Must have learning ability at the best age
Recent small gains
Driving
This year, the biggest gain so far should be learning to drive and swim. There is nothing to say about driving, be bold and careful + drive often (whenever you have a chance). Many people are very nervous when entering a tunnel when driving on a highway for the first time. Easily nervous is nothing more than fear of improper manipulation and accidents. But I feel okay. The first time I get on the high speed, I feel calm. Is it because I have mastered some driving skills? No, it's because I have a better mentality.
"As long as I operate normally and others can do it, I can also". I always use this mentality to encourage myself to overcome the worries and fears of doing something for the first time.
Lose weight
During the epidemic, eat and drink at home and do not exercise at all. When I returned to Shanghai at the beginning of this year, my colleagues said that I was obviously fatter, and I was aware of it. So weight loss is included in the schedule. I asked a colleague for a weight loss recipe (very little carbon water). Rice, noodles and vermicelli are all high-carb foods. And every day I have a meal of rice or flour noodles. Eating two bowls of rice is also a common thing.
So when I first saw the weight loss meal, I refused in my heart. I don't think I can not eat (less eat) carbohydrate. I bought some new clothes later. Wearing it on my body is too different from the model, and sometimes I am even more envious when I see a model in a certain treasure's live broadcast room. For various reasons, I decided to start losing weight.
In the first week, I lost 4 pounds by weight loss meal + swimming, and I felt a little confident. In the second week, you cannot swim for special reasons, and your weight has not changed (so in addition to weight loss meals, exercise is also very important). I resumed swimming in the third week and lost another 4 pounds. In general, I lost 8 kg by eating [weight loss meal + swimming] this month.
The result is still very satisfactory, the weight returned to before the epidemic. I thought I absolutely must have carbon water, but I didn't expect to stick to it. First, my goal was clear, and second, because I became more and more self-disciplined, I was able to accomplish things that I usually thought might not be possible.
Swimming
Talk about the harvest experience of swimming during this time. Now I have learned breaststroke, freestyle, backstroke, butterfly and treading water. Forget the time, it adds up to less than 2 consecutive weeks. Go to the swimming pool after get off work every day to eat something, and keep swimming for 1-2 hours every day. I don't know how this learning speed is thrown into the crowd. Anyway, there was a lot of praise around me, all surprised at how fast I learned. Some people even joked that they are "gifted". I smiled and didn't speak, there is no talent in this world, and some are just tempered.
I remember when I was swimming with my husband for the first time, I practiced for more than an hour after being bored in the water (holding my breath in the water). As soon as you bury your head in the water, you have to get up quickly, choking your nose uncomfortably, and will not hold your breath in the water. Later I put on a nose clip and got used to it slowly. But I quickly realized that in order to learn to swim, the nose clip would have to be removed sooner or later. These devices can assist, but cannot form dependence. The sooner they are discarded, the closer it is to learning to swim.
When I was still considering whether to use a nose clip. Husband can already swim 4-5 meters independently. So on the first day, I felt that I had no talent, I was afraid that I would keep looking forward to it. Unexpectedly, in just 2 weeks, I completed a qualitative transformation and a perfect counterattack. (Secretly telling you, my husband still only knows breaststroke).
There are other colleagues in the office who are also learning to swim, and they all said that I learned quickly. There are some objective reasons here. There was a female colleague who had to take care of the young and old at home, and every time she went with the child, she might also have to take care of the child during the whole process. In this way, there is less time to swim by yourself. My husband is too busy recently, and he spends less time traveling than me.
In addition to these objective factors. Also talk about my personal feelings. I generally make up my mind to do one thing and I will include it in my goals, and I will take it very seriously.
For example, when learning breaststroke, I set myself a goal to learn how to breathe today. During the whole process, except for taking a break in the middle of being too tired, I continued to practice or observe other people's actions.
Of course, I will also encounter bottlenecks, morale will be low, and I will question myself, "Why can't I learn, watching others swim so easily". But after a brief period of discouragement, I started to encourage myself constantly. "I can definitely do what others can do. Go on practicing and find experience in failure." I have been adhering to this mentality, so slowly, the breaststroke is completed, and other strokes are also used.
What is learning ability
From these few things, I suddenly understood what learning ability is. Learning ability does not mean that you are forced to complete a certain homework today, and you will listen to a certain video course perfunctorily tomorrow.
Learning ability should have the following five aspects.
First, active learning
Active learning is the most important manifestation of learning ability. Being forced to learn is a kind of contempt for what is learned. I have always felt that the ocean of knowledge is rich and colorful, and being able to wander in it is not a pleasure.
However, sometimes fun doesn’t enter your brain. Instead, we must rely on ourselves to actively cultivate.
I used to make dumplings using one method. One day, I thought about other methods on Baidu. As a result, I made 7 different types of dumplings. It was very fulfilling and I felt that making dumplings was a very interesting one. thing.
If I can drive, I can go wherever I want. If I can swim, I don’t worry about drowning, and I can also participate in some water sports.
Before learning, think more about the benefits of learning a certain skill, cultivate willpower, and build self-confidence.
The so-called [live and learn], learning is a lifelong career. If you can't create fun, bathe in it, and always just be forced to learn, life will be very difficult.
