This article writes a hidden point. Please take ten minutes to read it carefully. It will definitely have a huge impact on your lifestyle!
Hi everyone, this is Xiaohao.
Recently, many readers and self-media account owners have asked me a question: Are you already freelance? If not, then how did I persist in writing. As you can see, from March to now I have completed 189 original articles.
Generally speaking, as long as I show that I need to get up early, work, work overtime, entertain, and study just like ordinary people, the other person will be very surprised. If I tell the other person that I have to take the subway for nearly 3 hours to and from get off work every day, most people will think it is incredible.
Today, I will share with you how I persisted.
First, I need to introduce a concept " metacognitive ability ".
Baidu Encyclopedia is as follows: The essence of metacognitive ability is the cognition of cognition. It is the individual's self-awareness, self-reflection, self-evaluation and self-regulation of the process of cognitive processing. It includes metacognitive knowledge and metacognition. Three components of experience and metacognition monitoring .
The above concepts do not need to be remembered, you will understand for an example:
I didn't study computer at university. When I decided to teach myself programming in my sophomore year, I went home to discuss with my parents. The two elders were in a hurry at the time. They naturally hoped that I would go to a stable position and find an iron job. Besides, what I wanted to learn was basically different from my major.
They began to educate me painstakingly, saying that my thinking was unrealistic, saying that I would have gone to university like this, and I would definitely not find a good job. I was naturally very angry, interrupted in retort, blushing.
In the process, I discovered a miraculous thing. A picture emerged in my mind: There is a person who looks the same as me, sitting in front of a stool, listening to the preaching of my parents, I can perceive this person His body and movements are so flustered, like a clown.
I used such a third-party perspective to observe my parents, and I was shocked to find that the whole thing was so ridiculous . I even tried to influence them with my own opinions. Their experience has long entrenched their thinking. It would not be a wise thing to entangle them with such topics if they hadn't come up with something that could affect their fundamentals.
So I stopped interrupting, I listened to their words quietly and watched the process of their emotions gradually slowing down. For the first time, I tried to start a new observation thread in my life program. This process is so amazing.
After many years, I just understood. At that time, I actually opened up a kind of ability called " metacognition ".
My definition of so-called metacognition is very simple: it is to observe oneself . In theory, when you do anything, you can open up metacognition. When speaking, you can use metacognition to make yourself less nervous in front of others; when desire strikes, you can use metacognition to restrain desire; when you work, you can use metacognition to stay focused .
I have deliberately observed for a long time, and I found that many outstanding people have this ability when they do something, but they don't realize it.
I have a friend who has been trading non-professional stocks for nearly 8 years and has maintained an annual growth rate of 8-15%, whether it is a bull market or a bear market. I later asked him how he did it, and he told me one sentence: No goals and lower expectations . This is actually a metacognitive ability that he didn't even realize.
But how terrible would it be without this ability? Think about it, one person never self-examines himself, and another person constantly revises himself for ten years, including thinking patterns, behavior patterns, and language habits. Ten years later, when he met, the world was turned upside down and the waves were huge.
Those who are familiar with me should know that I often say: The biggest gap between people is the person himself, not something . The meaning of this sentence does not mean that if your salary is higher and his education is lower, you are worse than him. But I often remind myself: Everything is a carrier, the key is to use what ideas to do.
When you get started with the Book of Changes, the teacher will preach to you. What is art, what is Tao? Metaphysically, it is Tao . To do one thing, the specific operation steps are skills, and determining what kind of thinking and attitude is the Tao.
Yang Guo, a member of The Condor Heroines, discovered the words carved by the sword demon Dugu Qiuqi on the stone wall. I think there are a few sentences in it that are very philosophical:
The "Ziwei Soft Sword" was used before the age of 30 to accidentally hurt the righteous man, and regret it. It was the deep valley of abandonment. The epee has no edge, and the skill is not working. Before the age of forty, he was rampant all over the world. After forty years old, no matter what, vegetation, bamboo and stone can be used as swords. Since then, I have refined and progressed in the realm where no sword is better than a sword.
Let me give you another example: For a long time, I actually didn't care much about things other than myself. For example, I obviously found that I was doing a job with a very low ceiling, and I would work hard for him. Or maybe I know the future of new media is promising, but I'm still reluctant to do it. Besides, asset allocation should be studied systematically early, but only recently did it start to act.
This is the typical mode of thinking that limits development. How to obtain a good thinking model can only improve metacognitive ability.
When I get here, I think some people will be puzzled, "I understand what you said, but it has a relationship with you." Now we start to talk about sticking to it.
"How to persist" I think it should be called "how not to give up ". To be able to stick to one thing, we need to understand what makes it easy for you to give up. I personally summarized the following three reasons why I easily give up one thing
- Unclear goal
- wrong selection
- Difficult to choose
- Too many choices
- Long cycle and no positive feedback
- Internal drive exhaustion (excessive mental consumption, no supplement)
There is really nothing to say about the first point. If you have not even decided on your choice, then you stick to the wool. As for how to make a good choice, we will talk in detail next time. I want to focus on two or three points.
The most fundamental reason why a person can continue to do something is to be able to get feedback from it. If you can't get feedback for a long time, your enthusiasm for doing things will naturally decrease; if the process of getting feedback is difficult, you will naturally give up easily.
To be clear, laziness is a trait that everyone has. The only difference lies in the degree to which a person is controlled by his own inertia. The essence of laziness is that a person is used to a very short feedback cycle, so that he can only do something that is easy to get rewarded.
For example, why can we insist on sleeping in bed every day. It is simple, comfortable and cost-free. You tell a lazy person that it's sasser and more comfortable to go out to tease girls. But the lazy person thinks the feedback cycle is too long, so he gives himself to the five girls.
I understand the truth. But reason still lost to emotion. How to not lose to emotions? Key points: Metacognitive ability.
Persistent people can notice their own negative emotions in the process of persistence, so as to deal with these problems in time and control emotions with cognition . If you find "I am hating this thing", then this is a bad signal, and we need to solve him.
In the process of persisting in writing or persisting in writing questions. I will deliberately turn on my metacognition, find some positive feedback to the greatest extent, and keep repeating this process. Through consciousness, cut off those miscellaneous temptations.
This has nothing to do with the method, has nothing to do with the habit, just a kind of consciousness, and you need to train it all the time. Slowly, slowly, you will find that you have established an amazing thinking system. It seems to be. . . The third person to eat chicken.
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