(Advantage growth)
(under advantage growth)
I recently finished reading a book that I think is okay. This book was written by a New Oriental teacher, Mr. Shuai Jianxiang.
To sum up the whole book,the most important thing is to find your own advantages, and then use your own advantages to tap your own potential and discover a new continent
What can adapt to the changes of the times is the "new barrel principle": as long as you have a longboard and use it to its extreme, you will have a foothold and create different possibilities in life.
In the era of the rise of individuals, there is no need to become a bucket. What you need to do is to find your own long board, and use your long enough board to form a bucket with other boards of the same height - show your own strength Where you can work together with people who are as good as you, work together and create results.
You don't have to succeed every time, you only have to succeed once. You don’t have to be good at everything, you just need to be good at one thing and make the most of it. Therefore, you should focus on the long board, not the short board
A person's life time is very limited, why should he put his precious energy on things that he is not good at? Your shortcomings will always be someone's strengths. When you encounter problems, you can always seek help from these people.
Use your advantages to continuously assist yourself in growing, and continuous growth can in turn expand your own advantages. This is the thinking of the strong, and it is also a minimalist and ultimate thinking.
Finding your own strengths is the key to solving all problems
I suffer from serious procrastination. I know I have something to accomplish but am still unable to start. What should I do?
I feel helpless and don't know how to break through the bottleneck and get out of the current predicament? · I don’t know what the meaning of life is now, and I don’t know what I want to do in the future? · I have no money, no connections, and a low starting point. What possibilities do I have?
There are countless similar questions. Have you ever had the same problem?
In the author's opinion, all the above problems are essentially the same problem: not finding the right advantages. In other words, you have never discovered your own advantages.
Self-positioning in life is actually really important. We are all constantly looking for ourselves.
Generally speaking, failure to find the right advantages will lead to the two most terrible consequences: first, never starting; second, giving up halfway.
People who never start will fall into procrastination and confusion. They will feel that life is boring and meaningless;
People who give up halfway will fall into anxiety and depression. They will think that life is difficult and that they are really useless.
Those who never start do not know the direction of the future; those who give up halfway do not know that hard work is not all the conditions for producing results, it is only the basic condition for obtaining results.
We never paid attention to our longboard, we didn't look for advantages. So your so-called efforts are actually in vain.
Discovering and building strengths is the first step, not hard work. The first step for many people is to start with hard work, and it is difficult to get results.
It’s better to use the right force than to work hard. Using the right force means that if you have the advantage, you will have the goal; if you have the goal, the strategies and methods will appear naturally; under this premise, if you redouble your efforts, you will surely reap great results.
So what is advantageous growth?
To put it bluntly,Advantage is who you are and what you have; growth is how you use what you have to live the life you want
The author summarizes 5 elements for success:
Innate extraordinary talent;
Rules of doing things that have been instilled in this field for a long time;
Learn by drawing inferences from one example and being flexible;
No less dedicated and dedicated than anyone else;
Cross-industry experts provide unreserved assistance.
The first two are advantages, and the last three are growth. Establishing advantages and then growing is the only way to continue to make progress.
As long as you know your talents, understand the laws of the development of things, continue to learn and pay, and get relevant help through reasonable communication, you will be one step ahead of others and accomplish anything.
The key is,In an era of rapid change, you can respond to changes by remaining unchanged and use "advantages" to counter "trends". In a nutshell, strength is to look inward and growth is to go outward. The deeper you look inward, the farther you go outward.
What ultimately determines who you will become is, in addition to talent, the standards for doing things, that is, your requirements for yourself.
A guide on how to think correctly, continue to do the right things, and finally achieve self-realization.
At least, it will let you know that we should face every problem that arises in life with creativity and wisdom, not emotions.
Since the day psychology was founded, it has had an important task, which is to teach people to accept themselves.
By discovering your own strengths, constantly thinking, and through moderate efforts, you can also develop different possibilities through continuous growth, or become whoever you want.
Don’t be lonely in confusion, don’t be vulnerable in difficulties, don’t blame yourself in pain, and don’t give up in anxiety.
Reasonable and brave, gentle and powerful, keep asking and exploring the truth until you can live the life you want and have the life you want.
To grow, to achieve something, to become one of the few, to grow is to expand your possibilities and make yourself "potential for everything"
The so-called growth is to expand your possibilities and turn the original obstacles into opportunities.
Just do what I did, list some past results and achievements, then combine similar items, add them up, and see what it will become? Chances are, this is the direction you can work on now, which is the next possibility.
Every possibility is the accumulation of all previous experiences and results.
All changes take time. The height of life does not lie in how many years you have gone through, but in what you have accumulated and deposited after these years.
