circles and snares

In principle, technical people do not need any connections. The reason we people need connections is because of our lives. To be honest, things like starting a business, expanding your horizons, you don’t need any personal connections at all; and even if you use your connections, you can find out after a summary that for such a purposeful thing, the role of connections is always related to pros and cons. whatever.

But after all, everyone is a person, and they need some friends and some social activities, so that some personal connections will naturally be formed. We technical people are not businessmen, not officials, let alone mixed society. We rely on our ability. We shouldn't be so snobbish and so purposeful in doing things. Unless you're slick and good at acting, it's going to look like you're meeting them just to do business with them. Why is everyone making such progress?

Don't be so purposeful in making friends. There is another meaning here, which means that you should not draw a range for your future friends subjectively. As long as there is some chat, or even if there is no chat, but if you can stay in everything, you can be friends. That kind of view that you need to befriend someone because of how you are, is too vulgar, too low-level, and too uninteresting. If you were really like that, not many people would want to associate with you.

Another piece of advice that may be specifically aimed at technical personnel in the IT industry is that you should go to Beijing or Shanghai to work for a few years when you are young. After all, the environment is different, and the people are also different. Comparatively speaking, Guangdong and Shenzhen can be regarded as remote rural areas. You can use these places as a starting point for starting a business, but not as a transit point in your life. In comparison, Beijing is more suitable for you to establish a network of relationships in your life, and you can also make friends with some people who are more intimate and related to technology. On Friday, I chatted with a few people from Huo Ju, and they said that their relationship with a certain person is not that good, so I have been embarrassed to say some things. The reason is that that person has been in a small place and everyone has not known each other, so some words Can't speak.

And naturally make friends also have to be careful, do not encounter liars. It's okay to brag, but the brag is too serious, and the brag is consistent, and the source is not clear, such people should be careful.