Often said introvert, workplace doomed to fail.
I have a friend, unsocial, most of the time, you stay home or company code code. Often friends, neighbors, relatives condemn too lonely, only recently learned that he had written a small game last year earned 1 million .
So do not underestimate introverted.
After 90 boys Gamaliel Guangzhou, Guangzhou Automobile Electronics quit his high-paying jobs, and acted in self-talk, collect countless laughter on the stage, set up in Guangzhou club's first talk show, a "Tucao Assembly" contract writer.
But he believes that all the achievements, are derived from their own quiet character.
Workplace introverted biggest misunderstanding is not thinking hard enough, but that introverted limit himself.
Students often have advice on introverted how to do career planning questions:
"Teacher, I'm introverted character, not good at and others to deal with , select Internet, and users often want to deal with, I do not, I do not want to work with people, I am not strong, will not refuse, will not choose , I express ability no, I lied , you said I do design all right? "
In short, I do not like to communicate with others , communication skills I can not, because I'm introverted .
In the eyes of most people, successful people are eloquent , the public face of sections and talk , in most people's eyes extroverted than introverted people seem more likely to succeed . That can only be a really shy person unknown small role yet?
Thousands of small think because introverted, causing occupational Arrested Development - This is an advanced black on the "introverted" in.
Generally speaking, the more introverted people tend to work independently , like one on one, small-scale social , think more before speaking, prefer depth conversations, do not like to be the focus of the crowd .
On the other hand, each character introvert has advantages :
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More thinking: will be more contemplative, there will be more keen observation and sense of smell, this is the advantage.
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Focus stronger: prefer to focus on research things they like, easier to get things to the extreme.
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The ability to be alone: the work to be successful, often have to endure long-term outcome is not, and solitude ability to make people more determined heart.
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Deeper relationships: introverted person like a separate in-depth exchanges, they have accumulated more depth than the general relationships on social gatherings.
1, introvert hidden Leadership
Thousands of small co-workers L, rarely speak always hard at work . But every time as long as there is a collective activity, he has been the first to go, ready to help us snacks and water, and also the last to leave, pick up garbage cleaning.
Although we seldom talk to him, but each event will be spontaneous and L together to prepare and clean up. Do not talk, but can make you feel very warm heart, this is the hidden leadership introverted person .
After all is social emotional communication channel , while talking slapstick is not the only medium of communication. In this society, people are too concerned about the expression of speech, while ignoring the most important emotional communication . Forget seen a word where people like to use words to make up for the gaps in our inner. So when two people quarrel, say the words to one another are many and loud.
接触越多的人越发现，两个人之间出现矛盾不是因为不说话而是因为不用心。用心是内向者先天自带的能力，他们善于观察，懂得换位思考，又能注意到很多细小的事。所以内向者，是低调的领导者。
“内向”概念之父，著名心理学家荣格提出：
“内向人的能量指向内部，因此他们对自己的内心世界更感兴趣。喜欢独处，喜欢沉浸在自己的世界中。”
内向者不会花很多精力去social，不是不能，而是不愿意。对他们来说，把时间留给自己的爱好与术业，更能带来成就感。
这也是为什么，很多科学家，艺术家，在生活中都不善言辞，甚至有些木讷。而在专业领域，却能一鸣惊人。
爱因斯坦就曾说过：“引导男人走向艺术和科学殿堂的最强烈动机，就是逃避日常生活。”
在独处中，他们培养起敏锐的观察力，深刻的自省力，能自动屏蔽外界干扰，深入思考，冷静分析，高度专注，去挖掘现象背后的本质。
2、提升社交能力，寻找真正的出口
但有的人说，我就是很羡慕那些能在人群中高谈阔论、在朋友聚会时谈笑风生的人，我要怎么提升自己的社交能力呢？
其实，内向性格者表达适当，倘若有行动力强就是智者——关键还是看你的行动力。
你可以去观察公司的顶级产品经理，内向的人也许更多，甚至是有些人看上去外向，而事实上比较“内向”。
那些上一秒在台上慷慨激昂演讲的领导，也许之前还在后台手心出汗，紧张的双腿发抖，他们就是表现的更加沉稳和淡定而已。
都是在自己的社会角色中要表现的更成熟，更老练，更优秀。
爱默生说，“去做你害怕的事，害怕自然就会消逝。”
其实，我们这个社会就是一个又一个社交圈子相交重合、环环相扣的社会，无论你从事什么工作，驰骋于哪个领域，立足于哪个岗位上，都一定离不开与陌生人的沟通交流。
然而，在不断地锻炼、不断地提升自己的过程中，小千相信与此同时，你的自信心、各方面的知识体系也会相应地建立起来。
因此，不要害怕现有的枷锁、把自己封锁在黑暗的牢笼当中。鼓起勇气打破现有的禁锢，才是关键所在。
每个人都有自己的舒适区，我们只有将自己推出舒适区，进入不舒适区才能真正的进步。
不知道如何沟通、不知道如何训练自己，认为自己就是不行，才是内向者的最大问题。
性格仅仅是人的特质，并没有好坏之分，内向者并没有错，不要被那些对内向的“误解”而迷失自己。无论外向还是内向，希望你活成你原本的样子……拥抱那个躲在角落不爱说话的你，拥抱那个喋喋不休没有安全的你，那才是你原本的模样，接受他远比疏远他更好。