You have to push yourself so that you can do anything
The sum of experience can only show possibilities; actions are also needed to realize possibilities; if you can pursue the ultimate, transcend limits, and maximize actions, you will Maximize the possibilities.
No matter what you do today, do everything as well as possible, and don't muddle through; work harder on everything, and everything will produce results.
So what is top-level design?
There are three most time-wasting things in the world: looking for things, losing control of your emotions, and being indecisive.
Suppose a classmate suddenly has a situation at home and needs him to help supplement the family's income. At this time, he can have a very clear short-term goal: making money.
Therefore, now there is only one choice, work, and there will be no so-called "difficulty in choosing".
Therefore, the so-called "difficulty in choosing" on the surface actually means that there is no "standard for selection".
Top-level design is to set the highest standard for your choice.
With top-level design, there is the highest indicator and framework for one thing, as well as the direction to complete it.
For most people, they have no standards, so they have no direction and no choice.
What’s even more frightening is that most of the time, their decision-making criteria come from others or some irrelevant factors.
So how to do top-level design of life?
Doing top-level design in life, in the most straightforward language, means: when you face a choice, find out the factors you value most in completing the matter, and set the highest standard for completing the matter.
You need to ask yourself: What is most important to me when doing this? What do I value most? what is indispensable
The reason why everyone is confused is because they don’t know the most important criterion: reshaping thinking.
For example, when choosing books, I focus on:
Does it give you a new perspective?
Can it help you break through your original cognition and transcend yourself?
Could it further improve your system of explaining the world?
After reading too many books, my biggest realization is: reading the right books is more important than reading too many books. This is called precision reading.
So how do you find a better job? What are the standards?
In a person's life, the highest top-level design of the personal part should be the top-level design of life.
The top-level design of life is to use a very high standard to set a very high goal. To put it simply, it is: What kind of person do you want to be?
I have set several standards and principles for life and want to share them with you.
Everyone besides me is my teacher (stay curious and learn from everything).
Record in time (write down what you see and hear immediately).
Do it in one go (don’t do it repeatedly, do it twice at most).
No matter where you are, you should play your own value, be kind to others, provide more help, and solve other people's problems.
Minimize emotions and maximize benefits. Be aware of your attention at all times.
Nod, smile, and say yes.
Always give without asking for anything in return.
Don't ask about meaning, just ask about rationality.
Be confident and enthusiastic anytime, anywhere.
The above are my requirements for myself and the top-level design I have made for myself.
As your life continues to advance, your standards and principles should also continue to improve.
We must remember that standards determine choice and principles determine efficiency. Attitude determines the height, and pattern determines the outcome.
Do a good job in the top-level design of life, find the direction of life, and live a life heading towards the top.
Many times in life, there is no need for any reason at all. Having nothing is the best reason.
It doesn’t matter where you are; it doesn’t matter if you have a low starting point; it doesn’t matter if you don’t win at the starting line;The key is that you have to know what you want. What? Where are you headed? How can you turn defeat into victory?
Once you know where you're going, it's easy to spot the bends and add a little discipline and awareness
You can't stop working, so the only thing you can do is to stay on when others are on vacation and do things that can build yourself up and add value to yourself.
If you can make use of other people's vacation time, in the near future, you may no longer be an office worker, and your time may truly be controlled by yourself. Your time is highly free and you can carry out global peak shifting. For example, when others are working, you have a holiday, and when others are on holiday, you work.
Choosing to live a staggered life is essentially choosing not to follow the crowd, choosing to fight against the animal instinct in oneself, and choosing to dare to be different from most people.
You just need to use a little courage to replace the original strength of fighting.
On the way forward in life,learn to play games, dare to be a minority, and develop off-peak thinking and habits.
Slogans without action are not ambitions, but bragging
They moved bricks in the construction site during the day, returned home at night, and started arguing on the Internet.They used the Internet as a shield and the keyboard as a weapon, and finally became the super men of their dreams. Hero: Keyboard Warrior.
A person who cannot discover the advantages of others is a person who cannot learn. Those who cannot learn will eventually be eliminated by the times.
It’s not the most terrible thing if people don’t have ambition. The most terrifying thing is that people without ambition want to make you just like them.
In everything I do, my attitude is: I can’t guarantee that everything will be perfect, but I can guarantee that everything will be done with care.
This is my original intention in doing things and my ambition to achieve success.
So what exactly is ambition? My summary is: ambition should be inward, not outward.
Ambition means that you do not stop at the status quo from the bottom of your heart, work tirelessly, keep moving forward, and always hope to do better.
People without ambition will always make excuses; ambitious people will always look for exits. There are also two brothers with a murderer father. In the end, one becomes a murderer and the other becomes a policeman.
Striving for opportunities and finding exits are the best ways to realize your ambitions.
