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On May 1 this year, two younger relatives got married, and I went back to my hometown in Leshan.
Thanks to them, I have been eating all the way for the past few days!
From the county town to the countryside, and from the countryside to the restaurants, restaurants, and roadside stalls in the central district of Leshan City.
My favorite is still the Yilaobajiaojiao Beef on Huiyuan Street opposite the Changjiang City in Leshan.
well! I couldn't help eating more, and I gained weight again!
02
To be honest, what I really gained when I went back to my hometown in Leshan this time was not just to eat, but to meet several relatives and friends who told me:
Xiaoheng, you still have to do it!
Those videos sent by the circle of friends
Learning English and doing fitness
People are also thinner, longer and younger
Hahaha!
I was flattered to hear it, and then I was able to get up and continue to say something smug.
I said it before:
I want to make the circle I live in better, and the circle I live in becomes better, which is my unshirkable obligation.
03
To be honest, I used to be very afraid of eating at parties.
It's very awkward, I don't know what to say, and it seems that I have nothing to say.
In the eyes of my relatives, I am a quiet, shy, and honest doll
Um! What's more, I can only play games and play on the computer.
Because, at that time, I could only get positive feedback from computers and games, and I was addicted to them for a while, unable to extricate myself.
04
The game is addictive because of that - instant feedback!
In the game, you only need to tap lightly, and there will be corresponding pictures and actions presented.
If you hit it, there will be blood loss damage, and it will also display the amount of damage.
There is a very clear certainty between your actions and the results .
It can be said this way: life is to pursue certainty in uncertainty.
In fact, it's not just about playing games, it's also the same for playing cards, watching dramas, watching videos, and gathering with relatives and friends.
The certainty pursued here is: momentary pleasure!
There is no distinction between them.
But many people of the older generation, in their cognition, think that playing games is bad, but playing cards should be more advanced.
In fact, many people are unwilling to contact new things, new knowledge, and new cognitions in order to maintain their original certainty and not be destroyed.
why? One is a waste of brains, and the other is that it is not necessary, because it is easy to be hurt by the self-esteem of "why I can't learn".
05
I was just thinking, if you like doing something, you can get instant feedback on it, and get a good emotional state, you won't feel tired.
Just like: playing games, playing cards, watching TV, attending gatherings between relatives and friends.
Why do we say that the entertainment and service industries will have more opportunities to make money from now to the future. (This is because, at present, material things are relatively abundant, but everyone’s spiritual needs for a good emotional state, physical health, respect from others, freedom of labor , etc. , will become ——just needed .)
However, compared with studying and exercising, it is really boring, boring, and easy to be hit.
Why do I work so hard, but I still don’t understand, I can’t learn!
Am I really more stupid than him?
No, am I not stupid?
In order to prove that I am not stupid, I can't work too hard.
If I try hard and still can't learn, then I'm really stupid.
I don't do it! ! !
This way of thinking is the subconscious mind of many people.
It's at the bottom, governing our behavior and decisions, and you may not even be aware of it.
06
What, what should I do?
I think I have been exercising for more than three years. From the initial momentary interest, after two or three times, it is really painful.
Once when I came home from a workout, I was paralyzed in the elevator and almost couldn't get out.
Note: Fortunately, the matter of fitness exercise does not prove that I am stupid, it only shows that my body was not good at the time.
Since then, I have endured alone, to gradually being able to bear it, and then slowly accepting it, until now I enjoy it now and then.
For more than three years, I began to gain more and more positive feedback from fitness.
I am more energetic, and I will not feel tired after working continuously for several hours. Even if I am tired, take a rest for a while, and the battery will be fully charged again;
It is easier to concentrate, what you want to do, and you can calm down in a short time for analysis and thinking;
A difficult thing, dare to think about it, and have the heart to try to do it;
Even if it's one thing, I can't do it well, but I will give myself more time, and I believe that as long as the direction is right, I will achieve it one day.
For example, I am starting now - learning English from scratch, I estimate that it will take 3 years, and it will be 5 years longer, as if I am going to the gym now.
I stick to it for 3 to 5 years, and it will probably become a habit by then. (It should be noted that it does not mean that "habit" is simple and easy. My understanding is: Habit is a feeling that you will feel uncomfortable if you don't do it. It's like I am writing this official account article now, I do it In this video, I have been doing self-media to share personal growth over the years.)
07
Immediate feedback , the harvest is dopamine, and it is immediate pleasure!
It's the result, it's greed, it's addiction!
But it requires external stimuli, and you need to take the initiative to obtain them.
Can't stop, you will feel unhappy if you stop.
And long-term delayed gratification is endorphins!
It's the process, it's the growth, it's always cool!
It is generated from within and passively produced.
In my opinion, this is the greatest wealth of a person, what do you think?
Follow Xiaoheng's official account, video account, and circle of friends, let's grow together!
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