Share: When you ask for value from others, others are also thinking about how to get value from you

There is a well-known book called "The Selfish Gene", which tells us that "we are only the carrier of genes. Even if we have such and other altruistic behaviors, the ultimate essence is all for selfishness and the immortality of genes." Psychologists have found that most people have an emotional tendency to be unwilling to owe others psychologically. Once we benefit from others, we will have a kind of pressure to owe the other party. If we can repay the other party's equivalent or super-value favors in time, we will be released from this psychological pressure. So when you ask for value from others, they also think about the same thing as you, how to get value from you.