If you are ambitious, what you have to do is very simple: when there is no chance, prepare with all your strength; when the opportunity arises, seize it with all your strength
Before the age of 30, you may have no knowledge or ideas about the world; you may have no direction.
You can also have no ability, or even no ambition. You can be willing to degenerate or achieve nothing, but please believe that after the age of 30, you will gradually get used to it.
The future is not left to you and me, the future is only left to those who do not forget their original aspirations and have ambitions. What a painful realization
The educational concepts and thinking we have always accepted train us to become the majority people. For example, be gregarious, find a stable job, don’t express different opinions, don’t question authority, etc.
No matter which stage you are in, if you never make changes and adjustments, what you are executing is a "majority mode" - you think the same as most people, you pay the same attention as most people, and you do what most people do. Same as most people.
A few export and the majority import;
A few have plans, but the majority are confused;
A few do things, many dream;
A few believe, the majority doubt;
A few reflect and the majority complain;
A few people are willful, and the majority are resigned to their fate.
A few are hopeful, the majority are fearful;
A few people help others, and a majority of people trouble others;
A few share selflessly, while the majority take wantonly;
A few keep moving forward, while the majority give up halfway;
A few people finish their daily work, while the majority shirk delay;
A few people always find ways, and a majority of people always find excuses;
A few people learn lifelong, and the majority learn randomly
A few people are strict with themselves, and most people give up on themselves.
Because laziness is human nature, and it is instinct to do easy things. However, if you always do easy things, it is difficult to develop your true skills. If you want to achieve great things, you must start to go against your instincts and act "against nature".
In an impulsive era, learn to cherish your voice and attention. This is a prerequisite and necessary condition for success.
You don’t have to change the direction of the tide, nor do you have to become a big wave, but you can work hard and become a clear stream.
If you are not ambitious, set your goal realistically: to be skilled in your profession, or to have a place in a competitive field, and to stand out in your small circle, even if it is just to increase your monthly income by 1,000 to 2,000 yuan. Life will also improve.
At this time, seemingly ordinary people will become less ordinary. Because at the very least, you've accomplished something.
Always focus on results and produce results at all times. The future will not be left to those who write on paper, but only to those who have works
To truly grow in life, pain is the standard, but loneliness is the best.
A life without pain and loneliness may be just a 15-day trial version.
If you want to get out of the ordinary, you must first enter loneliness.
The ultimate is never how great it sounds or how good it looks, but how great it is when it's done.
The less something is in essence, the more it must appear to be there on the surface.
For example,People who learn to check in in Moments every day appear to be very self-disciplined, but in fact, their self-control is weak.
People who publish books every day seem to love learning, but in fact, they may have very little ink in their stomachs.
The person who posts delicacies in the circle of friends every day may not be able to eat anything good, or he may be selling this in the first place.
As long as you try to show off, try to show off, try to show off, you will be just a little bit short of the ultimate.
We need to see our own possibilities, but also our own limitations.
The beginning of a person's true maturity is to be willing to admit that there are actually many things that he is not very good at.
As long as it is something you are not good at, no matter how hard you try, you will never be able to achieve the ultimate, let alone practice it to the extreme.
There is no need to copy other people’s ways of living, and you cannot use other people’s maps to follow your own path,
Just remember,Everyone has their own flowering period, and there will always be a time for you to bloom
You must not only find your core competitiveness, but also your exclusive competitiveness.
Is it "only this one, no other semicolon"? What qualities do you have that are unique? Where will your abilities and qualities be most useful?
We must begin to learn to distinguish between what is phenomenon and what is essence. Because the phenomenon may confuse you, only the essence can lead you. In the right direction, use your efforts to maximize your talents.
The best way to solve a problem is to prevent it from happening. Summarizing the rules is to avoid spending time starting from scratch in the future.
Therefore, if you want to study, you must understand the rules of learning; if you want to farm, you must understand the laws of solar terms; if you want to deal with people, you must know the weaknesses of human nature; if you want to create, you must understand the laws of creation.
Simplify complex problems and turn simple problems into elements. Refining 1 to 4 key points is the key to using elemental thinking and having a correct underlying logic and understanding. The key to knowing
The three most important things for a successful startup are: demand, funding, and team. With this understanding, we can then raise these three elements to the level of capabilities, namely: the ability to discern market trends and needs, the ability to obtain financing and manage finance, and the ability to build and manage a team.
If you are not diligent, when God wants to help you, you won’t know where to reach out.
To be diligent, the most important thing is to first understand why people should be diligent
Don't let today's lack of urgency become too late tomorrow; more importantly, don't let today's you hate yesterday's self.
For important things, prepare as early as possible; set goals and start as early as possible; when you can learn, learn as early as possible; when you can run, run as much as you can; when you can still walk, take as many steps as possible< /span>.
