0. Preface
I saw Morita theory on the Internet when I was psychologically uncomfortable. At first glance, I thought it made sense. After careful thinking, I found that I seemed to be trapped in the theoretical compulsion of Morita theory itself. Later my mentality gradually recovered, so I bought Morita theory on Taobao. The trilogy and self-help books for mental anxiety disorder. I plan to spend half an hour every day to read it. I study it systematically. I think it is very interesting. I usually ignore my inner world because of my busy study and work. , So I also want to take this opportunity to build. In the process of reading, I also intend to record some of my feelings and experiences during the process of reading. This can also be regarded as a growth process of my mental activities. Each post-reading article will record which parts of the book I read at the time. Then, write down the time to write and read the feelings. In this way, it can also form a chronological sequence. The feelings of some previous articles may be overturned later, and a completely opposite change may occur. These are all It's quite normal. It is normal if the reader finds such a situation during the reading process. Later, I should read these books several times to get some deeper understanding. Then I plan to publish the article on both csdn and zhihu, because csdn is a technical blog after all, this type of article is not very suitable, but since my own commonly used csdn, so i will also publish it here.
1. Nervous breakdown and nervousness
At present, I have seen the eleventh chapter of the book The Radical Treatment of Nervous Breakdown and Obsessive-Compulsive Ideas. After reading this first article, my impression is mainly about the content of the first six chapters.
Neurasthenia is a medically defined disease, but Dr. Morita advocates calling it neuroticism, because he believes that it is not a disease, but is caused by some people's nature and some coincidences. At present, there are many advertisements on the market that use physical methods to treat neuroticism, but the effect is not good. Then, because it is difficult to heal, many black-hearted vendors have produced some strange gimmicks that they can cure neuroticism. In fact, It’s nothing more than making black money. Of course, there are exceptions to everything. It is possible that some individuals have been cured. This is also possible, because neuroticism is a spiritual matter, which happens by chance and may happen to change under some external forces. The idea might be cured, but it was a blind cat and a dead mouse.
The nature of
neuroticism How is neuroticism produced? First of all, starting from the disease, the disease can be divided into organic disease, functional disease and mental disease. Organic disease: a certain part of the body has a certain defect or change. For example, infectious diseases or trauma. The onset of this type of disease requires the combination of quality, opportunity, and cause to get sick. First, the body has genes that can cause disease, and then oneself is in a weak resistance or a certain environment, and finally requires the three sources of disease to work together. For example, some people will not get the new coronary pneumonia this time. If they are infected with the virus, they have been infected to others. They are not sick. This is the quality. Secondly, although some people have the quality of being sick. , But he is young and strong, so he might not get it. If he gets sick, he will definitely need a virus. Functional disease: There is no change in the body structure, but the body function has obstacles, such as disability or muscle aches. Functional diseases do not need a cause, that is, there is no cause of the disease, but they still need quality and opportunities. For example, some people are sore after playing a football game, and some people have nothing at all. Because of different physical fitness, if there is opportunity It's also very understandable that you have to play a football game to be sore, and of course you won't if you don't play a football game. Mental illness: abnormal emotions, or due to misconceptions and delusions.Neuroticism falls into this category. The author believes that this type of disease also requires qualities and opportunities. That is to say, some people will not be neurotic no matter what, and some people may be neurotic, and only need a certain opportunity. However, unlike functional diseases, mental illness opportunities do not seem to play a leading role, because these opportunities are likely to be some trivial things in people’s lives, or great pressures or changes. Anyone may encounter them, everyone Inevitably, it is more caused by my own qualities. Just like some people lose their fortune overnight and don’t care, roll up their sleeves and continue to work, some people may become depressed. This is all caused by different personal qualities. Written in genes.
