"On the human growth": communication, loneliness and reality

In late October 2019, I once again recharge after traffic off the net, and reality told me I should not buy traffic, this month spent on traffic has more than enough. So I started a fake isolated for a period of a few days. When no one around me was off network, when I was surrounded by students rub network. When I found out I did not net the hearts of some inexplicable joy, feeling the whole world clean, and I do not have to be a variety of news bother, do not care is not promptly respond to news of a friend, not because a network is sufficient reason to support I excuse everything, I suddenly felt this is a good oil deal with someone else's head, I will not know whether or not to use less. I sat in the dormitory, want to learn to use the computer, can not find the classroom lesson plans at no net, not search-related information, not contact other people, in short, is like no professional related learning network that all obliterated. Finally, I strongly do not want to decadent psychology, I picked up one of the only open only once a book: "On the human growth." The origins of this book is a reward, not specifically say. In the past few days I have selected three of them seriously, and three are about communication, loneliness and realistic themes. I would like to understand what I read later, a short few words, I want to put it down.
Communication: without evaluation of listening, listening and putting the evaluation
in time to be heard, people tend to want to be around the listener can listen to not make any assessment, to be heard as long as brazenly express themselves, their emotions excretion. At the same time turn as the listener is not listening to the evaluation of the listener a sense of security. Of course, the book is mentioned in a talk to be heard by the listener's subjective thinking conjecture became listener wanting to be heard as to who is the listener to add their own ideas in a talk talk in person, this is not do not do the evaluation, referred to in the book is not only without comments in words, but also in personal styling thinking on this, only to eliminate subjective idea, this is not listening evaluation. The equivalent of a conversation between two strangers.
Lonely: The book tells the story of a woman is seen as early counselors are people with mental illness. The author wants to tell us, the people who need help as an object rather than a person in question. The women living in the speech of others, she is always on their inner passion does not endorse, just because close relatives, friends, doctors gave her a different idea, she lived in his father's expectations, and completely lose your hope, put yourself trapped in a lack of confidence among the lonely. Early consultant put him into a terminally ill person can not cure, and can do is to commit suicide, thinking she would survive also killed, led to her suicide thoughts before or do their own hopeless only to die, so she made that choice. This allows real case of very angry, if you let the women know the importance of self, perhaps her situation to improve, she will make a revolt. So I would like to sum up in one sentence: Experience the ideas of others in the ego.
Reality: break reality, learning from each other
authors suggest that we live in the same kind of reality, if people can not live in this reality, everyone has their own reality, and learn from each other, the future will be different, I think it should be development of faster. The book mentions Copernicus, the authors say, at the time of Copernicus proposed the heliocentric theory, because when people know the reality is different, so his idea was rejected by the reality of the world, but was later confirmed by the scientific and the idea is different from the reality. When there is a new reality appears in front of people because of the limitations of reality deny this new reality, if people can be like Copernicus, like there is a new reality, and learn from each other for a new reality, development, then there a big difference. But this is the ideal state.