Diligence is the most basic attitude towards life. In the field of personal growth, the most familiar law is the 10,000 hours to become an expert. If you think about it for a while, you will know
These 10,000 hours are not about the amount of time. If you can become an expert by just putting in the time, each of us should now be an expert at brushing teeth and sleeping.
Those who are not strong in ambition are not wise enough. Pay the utmost diligence, regardless of the harvest, because the work will take care of itself. Even if I really get nothing in the end, at least what I can gain is that I try my best.
If you want diligence to be effective, there are two major prerequisites: one is to have a clear goal, and the other is to be in good condition.
Clarity is power. A clear goal is an operable and achievable goal. What is a clear goal? There are three requirements: specific, detailed, and deadline.
In this world, all skills can be replaced, but diligence is irreplaceable.
The biggest lie in the world is that there is no need to prepare, and hard work is useless. If you feel that your efforts are useless, work hard until they are. When change doesn't happen, stay diligent until quantitative changes lead to qualitative changes.
You must remember that every effort you make now is accumulating luck for the future.
There is no scenery in a familiar place. In daily life, the more common things are, the less we think about them.
The reason is that we rarely live with observation and work with awareness. Continue to think and engage, and the world will be projected back to you, and you will find yourself.
Ask yourself this question every day. · Who are you?
· what you up to?
· What do you want?
·What do you like most about yourself now?
The vast majority of people, for most of their lives, do not know themselves, let alone a system.
Your system is the relationship between your head, your heart, your body, and external things. The components of the system "self" include brain, mind, body and things.
About judgment, decision-making, choice and observation, there is a saying:Use your brain first, then your heart. Finally, you cooperate with the observation of the body.
This entire decision-making is basically accurate because you are using your entire system to perceive and judge. The world is a mirror for us, and it is also a projection of our hearts.
If we only understand part of ourselves, the world we get is also one-sided
You will go from "I am the only one" to "there is a sky outside the world", you will go from "stubborn" to "listen and you will understand", from "I know a lot" to "there is no limit to learning", from "I feel good" to "I can be better" .
For a person to truly grow and live out his own life, he must start by understanding his own system.
The broader and more complete your understanding of the world is, the higher and stricter your demands on yourself will be.
You no longer complain, you start to think of your own solutions; you no longer blame, you start to find the reasons yourself; you no longer express your anger, you start to learn to adjust yourself.
You understand the world through yourself, and you understand yourself through the world.
In the end, you become a better version of yourself because of you.
"Oneself" is a system, which affects the whole body. If you adjust one part, other parts will also change together.
The key is, if you're going to adjust, see which part is easiest to start with and start there.
Once you understand yourself and the system, the system will give you the answer
After understanding yourself, changing yourself will no longer seem so difficult.
The important thing is that you accept who you were in the past and like who you are now. This is the starting point of everything.
In a nutshell: if the direction is wrong, efforts will be in vain.
The most frustrating thing in life is to go from expectation to waiting, from hard work to inability, and then from hope to disappointment.
You need to know your own talents and your own limits.
Before development, at the beginning of growth, it is extremely important to figure out what kind of material you are born with.
There is "I am born with talents", and there must be "I am born with talents". You have advantages, but you must also have shortcomings; you have strengths, and you must also have shortcomings;You have things you are good at, but you must also have things you are not good at.
Be realistic. If you want to change, you must first face reality and accept reality.
The fastest way to make yourself comfortable is to accept whatever happens. When you enjoy the moment, change will happen naturally. When you accept yourself, change really begins.
Many people feel that they cannot jump or counterattack? In the final analysis, there is only one reason, that is, they are neither willing to admit nor accept: they are ordinary people.
We always feel that we are extraordinary, we always feel that we will get rich overnight, and even if we do a small thing, we feel that we are a genius.
In this kind of self-hypnosis, where can we find the motivation to break through bottlenecks, jump to higher levels, and counterattack in life?
Admitting oneself is powerless requires more strength than admitting oneself is powerful.
It is more important to admit that you are not suitable than to admit that you are suitable.
It takes more courage to admit that you are ordinary than to admit that you are excellent.
If the job is so suitable, why are there no results? If you are so good, why do you still do nothing? What is more important than knowing your own abilities is knowing your own limits
There are three extraordinary abilities that ordinary people must have and can develop and train:Concentration, learning, and expression.
Finding yourself actually means finding your own talents, finding your own differences, and daring to be different from others.
Some of the abilities we have now are determined by past talents or learning. And our current abilities will determine our future abilities. Simply put,the past determines the present, and the present determines the future.
The present is the result, the past was the cause. The most common problem people have is that they often dwell on the results but never look for the reasons. The ability you demonstrated when you were young is likely to be your talent. Everything should go according to the trend.
