The five characteristics of immature people
The first characteristic: to return immediately
They say never give up, in fact, give up is very simple, just a body and to say that you can no longer move, but at the same time he insisted it looks is so easier said than done. After all, the outcome of the insistence that we need to spend a certain amount of time, money, hobbies can get. People say, "winners never give up, never give up those who succeed."
That's why many people do things easily give it up? Famous American success guru Napoleon Hill said:
There are two very typical of the poor state of mind:
1, always on the chance to say: "no";
2, always want to "get rich."
Today you have the opportunity to put anything in front of him, he will say no. Even if you give him the opportunity to explain the benefits of this, but he refused to say that the cost is too long a time. See the results. But everyone knows they
You want to get the time, you have to first pay period;
You want to get money, you have to pay money;
You want love, you have to sacrifice hobby.
However, one thing is clear, you pay in this project, you will get double reward.
Like a seed, put it after you kind of go, then watering, fertilizing, weeding, insecticide.
Finally you are not harvested several times, but a hundred times return. So to be successful, we need to pay, in return at harvest.
The second feature: undisciplined
Undisciplined maximum performance is reluctant to change ourselves, our body has many shortcomings, if all our not address these shortcomings, then we have no way to get growth. So first of all we have to change their way of thinking and behavior patterns. Second, we must change our bad habits.
The third characteristic: often swayed by emotion
Sometimes we are often swayed by their emotions, simple point that is to be dominated by your own brain. But obviously things in time when we are dominated by the brain processes often can not be resolved. There is always a wide variety of shortcomings. So we can not be dominated by emotions in the brain, the brain should become our disposal.
The fourth feature: do not want to learn, self-righteous, no zero mentality
The biggest difference between humans and animals that can think, can learn. We often feel that we are again living in terrible, what will be, this time we become self-righteous, and if you want to feel what we are, then we will not need to learn, then there with the same.
The fifth characteristic: to do things that do not rely on faith, relying on hide
One thing needs to be a belief, not others, and what they say, what you do, then we can only be a tool for people.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
A habit: proactive
That actively take the initiative for their own past, present and future of responsible behavior, and based on principles and values, rather than emotion and the external environment to decide. Proactive people are agents of change birth, they give up the passive role of victim, not to feel inferior, not resentment, develop four unique human endowments: self-knowledge, conscience, imagination and self-determination, initiative, from the inside to outside of ways to create change.
Habit 2: Begin with the End
All things have been created twice, first brewing in my mind, followed the essence of creation. Individuals, families, groups and organizations in making any plans were first drawn up vision and goals, and accordingly shape the future, fully focused on their most important principles, on values, relationships and goals. Leadership core is in the mission, shared vision of basic values and above, creating a culture.
Habit 3: Put first things first
That is the essence of creating something important, it is the dream of (your goals, vision, values and important matter processing order) of the organization and timing. Minor things do not have in the first place, events can not be placed second. No matter how urgent, individuals and organizations have come for something important, point is that the important matter on the first pick.
Four habits: a win-win thinking
A win-win thinking is based on mutual respect and seeking mutually beneficial framework for thinking with the mind, the purpose is to strive for a more varied opportunity, wealth and resources, rather than cut-throat competition of hostility. Neither selfish win (win or lose), nor loss - Win (win or lose). Working partners or family members are more from the perspective of interdependence style thinking ( 'we' instead of 'I'). A win-win thinking encourages us to solve the problem, it is also required to assist each other to find mutually beneficial solutions, is a kind of information, to share power, recognition and reward.
Habit five: Knowing your enemy has the solution
When we abandon anxious heart, changed to compassion to listen to others, you will be able to open real communication, enhance mutual understanding. After get to know each other, will feel respected and recognized, and then remove the psychological barriers, honest face, mutual understanding of the two sides will be more smooth and natural. Merciful heart need each other; friend takes courage, energy balance, can greatly enhance the efficiency of communication.
Six habits: integration synergy
Integration synergies are talking about creating a third option, neither my way nor follow your way, but take the third option is far better than a personal opinion. This is the outcome of mutual respect - not only understand each other, even praise, appreciate the wisdom of each other to solve the problem and grasp opportunities. The power of individuals is the basis of family unification and team synergy, can make the overall results obtained 1 + 1> 2. Practice integration synergies interpersonal and team will abandon the hostile attitude of (1 + 1 = 1/2), not to compromise the target (1 + 1 = 1 or 1/2), also does not stop cooperation (1 + 1 = 2), the pursuit of style is to create cooperation (1 + 1 = 3 or more).
Seven habits: constantly updated
Keep talking about how to live in the four faces (physical, social, emotional, mental and spiritual), and constantly update themselves, this used to enhance the efficiency of the implementation of the other six habits. For individuals and organizations, constantly updated and constantly improving, so that it will not appear aging and fatigue, and towards a new growth path.
Thinking growth
Growing thinking from "lifelong growth" this book, the contents of this book tells us that the human mind is able to grow, rather than static, growth-oriented mindset would drive us to take more risks, make us more courage, show greater toughness, can be more positive and optimistic to face all difficulties and obstacles; it can make us human courage, calmness able to deal with all the risks we face, let us from every setbacks and lessons learned, derives strength development, allow yourself to become more powerful, thinking we no longer arrested in the moment, but focused on the future, things change others as a problem for their chance to become others are willing to follow the leader. Growing mode of thinking can be so that we do not stick to the successful model of the past, not one year of experience in ten years, but always continue to learn and grow.