Regarding the above-mentioned theories, I actually have some thoughts, so let's talk about it next. Our study and education often teach us to be optimistic, of course this is not wrong, but this will produce a kind of misleading, that is, if we are not optimistic, it is wrong, it is not good, this is wrong, some people are naturally optimistic For one thing, some people are naturally pessimistic. Another example is that everyone says that we need to be extroverted. This has caused many people to think that introversion is not good and cause a lot of trouble. This is not right. This is all natural. At present, I am conservative and say that it is difficult to change (temporarily I do not absolutely say that it is impossible to change, but I have seen in more than one theory that it is impossible to change, and in my personal observation and experience, I am more and more inclined to this statement), I personally think The most important thing for each of us is to know ourselves and then accept ourselves, rather than want to fight our own genes, which will bring unlimited troubles and greatly limit our own development.This will be greatly reflected in introverts. I am also an introvert. I was troubled by this introversion in junior high school and was "misled" by traditional education and society. It is said that the future development of introverts is very important. I’m limited, so I want to try my best to change myself and become an extrovert, so I will deliberately say something funny to make others laugh, and I am very proud of it at the time. In fact, this is not my nature, so once I don’t show When I feel extroverted, I start to worry. Once there are some introverted performances, I start to worry. The most funny thing is that it was the first time I felt a lot of pressure in the third grade. At that time, I felt that extroverts could not be stressed, so I felt that I must be something abnormal, so I was extremely distressed. Of course it is extremely ridiculous now. Later, this situation gradually changed. Speaking of the reasons for the change, I was forced to. Because the academic pressure in high school was very heavy. Every time I pretended to be outgoing, it took a long time to calm down, so I found that it took too long. Over time, there was an idea that it would be nice to be introverted a bit, and there would be more time for reading. So I started to return to my nature, became an introvert, stopped pretending to be extroverted, just be myself, and gradually realized that the whole person has become happier, the key is to become stronger, and the ability to withstand the heart has improved a lot compared to before , The whole person has matured a lot, and began to dare to admit his shortcomings and weaknesses in many aspects, and no longer like to show the limelight. So I began to accept that I was an introvert, and my understanding of myself was greatly improved.
However, we must admit that there are many times when we need to be more extroverted and we need to communicate with others. According to what I said before, accepting ourselves introverted, does that mean that we will become very bad at these interactions? The answer is: instead of becoming bad at it, it's more comfortable. Because I have accepted my introversion, I will not do what I am not good at, and I will not do what I don’t like, such as yelling in the crowd like outgoing people, and seeing acquaintances rushing forward enthusiastically To say hello, even people you don’t know will communicate, but you will choose to communicate with others more calmly and calmly. When you meet acquaintances, you will greet or greet you normally, so that you will be yourself. And it can also meet the needs of normal communication. In addition, because I accept my own introversion, I will know to learn about my weak links. Extroverts may be naturally good at participating in parties, and I often observe those people. How to do it, and finally sum up a set of "routines", it also makes yourself comfortable in various social situations, the most important thing is that when you admit your introversion, when you make a mistake or become nervous, you will know this It’s normal, and it eliminates frustration or guilt anxiety, which in turn makes you less nervous and makes you more accepting of your mistakes. Even if you don’t do well, you will accept it. , Continue to improve next time, so what we need to do is to understand ourselves and follow objective laws, instead of delusioning to change the laws, or take our thoughts as objective laws, these will only lead to more anxiety and anxiety, and possibly Causes nervousness.
Therefore, I agree with Dr. Morita's focus on my own quality, which plays the biggest role in neuroticism.
After having neuroticism, neuroticism will appear after adding mental resistance and mental interaction. This means that people with neuroticism have uncomfortable things (that is, opportunities), and then very much want to eliminate this disagreement. I think it’s abnormal. For example, as I said above, I’m an introvert, but I think it’s not good to be introverted. I want to stop being introverted, but in many cases I’m still introverted. At this time, I might keep paying attention to my own. In every word and deed, once a little bit of introversion appears, you will blame yourself and feel uncomfortable, and the more you pay attention, the more keen the spirit is, that is, mental interaction, and finally may become neurotic. and soEssentially, neuroticism is caused by the personality of the individual plus one's own wrong thoughts (violating objective laws or facts), as well as excessive attention and consideration.
In addition, the book also describes some general neurotic cases, such as insomnia, heart palpitations, beriberi and so on. General neuroticism is mostly related to life, and it is caused by worrying that certain things will endanger one's life.
Finally, to sum up, the nature of neuroticism is due to our own quality plus wrong cognition, and excessive subtle attention and consideration. Therefore, our first thing is to know ourselves, accept ourselves, and not to think too much. It is equally important for the neurotic or the ordinary person.
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