Andthe so-called going with the flow is to be your true self, do what you are gifted with, and finally become the only one.
The law of operation of this world is: where your attention is, there will be results; whatever your angle is, what you will see; finally, whatever you believe will be What to become.
Belief is the prerequisite for action, and the role of belief is to help maximize the results of action.
When you pretend to be someone or a character you are unfamiliar with, the person you play begins to become a part of you, and you successfully break through your own boundaries and unlock a larger map for yourself.
The length of time is not the point, the point is: what such a long time has left for us. Or, what did it bring us?
The more books I read, the farther I travel, and the more people, things, and things I come into contact with, the more I can discover a fact that is closer to the truth:There is no world under the sun There is nothing new, everything is just the repetition of history.
History repeats itself, and so do we.
A person's growth, progress, and final achievements will all be affected by his family of origin.
You first learned everything from your parents. You learned how to see the world, how to love, how to behave, how to negotiate and judge matters, and how to get what you want. You will find that all the advantages you have are inherited from your parents. Even more of your shortcomings come from them.
Being better than others is just an ideal state. The more real situation is that you are their shadow. It is easy for you to repeat their life.
If you want to know how to do business, go study "The Rothschilds" instead of reading 108 Ways to Make Money; if you want to know how to motivate your children, go read "38 Letters from Rockefeller to His Sons" instead of reading 108 Ways to Make Money. It’s not about how to be a good mother.
If you want to learn to write stories, go read "Aesop's Fables", "Andersen's Fairy Tales" and "One Thousand and One Nights".
If you want to understand yourself, read "Inferiority and Transcendence". If you want to understand other people, read "Human Weakness"
Resonate, refine, explain, teach, question and guide.
If you apply company management methods to self-management, you can be your own CEO and take better control of your life.
For example,In business, an important principle of company management is to minimize emotions and maximize interests.
With this standard, when it comes to your own behavior and behavior in the world, you may no longer blame others when something bad happens to you. You will start to ask yourself: What has this taught me? What did I learn?
You can then apply the logic of investment growth to personal development. Once you know the "compound interest effect" of investment, when you make your own choices, you will abandon the immediate benefits and short-term gains, and prefer to do things that can produce "compound interest" in the long term.
You must begin to understand thatyour age is just your biological age and does not mean anything. You don't need to care about how long you live, you only need to care about the meaning you have lived and the value you have created during the time you have lived.
Obtain information, think internally, and put it into use
Learning a language well really opens up a whole new world. Andthe essence of all businesses is information asymmetry.
Yu Hua's famous saying: "When you are so stressed that you are about to collapse, don't talk to others about it. Whether no one cares about you or your skills are inferior to others, try to calm down and do what you should do.
You have to find your own talents and strengths, then set goals, strategies, find methods, and work hard to finally achieve the corresponding results.
Develop an ability: the ability to obtain first-hand information; then develop a habit: ask, think, and internalize anytime and anywhere; finally, develop an attitude: act now, do it later!
People have a habit of focusing on things they don’t want, but forgetting what they do want.
If you put your attention in the wrong place, not only will the problem not be solved, but you will also feel tired.
How can the human heart not be tired? How to be pain-free?
Master said: When eating, think about eating; when carrying water, think about carrying water.
It dawned on me. Attention at the practical level actually has two realms:
One is, what do you think about when you do something?
The second is, what do you do when you think about something?
If your body is eating but your mind is thinking about carrying water, of course you will be tired!
In my opinion, the best explanation of concentration is four words: grasp and control.
It means,Put your focus and attention on the things you can control; if you can’t control, don’t worry about it< a i=2>.
You can't control what others say, but you can control your own attitude. You can't control the time your boss spends at work, but you can control the time you spend after get off work.
Human maturity must start from realizing one thing: we are in an uncertain world. The world is full of uncertainty, which means that there are many things that are not influenced by our will and cannot be controlled by us.
However, there are always things you can control, and there are always parts of things you can control.
It is controllable, and as long as you execute it, it will bring your attention back and let you focus on what is really important.
If your attention is focused on uncontrollable things, your life will inevitably lose control over time.
Where your attention is, there your results will be. Set your mind in one place and do nothing.
Grasping the controllable means truly grasping the important things in life
Wisdom in history, cross-field knowledge, action without time lag, and controllable attention are the four heights you can add to yourself. They are also the four best tools for you to "think in dimensionality and strike in dimensionality reduction".
Increase dimensions, increase possibilities, and live a three-dimensional life.
1% of inspiration is more important than 99% of hard work, which means that inspiration is the prerequisite for hard work. Your efforts need to be based on your inspiration, and your efforts should be focused on things for which you are talented. If you don’t have this inspiration and talent, you will just work in vain. No matter how hard you work, it will be in vain.
