It's 2023, have you reached the legal age, then this detailed guide for excellent coders to choose candidates, you must use it, remember to thank Brother Gou after reading it!
Table of contents
1. For marriage, let’s think about these few things first
1. Deciding to get married too soon?
2. One or both parties are eager to get married?
3. The level of understanding each other is too narrow?
4. Do both people have the same expectations?
5. Does one or both have serious personality issues?
3. Only when you are healthy can your marriage be healthy
3. Remember what you once swore
1. For marriage, let’s think about these few things first
1. Deciding to get married too soon?
When two people have only been dating for a few weeks or months, and they are ready to make a marriage decision related to a lifetime of happiness, such a decision is more fantasy than reality. The decision to marry too quickly will bring a great crisis to the marriage. However, couples who have only been married for two years are far from the former. It's like a blind date at home. Many times, due to too much pressure, age and other factors, people feel that they get married in a hurry. There is a great danger in doing so. In fact, the first blind date can also see people into their souls, at most it is to see the other person's appearance.
2. One or both parties are eager to get married?
There is a rush to get married, either because of the wishes of the family, or because of the excitement about the upcoming wedding. Yes, marriage does make people feel happy, but don't be dazzled by happiness, because marriage is a major event, and there is no rush. Once my family introduced someone to me, and I thought he was very nice. One night, I even dreamed of getting married, and I woke up smiling. If you are destined to be with this person in this life, then please turn off the tap of happiness a little bit, and let happiness flow slowly and long. Don't rush to turn the switch too much, be careful that the water source will be cut off one day.
3. The level of understanding each other is too narrow?
Many people have known each other for a long time and communicated for a long time, but the level of acquaintance is still very narrow. It is still important to maximize the level of interaction between two people. If you have identified this person, then spend as much time as possible with the future him now. Sometimes I choose the morning to see what kind of breakfast he buys; sometimes I choose the night to see his bedtime habits and sleeping habits; When you are under a lot of pressure, do you get angry at you regardless, or everything becomes impatient, or is it more warm and makes people feel that he is more responsible and dependent? Sometimes it depends on how he spends money, is it generous? I can't save money, or I'm too stingy to go out to play, and I would rather walk a little farther to find a cheap hotel. Sometimes I watch playing with children, the young and the young and the young.
4. Do both people have the same expectations?
If two people want to live a comfortable life, it is not a problem to go back to the city where they went to university together and live an ordinary life; if two people want to live in a high-rise building and drive an Audi, and hope that their future children can live in the city, Then staying in Beijing together to work together and encourage each other is very good. But don’t get married. One thinks that the subway is too crowded and wants to go back to his hometown all day long. The other works overtime all day and hears too many complaints when he comes home. Have you ever thought that I’m a code writer and my physical strength is not good enough? Do you want to go back to your hometown to study for the mutton kebab test?
5. Does one or both have serious personality issues?
If you have reached the age of marriage, then please don’t be like a high school girl who can’t walk when you see a handsome guy, because when it’s time for rice, oil and salt, a handsome guy can’t play the role of a spoonful of salt in the pot. Another example is that the subject has a bad temper and even wants to beat someone, even drinking and beating someone. Playful, addicted to drinking, jealous, etc. These all need to be paid attention to before marriage, if you don't pay attention, you will be in danger.
2. Describe your ideal object
The more clearly we describe our ideal partner, the easier it is for us to find him. Instead of forgetting everything because of a momentary touch, of course, no one is perfect, let's try our best to make the advantages outweigh the disadvantages.
1. Personality
Do you want the other person to be quiet, a little shy, or talkative and sociable?
Do you want the other person to be cautious and orderly in thought, or generalized and informal?
Do you want the other person to be funny or serious;
Do you like to be strong, independent or more let you make decisions;
Do you like the subtle or the more blunt?
2. Smart
Someone wants to find a man, and this man is a genius. Hehe, in fact, this is not very good. It is better for two people to be together if the intelligence gap is not too big. In stable marriages, marriages are usually best when two people are of similar intelligence, regardless of IQ. People have different types and degrees of intelligence. Just imagine how smart you want your partner to be, and what kind of intelligence he has. For example, when two people go to a movie, do you want the other person to analyze and analyze the message the movie wants to express after watching it, or talk about the director’s deeds in a more paparazzi style, or share the feeling the movie brought to him?
3. Appearance
Different people like different appearances, for example, some people like little pigs, of course, this can be considered as performance art. What kind of taste do you have, just taste it slowly
4. Ambition
For many men and women, different ambitions are the number one killer of their marriages. This is just like what I said just now, one wants to drive a good car, and the other wants to go back to his hometown to live a small and comfortable life, this will not work. As long as the time comes, one of them will part ways immediately on impulse.
5. Attractiveness
Attractiveness is very important to have a long and happy marriage. If it is just because of the urging of the parents or the most primitive attraction between the man and the woman, it is very unreliable.
6. Spirituality
Regarding belief, of course, belief is not just about religion or worship, but more about a belief deep in our hearts. Faith is the inner world of people. They know that the degree of life is not only what they see and hear, but also the answer in our heart.
7. Creativity
Artists, poets and musicians are not the only ones who can express creativity. Creative outbursts are most often seen among ordinary people. With genuine love and creativity, lovers can enjoy their time together to the fullest.
8. Sincerity
I think the sincerity of love is the true expression of oneself, the inner sincerity to the other party and the physical loyalty.
3. Only when you are healthy can your marriage be healthy
Health is not about physical problems, but psychological.
1. Find a reason
Find a reason to love unconditionally, so that you can give to marriage completely without any worries.
2. Try to be yourself
Try to be yourself. To find your own strengths, of course, don't be too narcissistic. In this way, you will feel that you are worthy of being loved, and you don't need to be hypocritical to please others.
3. Remember what you once swore
There will always be a day when people get bored with the same thing. For example, your partner, maybe you look at her like a fairy now, and you don’t want to marry her, but it’s been a long time. So you need to keep trying to love yourself and remember your oath when you put on the ring.
--------------
lemon fruit on tree
procedural life you and me
i'm a dog
--------------
// 他俩并不能用==，找对象也是如此
var obj = new Object();
var obj1 = {};