Second, get rid of the inner little devil.
As the saying goes, "Everything is difficult at the beginning". In fact, the difficulty is not the difficulty of the matter itself. But often when we learn a certain skill or knowledge for the first time, we are afraid of the unknown uncertainty and question whether we can overcome it. If you happen to hear some negative news from the side, it will aggravate this fear.
For example, when I first started learning to drive, I was always afraid of crashing at a high speed. When I first learned to swim, I was always afraid of falling and drowning. When you have this kind of psychology, you have already added a barrier to yourself before you start learning. The fear of the unknown is human nature, and it can be eliminated through constant self-motivation with some hints.
For something that seems a bit risky to some people. My hint is "If others can do it, I will definitely be able to". I remember that I didn’t dare to ride a roller coaster or a Ferris wheel. My hint is "Since it is a public facility, it must have its safety, so many people have played it, there will be no problem." (It is not impossible that there is no problem, but its probability is like winning a lottery. If you really encounter it, you can only say that there is a catastrophe in your life, and it is possible that you will be choked to death by drinking water).
Third, make a plan and act.
Having an idea, eliminating the psychological barrier, is willing to take the initiative to learn is only the first step. Action is always the most critical link. [Giant of language, short of action] There are many people. The best way to supervise effective action is to set out a detailed action plan for yourself. Self-check every day and complete the plan on time and efficiently. If things go on like this, the goal will be achieved naturally.
Fourth, stay focused. When
we are studying, we must maintain a focused spirit. Keeping your eyes on the target, the difficulty will naturally become insignificant.
Many people like to say that this is an impetuous age. That is because with the development of the Internet, people have more and more choices and more and more resources. This should be a good thing. But human nature is always contradictory. Long for multiple options when there is no choice. There were more choices, but he became lost and at a loss.
The focus of this era is very important. After you have drawn up an action plan for yourself, you should focus on your plan instead of thinking or hesitating.
For example, you set yourself a goal to learn React this week. This is when you see a very good tweet (learning Vue). You may wonder whether Vue will be more promising than React. Then I turned to Vue learning. This is the performance of not being focused enough.
When you see a good tweet, you can click the favorite first, and after completing your goals at this stage, you can gradually incorporate other learning content into the plan.
Another example is that you have just switched to IT and you are learning with gusto. Suddenly you heard that the Internet has entered the cold winter. Then he began to question whether his original choice was correct, so he stopped learning. This is also a performance of not being focused enough.
Whether an industry has entered the cold winter can be confirmed by many phenomena. Is the demand for recruitment significantly reduced? Is the vast majority of companies laying off employees and no longer recruiting, or has a new technology replaced this industry? If you don’t have a very clear reason, you just start to listen and believe in a subjective article, then you will never achieve your goal.
Stay focused, as long as you choose a goal, consciously close all negative news related to that goal.
Fifth, persistence, persistence, and persistence
. Perseverance is a necessary condition if you want to accomplish something. Being able to persist depends on whether the willpower is strong enough. And whether the willpower is strong enough depends on your desire for goals. In addition to the objective environmental factors, the desire for goals is also very important. Learn to have fun in hardship. Constantly adjust negative emotions, build self-confidence, and give yourself positive hints.
What is the best age
From an objective point of view, school is definitely the best age to study. At that stage, you can have a lot of time to study without distraction.
After entering the society, due to work factors or various other reasons, learning can only be an additional ability. In particular, women in the workplace have to face all kinds of trivial matters. It is even more difficult to learn a certain skill or knowledge wholeheartedly.
But difficulty is never an excuse for not accomplishing a certain goal. The young people’s world can go their own way, and the adults’ world can be reasonably evaluated. After the evaluation, I feel that [I want to achieve this goal], I use the energy and hard work of the young people to achieve it.
There is no regret medicine in life. Every day I live is the youngest day in my life. Therefore, as long as you are willing to work hard, it is not too late. The best time to plant a tree is ten years ago, followed by now. So now is the best age.
Find the target and start to act
Since I started blogging, many fans added me and asked me some questions.
Messages that I don’t like very much: "I want to enter the IT industry, but my university is not this major, is it okay?" "Is it too late to enter the industry? I heard that I have entered the Internet winter", "I want to learn the back-end. But I don’t feel like learning what to do.” "I heard that older programmers will be rejected. If I change careers, will I be laid off when I am 35 years old."
I don't like this kind of thinking too much before starting to act, looking around, looking forward and backward. This is difficult to succeed. Many things can be evaluated for feasibility by consulting various materials and resources. After all, the most indispensable thing in this era is resources. Assessment ability is also an important skill that an adult should master.
I like the comparative message: "I decided to become a front-end developer in the future. Do you have any books or video courses recommended by Xingzi?", "I studied a new technology today, Xingzi will help me see it."
For some newcomers who have just entered the workplace, I can give them advice and communicate ideas with them through my shallow industry experience. But when I first came up, I was worried about this and that, and the road in the future would only be more difficult.
In the end, I hope everyone can find and evaluate their own goals. Once they have decided, they will [if you don’t reach the goal, you will never give up].