Bias against truth comes either from incomplete information or from biased understanding.
Effectiveness is more important than reasonableness.
The ultimate goal of truth is to produce effects and improve efficiency. It is not enough to just move, touch and resonate with you.
The truth is the starting point, not the end point. Because all truth is just a piece of information or a point of view. It is a starting point, not an end point. But many people regard truth as the end point, so they decide to listen to it and forget it. After listening, it is done.
Learning is always like this. It is better to eat five bowls quickly than to eat one bowl slowly. Speed is never a means, let alone an end, digestion is.
We must remember that reading is eating, thinking is chewing, action is digesting, and the same goes for "principles"
Understand your limits by asking questions, understand your needs through your limits, and then understand yourself through your needs. And more importantly, this process is thinking about
Everyone needs to recognize themselves, move forward steadily, and work hard calmly. Finally, turn all your efforts into strength.
Turn your original end point of learning into the starting point of learning.
Cognition is the starting line, execution is the process. Only by correct cognition and immediate execution can we achieve final victory.
Weak people only look at the present, but the truly strong in life always use the present to achieve the distant future;
They always choose to suffer more now in exchange for more happiness in the future; they choose to sacrifice some comfort now in exchange for a greater sense of accomplishment in the future.
Because they understand that it is not important who they are now, but who they want to be is important.
Many people like to set big goals because they look awesome, but they actually mean nothing.
For most people, a big enough goal can only excite you for a short time, and then you will be scared off by the huge amount of tasks and give up .
A small sense of accomplishment. What you have to do every day is to build a small sense of accomplishment for yourself
If you have a goal or a task that needs to be completed, don’t forget to lower the difficulty of the task at the beginning and cut the goal into “tiny” parts!
But how small is tiny? What is the definition of "tiny"? That’s what we just summarized: comfort.
In fact, in life, one has to learn two things: how to start and how to continue
A sense of achievement is always more important than interest, especially a small sense of achievement.
The goals of reading are divided into several levels:
1. Get,
2. Understand,
3.Feeling,
4. Use.
In most cases, speed reading can help you achieve the first level, which is to obtain information. This is even the fundamental purpose of using "speed reading".
Familiar content excites me, and similar content resonates with me. Unfamiliar or difficult content makes me neither excited nor resonant, but this is what should be read and what makes you grow the fastest.
The biggest purpose of reading is to gain wisdom in advance and supplement my interpretation system of the world.
I need to absorb more knowledge that does not exist in my mind or in my knowledge system to broaden the boundaries of my cognition. Otherwise, I will only live in a narrower and narrower way.
In a book, what is more valuable than information is the opinion, what is more valuable than the opinion is the derivation process, what is more valuable than the derivation process is the application method, and what is more valuable than the application method is the operation steps. .
Among them, the derivation process can be simply understood as thinking. In other words, Information is the basic value, and opinions are the practical value. Starting from thinking is the cognitive upgrade.
If you can face the future with firm confidence, you can face the present with a normal attitude.
There are so many ways to read, but there is only one: read carefully word for word, sentence by sentence.
Those who read believe in themselves, those who do not read believe
method. Just like, Excellent people believe in taking one step at a time, while others believe in shortcuts
The unfairness of time just gives us the opportunity: when others are wasting time, we can use time to enhance cognition, learn skills, change concepts, and adjust strategies.
While others are wasting money buying a lot of useless items, we can use the money to buy ourselves more time.
Masters of utilizing time are actually masters of buying time.
Exchange money for time, exchange time for wisdom, exchange wisdom for growth, and exchange today for tomorrow.
We can only live today as today, because today is tomorrow.
Tomorrow will always have a shadow of today, but please believe that tomorrow will always be better than today
If you want something, you must first give something. If you want to gain something, you must first give something. If you want what you have never received, you have to give what you have never given.
If you want to gain more, you may have to be prepared to give up further, or even sacrifice.
Life is very simple, just try to use what you have for what you don’t have.
People who think about getting something for nothing every day, thinking about luck, opportunities, or money falling from the sky, either do not understand how the world works, or they hold the
If you are lucky, you must be one of the two.
Just like this era,Some people call it the era of "realization of knowledge", while others call it the era of "realization of action", which means that knowledge can be exchanged for money
Or, actions can be exchanged for money. Later, someone put it bluntly and said:Whether it is knowledge realization or action realization, its essence is value realization.
It means that it is not your knowledge or actions that can be exchanged for money, butthat the knowledge and actions you provide have value, and this value can eventually be turned into money< a i=2>.
The ultimate essence of realization is "credit realization". You can make money today not because you have knowledge and actions, nor because your knowledge and actions can generate value;
It's because someone believes that the knowledge or actions you provide are valuable. The focus is on the first five words: Someone believes in you.
