone and character, the whole country is my enemy, and he will not change his attitude. This is the duality of human nature. All things in the world are inseparable from their origins, such as the sun. Since human beings have accepted the splendor when it is gushing and the vigorousness when it is rising, they must accept its arrogant fiery, which is given to you at the same time. of.
-- "Bright Sword" Chapter 30
Finally, if you want to read, read it well, if you don't want to read it, don't read it, don't mix it with other things, it's too vulgar.
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