On Thursday, I set off to Xinxiang to attend a classmate's (the class leader in college) wedding. To be honest, this may be the last time to attend a classmate's wedding. Because I got married at the age of 30, subjectively it was very late, especially in a society with heavy traditional ideas like ours.
In fact, most of the classmates are married, and the children will get soy sauce. Some even inadvertently, both children!
Attending a wedding is a very rare and cherished thing, because there are not too many people willing to ask you to attend the wedding, unless you are a socialite who loves everyone and blows a tire.
From 2010 to 2014, I was in Suzhou for three and a half years. Most of the classmates who are close to each other are in Henan, not many of them leave the province. One of them was at the same table, named Ah Lian, from Pingdingshan, who took good care of me during the year when I was repeating. He took me to his house for dinner and sleep. One day, he called me and said, "Brother, I am getting married. On October 1, can you come to participate?"
I really wanted to go, but due to the traffic conditions and work pressure at the time, I didn't make it. It stands to reason that if the relationship is strong enough, even if there are thousands of mountains and rivers, you should go. But it really didn't happen, and this matter has always made me worry about it. If you make a list of things you regret doing in the past ten years, you can definitely make it into the top five.
When I got married in 2016, I really wanted to ask him to come and participate, but in the end I didn't call. Because if I didn't go, letting others over would not be in line with my behavioral rules: only what I gave was worthy of others' rewards. If I didn't give anything, it would definitely not be worthy of others' rewards.
After returning to Luoyang in 2014, no matter who got married or where he was, just call me and I will go there, no matter if he came when I got married. Because I know that if you see this opportunity, you will miss it once.
I am a perceptual person, that is to say, as long as others treat me well, I will treat others well, and will not fade away with the passage of time.
I will leave at two o'clock in the afternoon on Thursday. When I arrived in Zhengzhou after four o'clock, I went to the company of a classmate (Xiao Li) to fish for an hour because he could only leave before five o'clock.
When I was fishing in his company, I observed that most programmers have relatively dense hair, and only a few of them are bald, probably at the level of architects. The company is an open office, so it is noisy, almost like a vegetable market.
They look relaxed on the surface, and few of them have unhappiness and fatigue on their faces. Sitting on my left is a girl. In my peripheral vision, she looks like the more sought-after one. After all, there are few programs.
I learned from Xiao Li that Zhengzhou's software environment is indeed better than Luoyang, but compared with the first-tier cities, the gap is still quite large. There are a few readers around me who can't stand the low wages and overtime in Zhengzhou, so they simply go to first-tier cities.
At five o'clock, we both got up and left. After picking up the other two classmates at the Municipal Sports Center, the four of us got on the Beijing-Hong Kong-Macao Expressway and headed straight for Xinxiang.
Around eight o'clock in the evening, three other classmates also came over, Junhui, Shaobo and Viagra. The seven of us made up a table, ate something and drank some liquor.
To be honest, I haven't drunk liquor for a long time. After drinking a large glass, I was a little bit up and confused. It’s rare to see everyone, and I’m sure to have a good time again, so I booked a KTV private room. After I went there, I sang Jay Chou’s "The End of the World". Several other people sang a song or two, and I felt that there was no atmosphere.
About our age, KTV is no longer suitable for us, right? So someone suggested to go for foot baths and general health care, but some of us rightly refused.
Where to go? Xinxiang is very unfamiliar to us. We haven't been here much. The groom went to Zhumadian to meet his relatives according to the custom. We didn't want to bother him. So I went to the young lady at the front desk and asked about a food stall.
After arriving there, I was really shocked, it was very lively and crowded! It turns out that food stalls are the home of our group of greasy middle-aged people (except me).
Eat and drink! Let go of the drink, the flowers on the roadside have been fertilized by us. If you drink too much, everyone will talk about more topics.
The students all said they envied me and said that I have changed a lot in the past two years, not only earning more money, but also mature.
Shaobo stayed in school and became a teacher after graduation. He said that once, working overtime with our class teacher was very boring. The class teacher asked him, "Are you still in contact?" Shaobo said, "Contact, Ma Weiqing In Luoyang, we have always had a good relationship. He writes a blog very well and publishes books. The CSDN ranking is very high." The head teacher was a little surprised after listening, "I can't tell, he still has this ability."
In fact, for a group of college graduates like us, it is not particularly easy to gain a foothold in this society.
Educational background, family conditions, and social relations will restrict people's development in many ways, so most of the students are far-fetched. Adu said with emotion, "Xiaoqing, you earn more money in one month than I earn in two months."
But in my opinion, I don't earn much. Among the people I know, many, many people earn more than me.
I'm usually a very restrained person, but when I get up, I talk a lot. I said, "No matter what changes our classmates' social status may have in the future, when we sit down again, we can still speak freely as we do now."
“I’m not actually a person who can drink, but you’ve seen it for so many years. Every time I drink, I drink to the full. Some of you can’t drink and don’t want to drink too much. But in my opinion Come on, a person's life is said to be long or short. If you don't enjoy yourself, time will pass by minute by minute."
"We won't have too many opportunities to drink together. The squad leader is married this time. I guess I will see you next time. I don't know the year of the monkey."
After speaking, I held a glass and had another drink with everyone.
Time flies so fast, unconsciously, we talked until four o'clock in the morning. Me, Xiao Li, and Shaobo were resting in the car, and the other four went to the hotel because the three of us did not bring ID cards, which was an embarrassing sum.
I woke up at 7 o'clock in the morning, feeling dizzy, and my stomach was overwhelmed, especially uncomfortable. So that I didn't even attend the wedding later, so I booked an hourly room in the hotel next to the banquet and rested for three hours.
Maybe my behavior is a bit unkind, right? I went to a classmate’s wedding, but I drank too much. I didn’t eat the banquet and went to sleep in the hotel. But the classmates all know me, and they know that I am not the kind of person who loves face.
If you are happy, you will be happy, and if you are sad, you will be sad silently. There is no need to be cautious, no need to hold on.
After waking up in a daze, I felt a lot more at ease. Seeing the squad leader exclaimed and gave a red envelope, it was time to leave.
Xiao Li drove my car, I took the co-pilot, and first sent the two brides’ best friends to the Xinxiang High-speed Railway Station, and then we returned to Zhengzhou. I will take Xiao Li home first, I will take the opportunity to rest, and then at 5:30 in the afternoon, I will go back to Luoyang on the Lianhuo Expressway.
When I got home, I took a shower, and my exhaustion was gone. Home is like this. When you are tired, it can give you warmth and love. When staying at home for a long time, go out and enjoy the friendship and the scenery.
A person's life may be so pure and simple, but it is also fun.
In other words, who is the next wedding? I really want to go, is anyone willing to create another opportunity (escape?
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