You must make more attempts in all aspects when you are young. The purpose of experimentation is not only to discover possibilities but also to filter them.
You can discover what you are good at, what you are talented in, and more importantly, define: Which things will give you multiple returns for one investment; which things, You invest easily and get returns beyond expectations
In the early stages of your growth, resources may be limited. You have to pool your resources to maximize their use. Because you are focused, you are professional.
Concentrated investment is definitely a dimensionality reduction blow during your rapid growth stage, and it is also a quick way to win beyond your peers.
When you are young, you have nothing but time, so I must tell you that the effective use of the entire time is the key to dominating life and becoming invincible. Key to Earth
When you are young, your biggest capital is the small amount of money and a lot of leisure time.
When you are older, your greatest capital is the ability, experience, knowledge, cognition, interpersonal relationships, etc. that you produced because of your correct investment when you were young.
Every penny, time, and attention you spend is a vote for the life you want.
People always underestimate the importance of "correct understanding". Although the truth is simple, it is often ignored.
SoThe three views on money are: the view on making money, the view on using money and the view on saving money. What kind of outlook on money you have determines how much money you can have
For most people, their earning ability will indeed continue to improve in the first 10 years; this ability may reach a peak between the ages of 35 and 37 , because at this time your physical fitness, intelligence, resources, social relationships, etc. have all reached a peak. The combined effect of these factors will make you make a lot of money
After the peak, there will be a decline. The fastest decline is usually in the next 10 years. At this time, you may have a family and children. There are many problems in life to solve and many trivial things to take care of. You cannot be single-minded and devote all your attention and energy to your career. You may even not You will have spare time to further improve your earning power
If you only make money by selling your labor force in the past 30 years, have you ever thought that your labor force will become less and less valuable.
Because there are always younger and stronger people, which means there is always better and cheaper labor.
These young workers will replace you, just like you now, as a newcomer in the workplace, will replace the old people in the workplace.
We should face reality, think rationally, and study ways to reverse it
You must be ambitious and noble; how can a house, a car, a bag, or even just an iPhone become your status symbol?
Your value is your identity; your identity is your symbol.
So,your value is where you need to spend your time, money and energy.
Work hard, make more money, spend less money, and save some money.
If you really want to spend money, please remember the most correct way to use it:
Buy time, not eyes.
Buy assets, not liabilities.
Buy what you need, not what you want.
If you can re-recognize and understand fear, your fear will gradually reduce; just the understanding itself is enough for people to break through.
When you try to understand, the perceptual brain comes down and the rational brain comes up. This process of "recognition, thinking, analysis and understanding" will gradually weaken the feeling of fear.
The working mechanism of the mind is so simple: you think with attention, and you have no attention clutter. If you use your attention to anticipate, you will have no attention to fear.
The heart is a container. If it contains too much sadness, there will be no room for happiness..
All in all, there are three simple methods to reduce or even eliminate fear: redefining, understanding the system, and desensitization training.
The essence of these three methods is to rethink, recognize and understand fear. For example, when people are alive, they have three major fears, namely:
fear of failure
fear of separation
Fear of loneliness.
With redefinition, fear disappears. We can redefine the so-called "failure" as "experience". Every failure you experience is experience, and the ultimate purpose of experience is to bring you one step closer to success.
There is no so-called "failure", and naturally there is no fear of "failure".
Actually,There is no so-called failure. It’s just that the results are not as good as expected for the time being. All of this is experience; and what you need to remember is that in this world, There is no useless experience.
These experiences are trying to teach you something so that you can grow faster and do better.
As long as a person lives in this world, he does not live alone. He is always connected to everything in various ways.
If you can understand this sentence correctly, you will know: there is no real separation in the world, we are always connected.
After you know yourself, understand your own system, and then use this system to understand separation and loneliness, you will know: There is a prerequisite for helping others, that is: the other person is willing to accept help .
You can't wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep, and there is no need to wake up a person who is really sleeping. People teach people what they can't teach, things teach people, and once they are taught, they will learn it, that's it
What can wake a person up is never words or truth in ears, but the hardships, lessons and setbacks of life.
The truth about fear is: most of the things you are afraid of will never happen, most of the things you are afraid of do not exist, and all the things you are afraid of are not terrible in their true appearance.
If you want to teach a class well, you must have good thinking logic, good language expression, and good on-the-spot performance. Maybe you need a little talent.
But the fun thing is that they have never done it, but they think it is very simple; they have never done it, but they think it is nothing extraordinary.
As I often say, "I have done it myself and then evaluated it" is a world view, a value, and a methodology.
Some people work hard, some use their swords to travel to the ends of the earth, and some use their keyboards to conquer the world.
You know exactly what you want, so just eliminate these distractions. What do others think of you, scold you, or evaluate you? What does it have to do with you? You have goals and ambitions, so why bother paying attention to these gossips?
The world is too big, there are people who like you, and there are bound to be people who hate you. But there is too little time, I only want to spend time on beautiful things
Life is short, just be with everything you like. Time is limited, only care about those who care about you. If you feel that the world is not good enough to you, to put it bluntly, you are not good enough to yourself!
If you think the world doesn’t love you enough, it’s actually because you don’t love yourself enough.
You always think too much, and you always care too much about what others say and think. Then he lamented: Why is it always me who gets hurt?
Every time you don't reject others, you are rejecting yourself; every time you try to please the outside, it is an inward betrayal. Every time you compliment someone a little more, you destroy yourself a little bit.
At the heart of a pleaser is an overly sensitive and fragile child. While they please others, they bear the tiredness and grievances behind them alone.
They are always very keenly aware of the needs of others, and it is almost difficult to refuse anyone's request; and they themselves seem to be people with no needs at all, even if others have touched their principles and bottom lines, they can still endure again and again
Another important manifestation of pleasing others is not pleasing yourself; you always feel that it is you who are wrong and everything is your responsibility.
When you were a child, you knew that,children who cry can get candy; when you grow up, you learn that women who act coquettishly are the best.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said that the world belongs to oneself and has nothing to do with others.
When people with high emotional intelligence please others, they also please themselves, and gain a sense of accomplishment; while people who please others, when they please others, give up themselves first, and gain a sense of security.
There is really no situation in this world that you must try to please. If there is an environment where people must please, then there must also be contempt, teasing and lack of respect in this environment.
In fact, disrespect is not the most terrible thing, and flattery is not the most terrible thing either. The most terrifying thing is: contempt becomes a habit and pleasing becomes natural. That is to say, you are used to being abused, so the more I abuse you, the happier you will be.
The only way to win the respect of the world is not to grovel or try to please, but to respect yourself.
One day, you will understand that it is okay to please others, but don’t forget to please yourself first.
The most important thing in life is to live according to your own wishes, be with everything you like, and never try to be the person who doesn't want to let others down.
Otherwise, in the end, you may please everyone, but only hate yourself.
Follow first and lead later is empathy
What is follow first and lead later? As the name suggests, I will first follow your direction, and then take you to my direction.
From a communication perspective: I will give you positive feedback first, and then tell you what I want to say to you.
Follow first and then lead. To put it simply, it is respect for others. To put it more deeply, it is empathy.
We are too used to putting our own thoughts on others; we are too used to thinking that what we see is all the facts, but we have never thought about what the other person thinks? Why did he do this?
When people are emotional, never speak reason. No matter how much you talk, no matter how reasonable you are, if you have emotions, you will not be listened to. You have to remember that in any situation, you must resolve your emotions first and then resolve the problem.
Only by sharing the same stream can we communicate, and only by communicating can we have a heart-to-heart relationship. True empathy is to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and then synchronize them
First try to stand in the other person's perspective, and then lead the other person forward together.
Many times, your perspective is your attitude. Only through empathy can we share the same frequency.
"Follow first and then lead" is not only useful in daily communication, but in special circumstances, it can even create miracles.
Speaking clearly and expressing the situation correctly are the most basic requirements and prerequisites for all communication.
Absolute coordinate communication means: assuming that everyone you communicate with is a stranger and is not in the same situation, you need to explain things as clearly and concisely as possible.
Analogy is the best explanation
Einstein said that if you can't express something very simply, you don't have the ability to fully explain something clearly.
It is said that Einstein can explain the theory of relativity to an 8-year-old child and an 80-year-old grandmother.
A teacher’s bounden duty is to make problems simpler, not to make them more complicated.
The purpose of communication is the same.
The quality of your communication is the quality of your life. The improvement of communication quality starts with speaking clearly and explaining things clearly.
Put yourself more in the other person's perspective, think about the other person's position and situation, and pay attention to the other person's response during communication.
Speak more human words, less nonsense, and no nonsense. Only in this way can communication truly take place. Otherwise, your so-called communication is just talking to yourself.
As long as you are willing, you can always do something to change the status quo. And your only enemy is yourself.
The most important thing is that everyone has the opportunity to find their own talents, build their own advantages, continue to learn and grow, and live the way they want.
After reading this book, I still think it is acceptable. The author is also a famous teacher in New Oriental. A powerful person is naturally powerful. Being able to preach, teach and solve doubts about his own life experience is of great significance in itself.
Get to know more powerful people. To get to know someone doesn’t necessarily mean looking at each other. It’s a kind of understanding through reading, books, etc.
For some things, you can stand on the shoulders of giants, borrow the wisdom of others, and save yourself some detours.Having results and effects is far more important than making sense.
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